I Can't Find A Husband And I'm Afraid To Be Alone

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

You look at a girl: a beautiful, stunning figure, an interesting companion, smart, wise and many different advantages. You communicate with this girl, and her pain is that she is alone. She really wants to meet a man and get married. And it's not clear what these men need, why don't they marry this girl? There are a lot of such girls. Perhaps, in our time, almost everyone has such a friend.

Most often, the phrase "I want to get married" is followed by "I'm afraid to be alone."

Do girls need a man? Get married so as not to be left alone. So the main thing here is not the need to share your life with a man, your achievements at work, to share love, warmth, and care with him.

Also, there is no desire and need to be a female rear for your spouse, to be faith in him, support. Being a mother when he is sick. To be a sister when he is not as perfect as we want, but after all, a sister loves her brother so much that she does not notice his imperfection. To be a wife in maintaining his sense of purpose, achieving material wealth. Being a daughter when he is angry. To be a beloved woman, playing the role of a mistress.

The important thing is that without getting a spouse, a woman is left alone. In this case, the main intention here is "I do not want to be left alone." This is key. In this case, it is worth looking at the desire to get married from the point of view of the fear of loneliness.

Are we really alone? There is a picture in our minds called "I am not alone." Most often, this picture includes a spouse with children and grandchildren in their old age. However, the spouse does not always live to see our death, and at some stage the grandmothers themselves continue to live. Children and grandchildren do not always need old people. For children and grandchildren to need old people, it is necessary to educate them accordingly. At the same time, upbringing should be formed not on a sense of duty, but on a sense of love.

Also, in old age, loneliness will be shared more by a neighbor-grandmother than children. A neighbor is at home all day, you can go to the hospital to sit in line with her, you can cook food with her, sit on a bench near the house, meet all the holidays when children stop by for a couple of hours.

What does it mean to be lonely? It's not just about being without children and a husband. This is also how much the spouse understands his wife, how much he is mentally close or distant to her. You can be lonely with a bunch of children who stop by every day for a couple of hours, but most of the time in our old age we are alone with the understanding that no one needs it. In old age, we are like children, which means that we need as much attention as children, we demand this attention. As grandmothers often say with sadness and resentment that their children so rarely come to them and that this is understandable, they do not have time.

How can you protect yourself from the feeling of loneliness today?

Look around. Your nephews and nieces. Your godchildren. Your friends' children. Children in orphanages. Disabled children. Children of families in need of help. Your grandparents. Your parents. Lonely grandmothers-neighbors. Nursing home. And in the end, homeless cats and dogs. Everyone needs you. You can share time with everyone. Get started now.

Afraid to be alone? Go where there are single grandparents and be with them. Go for a walk with them. Prepare food for them. Go to the store with them. Chat with them, ask about their youth. Become their young friend.

Raise those who care about you. Make time for your children. Become their friend, grown up friend. Give them a hand when they have conflicts with their parents, listen to what difficulties they face, provide them with your rear. Just be with them, empathize with them.

Unite with those who are lonely. Create a club of single people and be friends, support each other. When marrying off (and maybe marrying), attract new ones.

The main thing to remember is that there are always people who will take care of you. There are always those who care about others. There are many examples of nephews helping single aunts and uncles. Children helped their parents' friends. And just kind people help lonely grandparents.