2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Criticism is an art to be learned. Every day we give her life, starting from the words: "How could you put this on yourself" and ending: "The world does not notice me at all. How difficult it is to live." We criticize ourselves, others, space, situations, country, world and complain about life. From each sphere, drop by drop, and she, the critic, lives for herself fully without giving us the opportunity to see life. But it perfectly develops the grumbler of life in us
She says all the time: “How can you drive such a dirty car? Where did you put those clothes on, you are already 45 years old, in general? How can you yell at your children like that? How can you have such an unkempt desktop? How can you sketch so much, in general, ugly in your office, etc. Criticism destroys us and what is around us and all our affairs that we do.
We are all infected with this virus badly enough. Criticism is anger and a form of aggression. Because if criticism was something good, then criticizing people would really get good results. Criticism bears a resemblance to vodka. What is common between criticism and alcohol, for which a person has an excessive desire? This is the dose. This will cloud the brain. It is addiction. It is 100% poison. Criticism is addiction. If you think you can live the day without judging anyone. You can't.
What is the main problem with criticism? The main problem with criticism is that we not only say it, but we still think it. And if we can close our mouth, then we cannot close the mouth of our thought. And she runs ahead of me.
How do you know that you are hooked on criticism? There are some criteria that you definitely criticize people.
Criterion 1 … There is a tendency in your life to lose people. You lose relatives, loved ones quite often, friends, colleagues. This does not mean that they all die. It happens like this in a year 5 people, once, and no. They can just leave, move. You can move.
Criterion 2. In my environment there are people with an unpleasant character. And this, too, can manifest your criticism in your life.
Criterion 3 … In my environment, people quarrel, often quarrel. Long-term conflicts, some kind of generic conflicts. A grandmother cannot forgive a grandfather, a nephew does not speak to a granddaughter or something else. It all reacts in this way and criticism rises in our life.
Criterion 4. My company's acquisitions were unsuccessful. We buy something for our home, office, for our business, and this, once, becomes irrelevant. We bought a new program, hired a new employee, and suddenly, due to the changing market, his competence lost its relevance.
Criterion 5 … Unsuccessful partnership. People let me down, my family, my friends, my business.
Criterion 6. There is a lot of competition in my world. In the family, brothers compete with each other. In the office, people compete with each other. In my business, directors compete with each other. Competition is also a result of criticism.
I just had a quick test for criticism. Therefore, until we realize that we are guaranteed to get rid of this, criticism will ride on top of us. And we can't do anything with you about it. More conscious life! Open your hearts!
Elena Tararina
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