Family Romance

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Romance is different

This is a sinking heart and anticipation, grand gestures and pleasant little things, incredible surprises and stealth kisses. But, as a rule, romance is associated with the candy-bouquet period of the relationship, when everyone in a couple makes an effort, strives to please, to win a partner.

But now all the frontiers have been conquered and the citadels have completely surrendered. The baby is peacefully sniffing at his side (at best). The nights are still without sleep, but for a different reason. Each day is similar to the previous one, like groundhog day. And there is one desire: calmly drink tea (take a shower, take a walk, or your own version). In such conditions, even the very idea of romance seems strange - after all, there is neither time nor energy for it. Over time, children grow older, the nights are quieter, but the routine is addictive: work, home, dinner, homework, maybe something else - exercise equipment, English or friends and … sleep. Yes, there is sex, perhaps romantic evenings with a candlelit dinner, probably family rides and walks. But romance still seems to be the lot of the candy-bouquet period.

Romance doesn't die after marriage. She's changing

In the candy-bouquet period, romance is familiar and understandable. It happens by itself. It is bright, you don't need to look for it, you don't need to make any efforts. In family relationships, things are a little different. Basically, the romance here is quiet and calm, like a forest lake. And, of course, it takes effort.

Relationships are what we attribute to a partner: feelings, emotions, actions, gifts, etc

And romanticism in a relationship is not only vivid impressions, candlelit dinners and surprises. Getting up at night with a child instead of a wife is also romantic. It is romantic to give a foot massage to a tired husband in the evening. Remember in passing the said desire of a partner and fulfill it - what could be more romantic?

So how do you keep romance in your family relationship?

TRADITIONS … It's always very soulful and romantic. Maintain traditions, create new ones. Anything that repeats itself can get bored, or it can become a tradition that will always remind you of your feelings, breathe new thrill and emotions into them.

Ideas:

• your special place,
• celebrating special days of your life only together,
• breakfast in bed on a specific day,
• the same holiday photos every year.

SURPRISES … This is the zest that brings novelty to the relationship. Of course, any gift is a surprise. But in this case we mean a whole set of actions accompanying the gift: surprises (better - clearly planned ones), plot, routes, impressions, etc. It all depends on your imagination and willingness to spend efforts. But be prepared for the fact that your surprises can be received with hostility. After all, a surprise is a way out of your comfort zone. By agreeing to a surprise, a person leaves the familiar and safe territory.

Ideas:

• romantic dinner,
• a walk through the places of childhood,
• fulfillment of an old dream (learn to listen and remember),
• travel surprise,
• surprise with a plot, quest and assistants.

CARE … Let your concern for your loved one not be limited to congratulations on the holiday. Caring is one of the manifestations of love. And it's very romantic.

Ideas:

• cover with a blanket when he fell asleep on a chair,
• massage your feet with a hot towel after a long walk,
• hug after seeing the sadness.

ATTENTIVENESS … Where attention goes, energy flows there. Be attentive to your loved one. This way you will not only fill it with your energy, but you will also be able to add ramantics to your family relationships.

Ideas:

• remember an enthusiastic exclamation in the store (gift idea),
• remember the voiced desire and realize it,
• feel the mood
• notice and respect desires (for example, the desire to be alone or to be silent).

THE TRUST … This is the foundation of a relationship. It is trust that provides that inner relaxation that promotes the emergence of new ideas, as well as openness to receive surprises.

These tips can help maintain romance in family relationships.

But romance is just the whipped cream that spices up fragrant and sweet strawberries (relationships). To make it tasty, the strawberry itself must be tasty. After all, green or rotten strawberries cannot be saved with whipped cream. For strawberries to grow sweet and tasty, you need to work: take care of them, take care of them, grow them with love. So is the relationship.

Marina Petrovich.