2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What is our self-love built on? Most often on the image I AM PERFECT. It is easier for us to love ourselves when we conform to a certain image of ourselves. The basis and foundation for the formation of this image can be films, fairy tales, comments and criticism addressed to us from people dear to us.
What do we have as a result? We form an idea about ourselves and try to fit it. We get frustrated when it doesn't work out. We worry and get upset when our loved ones "correctly" make comments "out of love for us."
Nature never lies. We are part of nature. We forget that we are created unique and with the set of qualities that we need. We admire a rose and do not always cut thorns on it. We forgive the rose for its thorns and admire its aroma, velvety petals, and its beauty. Why don't we forgive ourselves for our thorns? We fight with them and do not accept either in ourselves or in others.
Everything that we are: our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions, our body, our experience, our experiences and worries, our strengths and weaknesses, our ups and downs, our mistakes and our successes, our relationship to others, our worldview … All this is us and we need ourselves, others and the world just the way we were created.
In this case, I'm talking about our constructive, normal expression of ourselves. I'm not talking about destructive, destructive manifestations. I'm talking about the norm, not about the pathology))))
Also, I do not call to say stop to development.
I am saying that we are a world in which there are many things. Accept your own multifaceted world. Don't deny yourself (or a part of yourself). Don't fight things that don't match our imaginations about ourselves or what others think about us.
In my practice, I play a dialogue with those parts of myself that a person wants to get rid of. These are awesome dialogues. I see how the internal struggle comes out and we play it with the client. So much strength and energy to spend on this fight !!! This is not an easy fight. And each time, at the end of the dialogue, it turns out that the struggle is against something that helps to defend and adapt to life situations. When we want to say no to something, without knowing it to the end, we can miss something very important for ourselves.
It is difficult for us to love this struggle in ourselves, it is difficult for us to face our own imperfection, a lot is difficult for us. It is difficult for us to lack self-love.
When we are faced with our imperfection, imperfection, we forget a very important point - others told us about it. Each has its own inability. And this is how we live, and from time to time we can say and “point out” to each other imperfection and imperfection.
We are beautiful in our manifestation. We are a unique case in life. There are no others. People are somewhat similar to each other, but there is no 100% identity.
Love yourself. Accept yourself. Be in touch with yourself.
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