2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Analyzing the experience of different couples, at some point, I thought about how important the role of a mistress or lover is for harmonizing relations between a man and a woman. Maybe someone will think that I have lost my mind and extol treason on a pedestal. Here, I'm not talking about the pedestal at all, but more about the fact that such a role is often underestimated by all participants in the process. Earlier I touched upon other aspects of loyalty and infidelity, but now I would like to dwell on the "relationship" between wife and mistress.
When a wife finds out about the existence of a mistress, few people rejoice, if at all someone rejoices. Although there are such specimens. Everyone reacts in their own way, as in any other difficult life situation. I will not try to teach here the only correct reaction, but I will try to outline a certain angle from which you can look at the situation and notice additional details and even bonuses.
For what, after all, you can say thank you to her "dear" ?!
1. For courage. If a woman decides to be a mistress, to be in a relationship with a married or busy man, she is definitely brave. Do not think that only a woman who is insecure or has some limitations will agree to such a role. Sometimes women do not know that a man is in a relationship, sometimes they know and still agree, each for its own reasons. When the mistress does not know about the wife, the man can pull to the last, the disclosure of this truth. After all, the longer the relationship, the stronger the feelings can be, and then she may not leave, even if she finds out.
An important point is that women are able to work miracles, so mistresses sincerely believe that men will part with their wife or companion. Some do leave, but this rarely happens, there are many more reasons why couples break up. It's clearer and more stable with my wife, a place has already been arranged there, why risk it ?! Moreover, if the feeling of guilt before the wife, children and loved ones is so toxic that it is impossible to survive, and then why risk your own life and health ?! Very often, these things are ignored by the mistress, because, knowing about this, it is difficult for her to remain in a relationship with a busy man. The bottom line is that such a mistress believes in this man, and this gives him strength and courage for new life victories. What is not an argument for you, because you are the one who uses the fruits of these achievements. She boldly risked being and believing in him.
2. For the development of men. This is a great opportunity for your man to develop. Through his mistress, he learns a lot about himself, about life, about relationships, about how other people live, what they do, what they earn. Such a free personal growth consultant. Years of therapy are worth a lot of money and effort, but they are worth it and even more. But more often people are looking for where it is simpler and quieter. Yes, she can also be pretty, this just can help him notice the beauty in you or update this knowledge about you, and also allow him to notice not only beauty, but also what makes you different from a mistress.
3. For strengthening the relationship. I think this is the coolest and most controversial bonus. Yes, I am convinced that a mistress strengthens relationships and “works” for the wife and their marriage. With a mistress, he is more often desired, they are waiting for him, they believe in him, they do not solve everyday issues with him. A satisfied and confident male returns home with a slight sense of guilt, but contented and calm. Yes, and even to you without pretensions, because he himself is not a saint, and then his wife can be capricious. Or he also appreciates you more for living with him so imperfect, and even more likely to give birth and raise children! In general, an ideal woman!
4. For solving your problems. From the above, it becomes clear that many problems that arise in the relationship between husband and wife become irrelevant or reduce their intensity in the presence of a mistress. And here again she "dear" helped, as a psychologist, philosopher and inspirer.
Therefore, it is not always necessary to be angry with her and say that she ruined your life. No, if she wanted, she would really destroy it, and no one would help to be saved. If she still hasn't done so, show respect for this woman and admit to yourself that she has made a huge contribution to your relationship with your husband.
I am not asking you to love her, I am asking you to appreciate her contribution and cherish positive changes in the relationship!
Good luck and harmonious relationships!
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