2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There are fears that can be removed by changing your responses to fear. Using specific response strategies. And there are fears that do not go away from no matter how you try to influence them. They do not leave because they are tied to your needs, which, due to life circumstances, have gone into the negative. Usually, these are background fears and anxieties.
In order to remove them from your life, it is important to understand what needs your fears are connected with.
And in this case, the following summary will be useful to you:
Fear of social evaluation (what will they think of me, what will they say about me, and if they laugh at me) = you lack approval
Fear of death (and if I now die from high blood pressure, stroke, heart attack, lack of air, etc.) = you lack security
Fear of loneliness (I will feel bad if I stay at home alone, if no one is around) = you lack attention / acceptance
Fear of rejection (they won't talk to me, they'll forget me, they'll boycott me, etc.) = you lack acceptance
Fear of betrayal (he / she will cheat on me, he / she will leave me, etc.) = you lack power / acceptance
Fear of losing control (and if I go crazy, and if I lose control, and if I am uncontrollable, and if I do something terrible, etc.) = you lack the need for security / approval
Fear of failure (and if I fail, and if I cannot, and if I fail) = you lack the need for recognition
Fear of conflict (and if everything turns into swearing, and if someone raises a hand at me, and if someone's nerves can't stand) = you lack the need for safety / health
Fear of humiliation (and if someone insults me and tries to humiliate me) = you lack the need for acceptance
Fear of negative change (and if it gets worse further, and if my current efforts are not enough, etc.) = you lack the need for safety / comfort
Which of these background fears are you most interested in?
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