2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Recently, on one of the forums for mothers, I saw an interesting and relevant question for many parents:
What if a child hits mom?
There were many answers and tips, each mother was happy to share her experience, but not all of the tips were really useful. Therefore, I decided to write this short note on what to do and what not to do, when I find myself in such a situation.
First of all, about what NOT to do:
1. Give back. It is impossible to teach a child not to beat another person if you show the opposite with your behavior. If the child hits you, and you lightly slap him in response, he understands that this behavior is acceptable.
2. Demonstrate how unpleasant this child's behavior is to you in an exaggerated form, namely: crying, screaming in pain, ignoring the child, not communicating with him, taking toys, not giving dessert.
3. Shame the child. "Shame on you", "Good kids don't do that." Shame is a social measure, and such a lesson will not be useful to a child.
What to do if a child hits you?
1. As soon as the child hits you, it is important to say that it hurts, it is unpleasant and you cannot beat your mother. The tone is important here. Don't shout, speak calmly and not loudly.
2. Talk about how this behavior is unacceptable. The child himself should not be assessed (Bad child, naughty, etc.). Instead: Mom cannot be beaten. This behavior is unacceptable.
3. If, after these words, the child swings again, then intercept his hand and repeat again that the mother cannot be beaten.
4. Be consistent. You cannot be hit in any situations: regardless of the time of day or where you are.
5. You may have to repeat these steps several times until the child really understands that it is not allowed to beat the other person.
It is important to note that not only the mother cannot be beaten, if the child is swinging at the grandmother, dad or other children, then this should also be suppressed and pronounced in the same way.
I’ll talk about the reasons for childhood aggression and how to safely express it next time.
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