2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How often do you notice that you expected something wonderful and wonderful, for example, from a trip, but as a result it did not happen, or imagined a picture of how a loved one would prepare breakfast and did not wait?
What happens to us when our expectations are not met - we certainly feel disappointed. And this happens almost always when we have unconscious expectations, when we do not admit to ourselves what we expect from this or that event or person.
We can fantasize castles in the air, imagine a prince on a white horse or a wonderful princess, and then face reality as it is, get upset, dismiss it and wait again for the fantasy to come true. And okay, if we deliberately went for it. Usually we ourselves do not really know about our expectations, they are more like a slight sensation of some incomprehensible, unclear mood, this is something very elusive and vague. Often we recognize that we had expectations by the disappointment that we feel, we suddenly catch this feeling of unfulfilled hopes and seem to grieve.
In the meantime, it turns out that some part of life passed without our participation, we did not see those valuable moments that happened, we brushed them off, since this is not at all what we expected. Does it happen with you? I have yes.
I suggest that you make your expectations more conscious. Try to observe yourself, how often do you have expectations? And how often do you get discouraged? What are you really waiting for or wanting? What if you can do it yourself? What are you missing out on in those moments when you look at them as "this is not it"? How can the quality of your life change when you begin to notice the value of what is happening to you right now?
When our expectations become more conscious, when we learn to catch them by the tail, we can do something with them - to understand where they came from, what needs might be behind them, to embody some of these expectations on our own or openly make requests to loved ones, we can simply give up some expectations, especially if we realized that they are unreal. From a state of expectation, we go into a state of action, we become more and more the authors of our life, we learn to see and appreciate what is already now, and not to live in castles in the air.
Try this little practice! And I'm very interested in what your experience will be;) Suddenly you decide to share!
Your Natalia Fried
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