2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Our land is rich in "strong" women. Those women who, in high heels, in a business suit, erotically extinguish at home and stop the herds. Who were brought up by the Komsomol or "Komsomol mothers". Who are always and in everything the first and the best, or strive to be so, or think that this is the meaning of life. Who are ready, even in the middle of the night, to “spread their wings” and protect, save, help out children, husbands, relatives, country, and the world.
"What's wrong with that?" - offended "strong" women or their relatives, friends and employees (who are very comfortable with such women) will ask me. “It's good when a woman is so responsible, purposeful and, at the same time, so loyal and submissive, polite and courteous,” they say in unison.
Yes, at first glance - complete harmony. But for some reason it reminds me of one advertisement for tea, in which it is shown how such a woman walks down the street in high heels, without practically touching the ground, under the admiring glances of men. Only when she, gritting her teeth, "swam" into her apartment and closed the door behind her, she becomes herself, throwing off all these "clothes" and settling down on a soft sofa with a cup of tea, "finding harmony in herself." This woman is lucky, she can find this "harmony" at least at home.
But, as a rule, our "strong woman" does not stop the pace of the lifeguard even at home. She washes, cleans, cooks, cleans, saves and supports. What "harmony in yourself" is there! And finally - the night and the bed. And even if she is lucky and she has a husband, it is not a fact that now there will be something pleasant for her, some kind of "harmony in herself." Throughout all 30, 40, 50 … years her entire body has been purposefully preparing for work and achievements, controlling, restraining, displacing emotions and feelings, nurturing the Ego and suppressing sensations.
Everyone arrived - a dream …
And in the morning - the same picture, which repeats itself for many, many, many years.
Such women are the color of our nation, but a color that will not give rich fruits, because it does not fulfill its main function (this color does not smell and does not attract insects). This color has no time to do such trifles - itself. He has a plan, a block, a boss, a husband, children, parents, repairs … He has no time to stop. He is scared to stop because he can’t do anything else, he was taught to blossom and achieve: “Our motto is communism, our goal is people's happiness. It’s not worth living otherwise.”
Such a woman has lost her integrity, she has lost herself. For her, work and any other activity is the goal of life, she has become tough both physically and spiritually. Her life becomes a constant, indefatigable struggle to resolve her inner conflicts between politeness and honesty, between the all-knowing rational mind and the natural desires of body and soul, between the desire for dominance and the need for submission, between all-encompassing control and sincere faith.
Yes, this conflict has the same destructive and constructive power. And for the time being, while the woman is satisfied with it and creativity "beats over the edge", this conflict carries creative potential. But one day, the natural need for harmony between opposite states nevertheless becomes stronger. The need for the unity of these opposites reminds of oneself by physical and emotional abnormalities or problems in relationships, or in the perception of oneself. And the sooner this requirement makes itself felt, the sooner a woman will have a chance to become herself, in order to find again the integrity and "harmony in herself", which she lost in this life "cockroach race".
Every girl is born whole, ready to fulfill her main mission - to be a woman. Not a sister, mother, daughter, administrative unit or salesperson, but a Woman.
Have you seen how much joy two-year-old girls radiate? The main thing is that during three years, between the third and sixth years of life, adults do not forget that they are facing a child, a girl. Do not forget that you need to "put your heart into her", and not do everything possible to develop her Ego. In order not to make her an "obedient girl" aimed at achieving.
When such "obedient girls", forgive me, "strong" women, come for a consultation with a psychologist or psychotherapist, ready to sincerely open their hearts, I bow my head to them. This important step for them means that their inner conflict has reached a point of no return. This means that the body and soul have conquered the "Komsomol" Ego. This means that she no longer wants to be a good girl, at the cost of giving up her desires.
And let this "obedient girl" feel awkward, revealing her wounded heart to you, and for a long time will not admit her hatred of her mother, fear of her father, resentment against her husband or pain from the loss of love, the first step has already been taken. She becomes a Woman, because she begins to feel more, to distinguish her feelings, desires, to hear her body.
And when, over time, the tension in her neck and pain in her head disappear, the lower back ceases to ache, when she forgets where the liver is, what painful menstrual days are and finally feels “harmony in herself” in bed with her beloved, she will become yourself. Finally, her mind, feelings and sensations in her body will become one. One whole source of joy and love, softness and tenderness.
Such a woman is truly the flower of society. She has not changed, she is the same - in high heels and in a business suit, but her eyes are shining, her voice is pouring, and her gait is mesmerizing.
She understands that she should not “be better”, “be successful”, control everything, be responsible for everyone, she wants to Be Herself. She trusts and believes herself and her feelings. It is holistic. She is no longer torn to shreds by responsibilities, prohibitions, restrictions, complexes and other "no!"
She can do anything - she is a Woman!
This will happen for sure!
I wish you love!
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