How Do You Make A Tough Decision?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How do you make a tough decision?

Veronica was asked to imagine that right now she must decide whether she will confess her love to Cyril at the weekend or not.

Question 1: How do you feel about this decision after 10 minutes?

Answer: "I think I would be worried, but at the same time I was proud of myself that I took the risk and said it first."

Question 2: What would you think of your decision if 10 months had passed?

Answer: “I don't think I will regret it after 10 months. No, I will not. I sincerely want this to work out. Those who do not take risks do not drink champagne!"

Question 3: How do you feel about your decision after 10 years?

Answer: “Regardless of how Kirill reacts, in 10 years the decision to confess his love first will hardly matter. By this time, either we will be happy together, or I will be in a relationship with someone else."

Notice the 10/10/10 rule works! As a result, we have a fairly simple solution:

Veronica needs to take the lead. She will be proud of herself if she does this, and sincerely believes that she will not regret what she did, even if nothing happens with Kirill. But without consciously analyzing the situation according to the 10/10/10 rule, making an important decision seemed extremely difficult to her. Short-term emotions - fear, nervousness, and fear of rejection - were distractions and disincentives.

What happened to Veronica after - you are probably wondering. She did say "I love you" first. In addition, she tried to do everything to change the situation and stop feeling in limbo. Cyril did not confess his love to her. But progress was on the face: he became closer to Veronica. The girl believes that he loves her, that he just needs a little more time to overcome his fear and confess the reciprocity of feelings. In her opinion, the chances that they will be together reach 80%.

The 10/10/10 rule helps you win the emotional game. The feelings that you are experiencing now, at this moment, seem saturated and sharp, but the future - on the contrary, vague. Therefore, the emotions experienced in the present are always in the foreground. The 10/10/10 strategy forces you to change your angle of view: to consider a moment in the future (for example, in 10 months) from the same point that you are looking at the present.

This technique puts your short-term emotions into perspective. This is not at all about ignoring them. They often even help you get what you want in a given situation. But you must not let your emotions get the better of you.

Remembering the contrast of emotions is necessary not only in life, but also at work. For example, if you deliberately avoid serious conversation with your boss, you are letting your emotions get the best of you. If you present the opportunity to have a conversation, then after 10 minutes you will be just as nervous, and after 10 months - will you be glad that you decided on this conversation? Will you breathe a sigh of relief? Or will you feel proud?

But what if you want to reward the work of a great employee and are going to offer him a raise: will you doubt the correctness of your decision in 10 minutes, will you regret what you did after 10 months (suddenly other employees feel left out), and will it be will the raise matter to your business after 10 years?

As you can see, short-term emotions are not always harmful. The 10/10/10 rule suggests that looking at emotions in the long term is not the only correct one. It only proves that the short-term feelings you are experiencing cannot be at the head of the table when you make important and responsible decisions.