Free Space In The Head. Mom's Instruction

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Another problem for women in the "late decree". That is, this is the period when the child has already grown up enough and you can go to work. Or start doing something with your life.

There are people who think that women just get so fucked up for a decree that they can't get their butts off the couch. And they just think how the spouse can sit more comfortably on the neck. In fact, quite a few people want changes in their destiny, especially those ladies who, before the decree, led an active work and social life. Even those who find themselves in children and the household, as a rule, are ready to give their time for this. This is also a kind of career, although society currently believes that this is a rollback and degradation.

If anyone disagrees, believe me that raising children, negotiating with teachers, doctors, coaches, tutors, organizing the life and study of children, feeding, walking and instilling different skills is much more difficult than managing three blockheads in the office. On a kraynyak, if the idiot has completely talked about it and you can fire it. But you can't fire children.

So many ladies come in order to start a new life, do something useful, develop as a person, etc.

Anything can happen, sometimes a woman has to start from scratch, because there is no money, and in the fridge there are "snacks - half a hummock and salty". The child sits at home, but there are no grandparents nearby. And it happens that all the conditions are there. The child is in the kindergarten, the spouse gives money for “whatever you want” for “do something”. You can study, start a business, get a job, buy shares, invest in long-term projects. But it doesn’t work! For which a woman begins to constantly reproach her husband, and gnaw herself for weakness.

But when you begin to talk with them in more detail, it turns out that a woman simply in her mental life, in her head, has no place to unfold something else in her, besides what she already has. What aspects do not take - everything is filled to the brim and even spills over the top.

Where does the "living space" go?

1. If it seems that a child in kindergarten is releasing a lot of free gigabytes and terabytes in his head, then you are a little mistaken. The child can be sent to kindergarten, but everything is out of the head,

you cannot throw out those related to it. In their free time, ladies begin to spend on more detailed housework, thinking about what else will be useful for the child and what will be harmful.

2. Or, for the first time in several years, you allow yourself to go somewhere to put yourself in order. This is important not only for her, but also for her spouse, who can even tell her quite bluntly that in the decree she changed outwardly not for the better. And so do yourself in order to sit at the manicurist and not jerk your limbs, because you already have to run. If you go to the fitness room, then it is also not 15 minutes. Moreover, many women, out of habit, still cannot relax during the procedures and are nervous that they are sitting around and do not turn the dynamo of the household. They often throw this time "for themselves, beloved", giving it to the child and husband, because they are more important. The image of a well-groomed woman begins to fall into dissonance with the image of a good wife and mother. Well … you can do without everything. Get a haircut in a cheap hairdresser, do yourself a manicure, pump the press at home … And at home … you have to clean up - supervise - run after the child.

3. There is a sin of the Internet and social networks. The fact is that sitting with a child, a woman, as a rule, is quite limited in contacts. There is a women's club near the sandbox, but quite often the ladies gather there specific ones, and it’s not so interesting to talk about “pookah” and “peeing” endlessly. Often there is no time and resources for full-fledged contacts. Meet your girlfriend? For 15 minutes while the child is asleep and all the necessary household chores have already been completed? This is "hello kagdela, I was glad to see, smack-smack" But you can run into the network every 5 minutes and virtually communicate, discuss some news, share impressions and events. Receive, in the end, approval, support and communicate with people of their level and circle of interests. Free faith appeared? There! In the thick of internet events and online friends.

4. A woman who wants a change will certainly take a lot of time trying to improve herself. Why try? Because there is no real time. There are books, websites, articles, expert advice. But everything is "not in the horse feed", because all this can be read, and even outlined, but not rooted in the head. I sowed the good, the smart, the eternal into my head, but it did not give roots and develops there in the form of an eternally stored seed, which is regularly shaken up.

5. A relationship with a husband also takes a lot of time. Most of them are in the head. The spouse in real life is present briefly in the evening and in the morning. On weekends, he may be physically present nearby, but his psyche may be busy destroying zombies or shooting at tanks. Question: how to establish contact with him? What to think of, how to say, how to interest, attract, draw attention? What will he say? What does he think? How will he rate this or that? These thoughts can be shoveled for hours during unoccupied sleep time.

6. Self-deprecation. No, this is not self-improvement from point 4, because here all the goals have already been lost, there is a feeling of the futility of their efforts. Why doesn't it work? What's wrong with me? Yesterday I got angry with my husband and screamed. I became completely hysterical. What a disgrace! I'll stay like that for the rest of my life.

And these are the main options, many have something else in their heads.

What do you think I'll say now that the evil society of women does not understand?

Here women do not understand themselves. In order to buy new furniture for an apartment, you need to somehow rearrange the old one, use it more rationally, or even throw something out altogether. Even if you are surfing the Internet or watching TV shows, your head is still, oh, how busy it is with all these intricacies, relationships and nuances. Even kotegs to overwhelm takes a certain amount of attention and time. After all, you will not copy and paste the same cat from month to month. In order to start changing something, you need to clean up the free space in your head. Make it there, t.s. construction site. Without this, no plans will work.