2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Invisible threads connect us with other people: partner, children, relatives, friends. The very first and strongest bond is undoubtedly the bond with the mother. First, the child is connected to the mother by the umbilical cord, this is a real physical connection, then the physical connection is replaced by an emotional, energetic one. A father is needed for the timely separation from the mother. When it is absent or its role is insignificant, the threads of the mother's connection with the child can become so numerous and strong that the mother can resemble a spider that has tied its victim “hand and foot”. And it happens that a mother has been living her own life for a long time, and the grown "child" still thinks that he is dependent on his mother and gossip with her.
Practical example
Natasha is "over thirty", her parents divorced when the girl was six years old. Natasha lives alone, but she verifies all her actions with her mother's assessment, constantly striving to please her. Realizing that too close a connection with her mother limits her actions, Natasha wants more independence in her life. Natasha drew her relationship with her mother as a metaphor. - I am an ant, and a spider is my mother. It is important for her to watch, follow my every step, control. And the ant is scared, he is tied to a thread.
- How did it happen that a spider gave birth to an ant? - An arthropod ant, like a spider. With wings he looks like a dad. His dad is a hummingbird.
- How did the bird and the spider get together? - First, the spider lured the bird into its nest, and then tangled it with a cobweb to sit in the nest. The hummingbird began to defend itself, peck at the spider, and fell from the nest onto the grass, after falling it feels disappointment, sits on a branch, cannot fly.
I would like to paint the hummingbird so that it has hope for a better future.
- What does a hummingbird feel about an ant? - Compassion. "At least you run away." - What does the ant want? - For an ant, a thread is a support, wants to crawl to the grass, live there. Jump off, flap your wings. You have to train to fly.
- How does the grass attract ants? “Weed is freedom. Green is the color of joy and optimism. - The grass is the same color as the hummingbird. What does this mean? - It turns out that I strive to accept my father. Mom always rejected him and made fun of him. And I look like my dad and my mother, and at the same time I am red. It's like my personality. - What can an ant do to free itself from the cobweb and end up on the grass? - He may ask the hummingbird to cut the thread with its beak. - I do not see in the picture that the ant is tied to a thread. You said that: "For an ant, a thread is a support." It seems to me that his captivity is fiction. - Yes, indeed, the ant simply rests on a string. This means that he can jump into the grass or crawl onto a branch to a hummingbird. And if he wants, he can rely on the cobweb again. - How does the ant feel? “Okay, He understands that he has a choice. And being captured in a spider's web is his fantasy. When some of the attention habitually directed to the mother is transferred to the father, dependence on the mother is reduced. At the same time, Natasha's stability and calmness increases, since she has an additional support in the form of a second parental figure - her father. Natasha even came up with a poem: "I am a free man, but with my dad and mom I am forever."
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