SEX WITHOUT COMMITMENT

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Today I would like to talk about why a girl, a woman needs a so-called relationship "for health" or sex without obligations. That is, initially, in a couple, a man and a woman agreed only on the intimate side of their relationship without a family perspective, because they are "adults and have their own needs." This is not good, not bad, but let's see what happens on the part of girls, women in such pastimes.

The natural need, the desire of a woman, is to keep what is. In any relationship, she tries to invest, one way or another, her energy, time, attention. If a girl says that sex for the sake of sex is possible for her, then there is a certain amount of cunning in front of herself, on the surface - the adult attitude of a mature person to his natural needs. And deep down - fear of a new relationship "with continuation", lack of confidence in oneself, one's suitability, one's significance, value, disrespect for one's body.

And, even participating in such a relationship without obligations, she unconsciously seeks to maintain at least this format. The usual story of how this "adult" approach ends is falling in love with your partner and the desire to continue, the desire to move to the next level. While the male partner, as was initially set up only for pleasure and pleasant pastime, and now is in no hurry to part with freedom in "relationships".

Even if a girl, a woman, initially entered an open relationship with a sincere intention regarding intimacy without obligations, then in these relationships themselves comes the desire to strengthen these relationships, preserve, and take care of their lover. This is the feminine nature, perfected over the centuries, the female constitution itself is arranged like this. And if a girl enters such a relationship, already carried away (with the thought "now I will agree to just sex, and then I will charm him, she will not go anywhere from me"), then she leaves them with an even more broken heart and lower self-esteem skirting boards.

Sexual relationships that began with sex rarely grow into anything more when they "lived happily ever after." But what about the desire for intimacy? For a woman, the desire for sex is the desire to have a closer connection with the LOVE person from whom she wants children. If this is not the case, then the girl has either a deep psychological trauma, or a strong disappointment in herself, a lack of a sense of her worth. By and large, all so-called women of easy virtue are lonely, unhappy girls who really want to be loved, but do not believe that it is possible for them (or they are afraid that a serious relationship will bring them pain and suffering).

If a girl enters into a relationship for any other benefits (money, comfort, connections, desire to advance in her career, revenge for treason, etc.), then this speaks of absolute disrespect for her body, lack of confidence in her own capabilities, self-distrust, misunderstanding how to achieve what you want differently, in a different way. Sometimes it seems that this method is the easiest, but it is an illusion. The human body is his home, it is the container of himself, the female body is also the container of her future children.

Whether or not it is worth having sex without love is up to you, this article is not condemnation or moralizing, this is an explanation of why this is happening. A woman only nourishes and enjoys the sex that happens with her beloved, when this is an intimate act of two people who love each other, this is making love, the creation of love. Sex without love is always a COMPENSATION for its absence, an attempt to fill at least something, at least somehow, your natural desire to create love, support it and preserve it. A woman's natural need is not for sex, her natural need is to be in love.