2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you had, are, are ending, in the recent or distant past, a relationship with a narcissistic person ended, and you are still thinking how to take revenge on him, then let's talk about it.
It's not an easy topic to take revenge on a narcissist. In fact, in the direct sense of the word "revenge" is almost impossible. Because revenge on oneself presupposes some kind of sweetness, feedback. To see on the face of a person suffering, remorse, guilt, some kind of apology. But you won't get it. The narcissist is not the person who will apologize. Narcissists almost never apologize. Never! Even if they do it, it is very nominally. The fact is happening, but you do not feel that the person is repentant. That is, if a person repents, then in a greater degree of probability this person is not a narcissist.
Therefore, if you have a pure narcissist in front of you and you want to take revenge on him - what is it? This is when you have been hurt and you want to hurt another person back. The only way more or less consistent with this goal is to simply forget about it. Forget forever! Honestly. But not just pretend that I have forgotten, but forget! Forget, stop feeling feelings for him, stop feeling any hopes for him, feelings, hopes, pains, anger, forget everything.
In previous articles, I told you how to forgive an offense, how to let go of an offense, how to forgive a person. This is what you have to do, but do with yourself. And it will hurt him the most precisely because you do not suffer from the experience and parting with him. He will be most hurt if he does not see any feedback from you. If he writes to you or calls you, stop answering his SMS, his calls. Or answer, but very coldly, as if you are talking at work, moreover, as with a former boss, even with the boss before last, from your first job, which you have outgrown thirty times. It will be painful for the narcissist, but you will never know about it. That is, you will not have sweets from revenge on the narcissist.
Another great way for you to get revenge on a narcissist is to simply set up, arrange your personal life. Find a person who suits you, who will be a soul for you, for whom you will be a soul. This is exactly the warm, sincere, tender relationship that you dreamed of when you entered into a relationship with a narcissist. And just be happy. And that's it. It will hurt him, but you will never know about it.
Why? Because the narcissist does not have this self, inner fulfillment. He only has a mask. This is the mask he will demonstrate to you. Even if you meet again three hundred times after you find your own happiness, and completely turn off emotions in his direction, he will not show it to you in any way. No way. He will hold the mask, keep the face, smile. More often than not, this is how it happens.
Well, and therefore, by and large, note all the aspirations to take revenge on the narcissist. Live your life. This will be the best revenge, and the best continuation of life for you after the narcissistic person. Remember that you are entitled to your own happiness, that everything is fine with you, that you are healthy. After a relationship with a narcissist, this feels problematic. Therefore, with your normalcy, you enter into new relationships, love and be loved in them. This will be revenge and joy for yourself.
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