2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A woman who has not suffered cannot be satisfied. However, like a man.
Since I am a man, and statistically, I have to deal with women much more often due to my work duty, I will turn to women. But all this is entirely relevant, including for men.
So…
Whatever a man does, says, or manifests - everything will be not enough for a woman who has not sprouted through her own ideals, ideas and childhood dreams.
As long as you have an idea of the form in which happiness should come to you, you will not notice happiness itself, you will miss it. You will pass by every moment, devaluing, criticizing. Everything will not be enough for you and always a little "not right."
As long as hopes for achieving the very, very image-ideal are alive in you, you will miss the very thing.
I will not be able to show it to you, I will not be able to prove it to you, but one day you may discover it. Itself. When the time comes, when all the bottom ends will be examined for the most valuable, when bit by bit the valuable will be discovered, when your own dough will be kneaded out of it, flavored with the warm palms of your attention, well, until your "bun" itself is baked to readiness.
After all, you have read the tale of the Frog Princess. This example is more likely for men, the story for everyone is similar to a fairy tale: happiness is something that at the first moment looks exactly like a frog, but in the next, with due attention and humility, it can reveal itself as a princess.
For women, there is another fairy tale - about Emel or Ivan the Fool … No matter how a woman swaggers while reading this post, surrender to what actually comes to you as happiness, but how happiness does not look to you to the end, it is not easy to surrender to such a thing. … Not just because you cannot immediately see happiness in it - ideas and representations interfere. Ideas about how good and how right, how and what I love, and what I need and in what form.
Happiness knocks at your doors every day, only you miss it, almost all of them, except for a few of the most daring, tired of their own self-deception, tired of dramas and their own suffering performances, tired of being special and unique in their own unhappiness.
Everyone is looking for happiness, but they are trying to navigate by packaging, by box. This is the only, but such an elusive trap: what the packaging of what you are looking for is unknown. And you are still reaching out and reaching for a specific package, for a beautiful box, for images, hopes and ideals, losing the essence, missing the content. At this very moment, Happiness is knocking at your doors, crumpled at your doorstep, ready to embrace you with open arms - as you are.
Happiness is always ready, but it seems that you are still not ready … After all, if you accept everything that is, accept all this in its entirety, tired, stop fighting and improve yourself, you will lose the drama in your life, you will lose melancholy and sadness, lose ALL without exception of difficulties, lose ALL without exception problems. Lose self-pity, your own suffering, your own difficult and even probably difficult fate, which makes you special and seems so valuable to you.
The price of happiness is great. It is your misfortune
Happiness costs exactly that much: you will have to give up all your unhappiness, all your own history, the history of your formation, development, maturation, growth and overcoming for it. And in the end, you lose this very opportunity at least somewhere, at least in something to discern at least a tiny bit of misfortune.
Happiness is knocking at your doors, but not at all in the form that you would expect, how you imagined it and how you planned it. And only for this reason, for this one and only reason THE PRESENTyou miss happiness from time to time. It is too simple, too accessible, too close, transparent. It has no drama, no theatrical performance, no history, and nothing special. You cannot convey this happiness to anyone, it will not emphasize your image and will not make you better, but you can feel it, and having felt it, having discerned and resigned yourself, you will be able to stay with it. Of course, only on condition that this is what is valuable to you right now.
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