2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Good girls don't get mad! They don't like evil people! You can't be angry with your loved ones! How often have we heard these phrases since childhood?
So what is anger and do we need it?
What happens during an explosion of anger at the biochemical level? Our body is ready to fight with lightning speed thanks to the release of the hormones catecholamines and cortisol in high concentration. Thousands of a second! The influence of the cerebral cortex at such a speed is impossible. This is why it is impossible to suppress the emotion of anger. It's instinct.
The good news is that anger has many shades. Imagine it on a scale from 0 to 10. At the beginning are discomfort, discontent, irritation, anger, annoyance, anger. The end of the scale is rage. At the beginning of the scale, the intensity of emotions is less due to the lower concentration of hormones. The body responds more slowly. The emotion is recognized. And there is a choice of how to react.
Expressed anger is an indicator of unmet need. Something is missing in life, and a person cannot receive it. Ever notice how easy it is to get angry when you are hungry or don't get enough sleep?
And so, if anger is an instinct and the emotions associated with it cannot be suppressed, how to deal with it correctly? Track evil states in order to complete emotional cycles on time and not bring yourself to the middle of the scale.
The peak of the scale is toxic anger (toxic means an intolerable level of emotion) - rage and fury
If it is difficult to immediately determine how many points you are angry with, then start small. Choose three grades: I’m angry, I’m very angry, I’m about to lose it. If you are attacked, the appropriate response is to defend yourself and fight.
If you find out problematic issues with your partner and value the relationship, then an adequate response is to voice the emotion to your partner and an environmentally friendly way for yourself and for him to complete the emotional cycle:
- walk quickly
- breathe
- run
- perform special exercises
-shout loudly (not at someone, but for example in a forest or field)
If it is inappropriate, then postpone the reaction and remember that the body needs to be completed by action, otherwise the amount of unreacted evil cycles, biochemical waste will turn into quality. The longer it accumulates, the more unpleasant the color, the smell, and the sensation of the "splash". But if you express emotions on time, solving problems as you enter, a feeling of self-confidence is manifested, regardless of the opinions of others, and at the same time harmony in relations with others is maintained.
So think what you like best!
And the positive meaning of feelings is as follows: any of them is energy in its pure form, which is given to us to overcome an obstacle, to solve a problem. And energy with a margin! As they say there, everyone is given a test according to his strength.
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