What Should A Grown Man Look Like To Meet A Younger Lady?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

There is such a widespread opinion: only respectable ladies face some problems in communicating with the age of 40+. But men, they say, are like good cognac: the older - the more expensive and the more women are attracted to them. And they don't have any problems; neither dating girls, nor socializing, nor creating relationships. In fact, this is not the case. After 40-45 years, men and women equally face some difficulties in communication with the opposite sex. But if many books are published for women on the topic "How to get married after forty", then for men such publications, as a rule, are not created. And articles and books from the series "Pickup and Relationships for Dummies" are usually designed for young men between 18 and 25 years old. As a rule, they are no longer suitable for veterans.

So: this article was written specifically for single men, aged 40+, who have difficulties in meeting girls and at the stage of starting a relationship. Especially - for those who wish to meet girls of active reproductive age up to 35 years old, to create a serious relationship. Because, unlike women 45+, who, as a rule, by this age already have children, their own housing, profession and status (and they, like men, only need sex and communication), young girls really need all this, preferably immediately. Hence, the following pattern operates here:

The lower a grown man descends according to a woman's age,

the higher the bar of requirements for him rises

And this must be taken into account.

Communication between a woman and a man is almost always directed

to improve her status and increase opportunities in life

The faster the better. As a last resort - for the future

This is because it is genetically inherent: as a result of communication with a man, regardless of his age, a girl can become pregnant and give birth to a child. This requires, at least for 14-20 years (until the child grows up), a noticeable increase in the material resources of a given mother. In addition, the social status of the child's father, his position in society is also important: after all, the child's successful start into adulthood will depend on this. That is, it is desirable that a man appears to be prosperous from the point of view of having some resources, at least not an ordinary status. Plus, he created a positive impression that his vital activity, health, desire to follow the innovations of life, will be enough for at least 15 years.

It is important that all these requests to the address of a man are formed in girls at the level of unconscious attitudes. They are rarely realized in a clear way, as described by me, but this does not mean that they are not. They are. Therefore, getting acquainted with a girl, in order to be taken seriously, an adult man is obliged, in his image, in the manner of presentation itself, to create in her the appropriate associations: his longevity, success, status, reliability. In any order. It will turn out to be done - the girl will be yours. It will not work - it will just be a waste of time and money, painful for male pride. Because girls, especially young ones (25-35 years old) and oriented towards success in life, are often very tough and critical of men. My young clients have spoken out many times about adult men, something like this:

Who is not in the top, he is in the pope! (That's putting it mildly)

Those who are not in the top - into the furnace

Grown men who do not know how to present themselves correctly at the moment of meeting and starting a relationship are doomed to buy girls: to present them with gifts almost from the first meeting; give money even when the relationship has not become serious; when it is not even clear whether they will be serious in principle. But, as practice shows, just buying a girl, little prospect. While the girls themselves certainly enjoy it, their men do not benefit from it. After all, girls begin to either openly use them, just "milk", or do not take them seriously, do not see them as Men, and therefore cheat on them, or behave in such a way that they give constant reasons for jealousy.

In order to present myself correctly and cause the correct attitude towards myself as an interesting and promising Man, I give some useful tips:

Life hack: 10 tips for a man 40+ before meeting girls:

1. Remove the hanging belly! It should be understood that a fat hanging belly is not only a sign of supposedly "well-fed success", but also a signal of lack of vital activity and free time, a signal of the approach of many diseases. An adult man with a fat belly is not associated with a man with whom you can be guaranteed to go through life for the next 20 years. This "heavily used running option" may attract women for short-term relationships with merciless exploitation of the man's wallet, but rarely attracts young girls with serious plans. Therefore, first, lose those extra pounds at least from your belly, and the girls will at least start smiling at you.

As I say:

At the age of 40+, do you want to meet a 20+ girl?

No question: lose minus -20 kilograms of your weight and everything is real

I emphasize: you don't need to become a bodybuilder and live in a gym, you just need to get fit. As I jokingly say at trainings:

Be fit (oh) and you will definitely catch up

You will pull yourself up on the horizontal bar, you will also pull back with a woman

Do push-ups from the floor - you will do push-ups in bed with a lady

2. Bring back the hair on the face and body! Modern girls are usually well-groomed and attentive to the nuances of their appearance. They demand the same from men. Let's start with the face. If you have a bald spot on your head, you shouldn't hide it behind carefully grown sparse strands: either make a minimal short haircut in the spirit of Jason Statham's "Carrier", or shave your head like Vin Diesel. If you have a beautiful head of hair - make a fashionable haircut (such as shaved temples, comb, etc.). I do not advise growing pigtails: according to polls, few people like them outside of bike-and-rock culture.

If you have a gray mustache and beard, then it is better to either shave them off altogether, or go to a barber salon and think over their modern design. Maybe even dye it black, or keep a beard and mustache in the size of just a few days of growth. The fact is that what some men consider to be their pride, causes only chuckles in girls behind a man's back. In addition, the statistics of my professional observations show that men with gray beards and mustaches are cheated more often by girls. They, of course, do not abandon them as long as the man has money, but they still perceive them as "daddies" and subconsciously gravitate towards younger and black-bearded ones. So, hear me on this issue, no offense.

When I do surveys, girls often point out to me that they don't like a man's overgrown neck (I advise you to shave yourself). In countries with European culture, many girls also do not like overgrown eyebrows and the same armpits. Even the smallest tameness of your body hair can make you more attractive. Your sleazy hair should not stand between you and your girlfriend!

3. Heal, paste and whiten your teeth! Remember this simple truth:

A pleasant smile with intact teeth - a recommendation for kissing

Remember: only don’t look a gift horse in the mouth! You are not a horse! They will look in your teeth and in other places (about this was above)! In addition, it has long been known: money - strives for money! Instead of mindlessly spending money on girls who will later run away from you, preferring younger ones, spend that money on a dentist and orthodontist! Heal, insert or whiten your teeth (especially if you smoke). And see for yourself: the money invested in your teeth will immediately attract girls to you, confident: since you were able to maintain yourself in such an exemplary order, you can also support them and your children.

Anyway, ask yourself: with whom is it more pleasant for you to talk and kiss - with a toothless beauty or a white-toothed one? Two letters, like two missing teeth, fundamentally change the case. Put yourself in the shoes of your future girlfriend and run to the dentist! And let him send me my commission, that I sent you to him and gave me some extra money)))

4. Remove age-related bags under the eyes. At dating trainings, girls told me many times that they really do not like bags under the eyes of men. That it conjures up intense associations with alcoholism, kidney problems, or heavy work at night. In general, a man is either sick, or at the age of 40+ is still injecting for days on end, which means his failure. In general, such a man for 20 years in this world may not last. And I would like …

Therefore, I am telling you with authority: with the current level of development of plastic surgery, an operation to eliminate the bag and rejuvenate the eyelids costs already within a thousand dollars, or even less. A man who plans to go out with a young or youthful wife must find this amount in order to resolve the issue of his correct self-presentation once and for all.

To remove bags under the eyes,

in the 21st century it is not necessary to have a bag of money

You can also say this:

In the 21st century, it is not at all costly to have neat eyelids

After the operation (blepharoplasty), you will just wear sunglasses for two weeks until the bruises go away. And the glasses will suit you too, about this - below, in point # 8. And do not forget to tell your plastic surgeon, as well as your dentist, about the commission for Andrey Zberovsky. My card number on the site))

5. Use winning colors in your clothes! Remember, you can't make a first impression twice. The color of the clothes has a special meaning for this. Know: there are "masculine" colors that traditionally attract the attention of girls, causing them the right associations, and then interest. These are six colors: black (brutal, associated with the skin); white (symbol of neatness and grooming); dark blue (associations with a courageous navy); red (the color of challenge, self-confidence); khaki khaki (associations with the army); yellow (formed over the past 50 years by an association with extreme sports - mountaineering, snowboarding, alpine skiing, yachting, parachutes, motorcycles, etc., where you need to be bright and noticeable). Black-yellow and black-red colors are optimal in a sporty style. In a business outfit or casual, it is best of all - black, dark blue, white. Military or naval styles are self-explanatory with their colors.

6. Make your look easy on girls. One of the problems of the very presentation of adult men is the ambiguity of their image and status: either an official, or a businessman, or a bandit, or “bombed,” or a middle-class manager, etc. Try to have a coherent style that will “read” you like an open book and put you in the right category. If you are an official, you look stern, but not flashy expensive. If you are a businessman, you can look expensive, both in a business image and in a casual style. If you want to seem dangerous - hang on yourself gold, chains, bracelets, seals. Among the girls there are also naive lovers of dangerous men. If you are a manager, be casual, smart and polite.

Keep in mind: girls always pay attention to three elements of men's clothing style: belt, watch, shoes. Since it is these elements that make it possible to form a more or less correct impression of a person - his status, wealth, sense of taste, general composure and fit. In addition, the girls have told me many times that men without belts and without watches cause them associations with parasites and spineless lugs. Let's not create such a perception among girls: a watch, belt and good shoes should always be on you at the moment of acquaintance.

7. Have an expensive accessory or item of clothing. A man of 40+, according to the logic of things, should already take place in life, become someone, achieve something. That must be reflected in his wardrobe and accessories, their quality. It is no coincidence that the concepts of "take place" and "wealthy" are one of the same roots. Even if you are not an oligarch, in order to live up to the expectations of a young woman, be sure to carry something clearly very expensive with you. I will say more: it is not enough to have an expensive car and prestigious housing. You should be connected to this by something at the associative level, to be tied to your body. Otherwise it will look contradictory, like a saddle on a cow. Therefore, even if you do not have an expensive car and a country house, it is important to have either an obviously expensive watch (albeit a fake), or a mobile phone. And also: a well-tailored suit, a shirt or jacket from a prestigious manufacturer, a good leather wallet or briefcase, a gold bracelet, a stylish eyeglass frame or a belt buckle, some kind of "cool" gadgets, etc. Things like this give you better guidance than your own language.

8. Add a spice of sexuality to your outfit. It is important for a 40+ man not to become a sugar daddy sponsor. To associate with a Man, and not a lustful Uncle, add a spice of sexuality to the image. The simplest ways look like this:

- try to wear shirts with short sleeves, like "polo" (in the colors described above).

Strong male hands have a bewitching effect on girls

they ask for them themselves!))

Beautiful female legs are very fond of strong male hands

Beautiful female legs and strong male hands are made for each other

- visit the solarium regularly, as a light tan immediately creates an attractive image of a Traveler and Conqueror for you. Including - women's hearts.

- never wear clothes "a la for growth", with a margin and folds. Clothes should be undersized, just to create the "barely end-to-end" effect. Such a fit of clothes "I am still growing and everything is small" immediately rejuvenates the man, favorably fits his body (albeit not ideal), makes him fit and slender (especially the shoulders, hips and buttocks of men who traditionally attract female attention), wakes up a woman's desire;

- wear fitted clothing. Such clothes also favorably position a man as a Macho, rejuvenate him for twenty years. And this, when a man focuses on girls 20+, you must admit, is not a trifle at all;

- do not hesitate to wear light jumpers, V-neck T-shirts, they make men sexy and girls really like them;

- wear brutal accessories, such as sunglasses (you can put them on your hair), some cool necklaces, men's pendants (such as soldier tokens on a chain, etc.), bracelets, rings "with a beautiful legend", etc. …

- use elements of military, naval (like a la yachting), flight equipment in clothes: some kind of chevrons, shoulder straps, laces, aiguillettes, various thematic stripes, buy such clothes with the correct associations (even cowboy, Asian, imperial, etc.) etc.)

- allow yourself a slight carelessness in your clothes. When your clothes are of high quality, beautiful, fashionable, you can add a slight negligence to it: unbutton two, not one buttons on a white shirt, roll up the sleeves on it, lift up the sleeves on a jumper or sweater, unbutton all the buttons on the polo collar, tie the jumper beautifully on the neck (he himself is behind his back), etc. This easy cowboy style is sure to provide ease in your communication with the girls. Remember:

To create a serious relationship

it is important to start communication easily

Your light, but prestigious image is perfect for this.

9. In the presence of the girl you like, speak loudly and clearly! Many acquaintances happen situationally: they crossed paths at work, sat next to each other, stood next to them, etc. How am I joking:

Then to lie down with the girl,

first you need to stand or sit with her

And it happens that you also need to run after her!)))

(in a good, not manic and violent sense of the word).

To attract attention, interest the girl, make you think of you as a possible friend and relationship partner, take your further appeal to her seriously, start talking a little louder than usual. With beautiful clear diction, bright emotions, pleasant timbre. But without splashing saliva around))

This could be your conversation with a friend or work colleague. When, then, you can appropriately turn to the girl with the words: “We are discussing something here and we need someone else's opinion! For example, yours! After all, you can see from your eyes that you are not only a beautiful girl, but also smart!"

Or you can picture a conversation on the phone where you are supposedly berating your subordinate, relative, or business partner. And then, as if by chance, ask: "Sweet girl, tell me, what do you think: am I right in this situation or not ?!" And tell your future wife some real or fictitious situation. After that, get to know each other, and the conversation will continue over a cup of coffee.

Girls unequivocally say: the loud voice of a correctly speaking man always disposes to himself, since loudness is always a sign of a man's self-confidence; a sign that he has a high social status; at least - a brave person, and not a quiet coward. With such a man you can go to the registry office!

10. Make yourself a beautiful business card. Not all men are good storytellers of jokes and anecdotes. Not everyone can cope with the excitement of a casual acquaintance (especially at work) or a first date. In this case, the girl should take with her that part of you that will not only remind of you, but also correctly complement the impression of you, make it correct. And it shouldn't be your money, or rather, not just the money spent on a date. As from a girl, after a meeting, a man takes away the smell of her perfume, two things can and should be conveyed to a girl: flowers and a business card of a man. I won't talk about flowers specifically: flowers are required at the first meeting! They are also mandatory in case of casual acquaintance anywhere: put the girl in a cafe, and you yourself run after flowers !!!

I will say about business cards: a well-made and expensive business card, where all your regalia are spelled out (both real and invented by you for solidity), very much disposes the girl to continue the dialogue. Because this ornamented piece of cardboard, taken from a beautiful business card holder, will definitely do its job: even if it is then thrown away or lost, it will evoke associations with your success and respectability.

In addition: the indication on the business card of your name and the address of your office (your organization) immediately creates trust in you: after all, you are not hiding anything, which means that most likely you are not married, you do not run from the police or bailiffs. In addition: if a girl shows character, does not write down your phone number or refuses to dictate her mobile number to you, having read the text on the business card, later she can change her mind (this is typical for girls), find you on social networks by the name you specified and make friends. Of course, quite by accident.

In general, make special business cards for meeting girls and do not hesitate: first you will not be forgotten, then they will definitely come home to you! There, you look, and the mother-in-law will drive up!)))

Actually, that's all. Enough for a start. I remind you that this article is not so much about how exactly to meet girls for men 40+, but about how to correctly position yourself at the very moment of meeting girls; how to create an optimal image so that girls are happy to meet and perceive a 40+ man not as a sponsor daddy, but as a possible life partner.