2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How to return to previous sexual relations if partners are together for a long time? Indeed, over time, sexual desire can fade, rarely occurs, sometimes sex can be absent altogether. This problem worries many couples, and in order to understand it, it is necessary to find out the possible reasons for the lack of sex in a relationship.
First of all, partners need to accept the fact that there is a problem and clarify for themselves what is happening in the relationship (sexual relations have become rare, absent or generally do not satisfy one of the partners).
In its psychology, sex resembles the psychosomatics of the couple's organism, and, accordingly, is a symptom of a relationship disorder. Quite often, accumulated resentment, anger, and dissatisfaction can be the basis of rare sexual relations or their absence. For example, a woman loves pleasant signs of attention from her partner (romantic dates, courtship, flowers, gifts (even insignificant)), but a man stops taking such steps, as a result, her sexual desire decreases, dissatisfaction accumulates. The opposite situation - the partner may be offended by the fact that very little time is given to him (a woman works a lot, trying to realize herself in the professional sphere, devotes all her free time to her hobby and is not at all interested in the emotional side of personal relationships). The result will be the same - the man loses his sexual attraction to the woman. There can be many options for mutual grievances in a couple.
The second fairly common reason for the lack of sex in a couple is the strong merging of partners (partners are always together, do everything together, have the same hobbies). In this case, over time, one of the partners gets tired of this, gets fed up, begins to feel that he has no free space. As a result, sex (like the peak of confluence) becomes uninteresting and can even be disgusting.
The third reason is that one of the partners has a feeling of shame much stronger than sexual desire (he is ashamed, embarrassed, afraid to be liberated in order to get full satisfaction from sexual relations). Accordingly, this also affects his interest in this area - a person closes in his problem and refuses sex.
In any of the three cases, it is necessary to initiate a conversation on the topic of intimate relationships, during which you need to gently find out the true reasons for the lack of sexual desire in a partner. It is imperative to talk about resentment, irritation, anger, dissatisfaction, about the difficulties in emancipation. In general, talking alone can help. It is also very important to understand which zone of dissatisfaction affects the relationship.
How to renew interest in the intimate sphere among partners? What techniques and exercises can you use?
1. "Yin and Yang" - one of the partners occupies a dominant position in the relationship, the second obeys, then vice versa.
2. In the case of severe violations in the intimate sphere, many sexologists suggest a couple to exclude the usual sexual intercourse and caress of the genitals for several months. In this case, partners can fondle each other in other parts of the body. A similar approach is used in order to restore the sensual part in the couple's relationship, to find other erogenous points. In long-term relationships, it is not uncommon for partners to be interested exclusively in the instinctive satisfaction of their needs, forgetting about the emotional component and the fact that satisfaction can be obtained from ordinary touch.
3. Sex without sound (for example, partners are afraid that they will be heard by passers-by, neighbors, parents).
4. Sex with closed eyes.
five. Porn Roulette - open any porn video at random and try to repeat their actions after the actors. This is not always realistic, but in general, many couples perceive such a game quite interesting.
6. Role-playing games with dressing up.
7. Sex without kisses (if it is customary for a couple to kiss a lot, you can exclude for a while (or reduce) this component of intimate relationships) can add pungency to the sensations.
8. Directly during intercourse, you can practice saying various vulgar words to your partner.
With an effort, intimate life can be restored, but it all depends on both partners. If in a couple someone is not ready to try to understand the essence of the problem, listen and try something new, this indicates a great dissatisfaction in the relationship.
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