2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
His heart was filled with anger, he was careless in relationships, increased distance, over time, becoming more closed and bitter. Pain emanated from his barbs and detachment. He was a kind person, but his consciousness was not available, the understanding of what was happening, for him everything was good and normal. He lost sensitivity to himself and the subtlety of words, fleeting phrases to others. His heart turned to stone.
It was a silent tragedy that was unfolding before my eyes.
So, what I saw and what I want to tell …
A person often experiences difficulties, but sometimes he encounters "blows" from which it is difficult to recover and takes time to recover.
Such blows can be the loss of a job, the death of a loved one, parting with a loved one, public shame, some kind of bummer in an important area.
The listed blows cause pain, and an explosion of emotions inside and sometimes it is unbearable. It is difficult to survive and there is no one to really share and share with.
What are the consequences encountered in my experience:
- bitterness - a person hardens, distances himself from everyone, becomes prickly and vicious in behavior and words. Closes, is isolated.
- "Psycho" - an emotional response, or a series of outbursts. It can be a completely harmless discharge of feelings, or manifest itself in asocial behavior.
- tacit ignorance - in this case, all kinds of psychosomatic ailments are possible, can lead to the accumulation and option of a psychopathic response.
In any case, the listed options lead to a loss of sensitivity.
What does sensitivity mean:for me it is the ability to notice what is happening to me and others, to be sympathetic, to give a response, to be careful with myself and others.
Accordingly, when a person experiences a "shock", sensitivity may be lost.
In the story, at the beginning, bitterness is manifested, and, moreover, the "toggle switch" is triggered, the protection is turned on, and the person does not notice what is happening to him, everything is in order for him. But, from the side of the environment, it is noticeable that something is wrong.
It is good if the environment is not indifferent and can give realistic feedback, showing the person what is bad for him and in what, that he missed or ignored an important event ("blow").
How can you still be sensitive when the situation "knocks you out"?
1. Attention
Be considerate of yourself.
You can help yourself to understand what the situation is. Somewhere inside you know what is wrong with you, it gives out a trail of experiences - someone has it bright, screaming, someone is very small. There is also an excuse for the situation: that everything is in the past, you are already better. It is by these elements that you can recognize the "blow" and complete the situation, so as not to poison yourself with experiences.
2. Time
Give yourself time.
That is, to take time for experiences, not to fuss, to gather, gain strength, focus words and messages. In a hurry, you will not notice what is important to you and you can "break the wood".
3. Importance
Help from loved ones.
It is important that there are loved ones with whom you can share your experiences, to whom you can entrust them. Unfortunately, such a person is not always surrounded. Therefore, a psychologist can help to share experiences and navigate.
4. Around
Notice the surroundings.
The people around you will give you feedback on how you are acting anyway. It is important to remember that you are dealing with other people, so not on purpose you can "take it out" on them when they have nothing to do with them.
Sensitivity is often perceived as weakness. To which I say the following: “Men are not cold. They turn blue and fall."
If you want, you can do this to yourself, and there will be another tragic story as at the beginning.
I recommend that you be attentive to your own experiences
Whatever they (experiences) may be
If you need help to share your experiences and tell your story - write in the comments!
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