Permission To Happiness

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Sometimes adults need permission to be happy.

I don’t know whose voice sounds in your head - your parents, your boss, or the hollow voice of “conscience” - but sometimes we all need to relax and do our own thing. Arrange for yourself a holiday of disobedience: disrupt your usual routine, buy sweets, unexpectedly wave off to Rome to meet spring, or just walk through the woods, breathing in the smell of new life in the still frosty air. Someone postpones the purchase of new shoes, someone has to get a manicure for a long time, and someone does not dare to sign up for dances. There are always more important things to do and more urgent expenses.

For some reason, it is customary to be shy and write down everything that really brings joy into the unimportant and inappropriate. Work turns out to be more important than meeting friends, a book huddled lonely on the couch always loses to cleaning. We are used to prodding ourselves, forcing us to do what we need to do, and not what we want. I know very few truly happy people who manage to maintain a balance between responsibilities and desires. Meanwhile, this constant denial of the desired leads to stress.

We've all grown up a long time ago. Our parents depend on us more than we depend on them. We have changed more than one boss and more than one job, and have long since learned to negotiate with our conscience. Didn't you bargain with her when you chose a business trip instead of a graduation child in the garden? So why is someone else's voice in your head still guiding your actions?

It's time to prioritize and understand that life is not a race for survival or a struggle for a place in the sun. Life is about joy, about a smile, about love. When was the last time you looked at the clouds? When they laughed for no reason? When you just hugged and kissed, enjoying the process itself and not trying to quickly cram sex into your schedule? Find a free hour. Sit where no one will disturb you. Turn off your ever-vibrating gadgets and just think: what is really important to you? If you are dragged away from your business and are ready to spend the night at work - your right. If you enjoy scrubbing the floors on your day off, bravo. But if all these actions are tortured, if you force yourself to do them with kicks, not because you want to, but because "it is necessary" - ask yourself: "Who needs it?"

Work will not embrace you in difficult times, a clean floor will not fill you with new knowledge, and a saucepan bought instead of a new handbag will not bring joy. So start living already! There are no other rules in life except those that you have invented yourself. If something doesn't suit you - change it! Yes, it's easier said than done, but you and only you determine the course of your life. Nobody can live it for you. At the end of the path, you will be left alone with your choice. So why are you letting other people decide what's important to you?

We all sometimes need permission to be happy. So give it to yourself. The only one who can allow or forbid you to be happy is yourself. Understand already, finally, that this life must be lived to its fullest - because you may not have another one. Open the window and let the happiness of being yourself into the house!