Flight Permission

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Today I was accused of being pop

And, it is true, the topic is hackneyed, spoken, negotiated. But is it less relevant from this?

And our conversation turned to selfhood.

How often do we ask ourselves questions:

- Who am I?

- what am I?

- how do others see me?

- how do I want to be seen?

And if we ask, then do we know the answers to them?

And, quite unusual: how often do we show ourselves to this world?

After all, being yourself can be scary and even unsafe, "uncomfortable" or ashamed. May be tormented by the question: "What will they think of me?" And there is a lot of anxiety and anxiety here. Those toxic emotions that bind, paralyze and do not allow to act openly, freely, boldly. Act with pleasure and joy.

And at the root of everything is our fear.

Fear, which is always with us, from early childhood. The fear with which we have grown together, have become akin and go through life. Fear and self-doubt. Disbelief, or ignorance of one's own value and uniqueness.

We are afraid that the real ones may be rejected or not chosen, they may be disappointed in us or they will not be able to love. We can be abandoned, bypassed, fired, replaced. And therefore, it is necessary to be better, smarter, more beautiful, stronger, more successful … And it is great if you manage to change and truly develop your personality, focusing on yourself and your true values and needs.

But more often than not, in an attempt to comply with far-fetched standards and artificially created authorities or one-day fashion, there is a rejection of one's self. When a person tries not to "be" but to "seem".

And, if at least sometimes we realize and admit our fear, there is another experience that for the majority is so painful that even realizing its presence is intolerable. That is a shame. We are ready for anything, just not to feel ashamed.

And how much is being done for this!

Do you need to remake yourself, remake yourself? Please !

Adjust, cut, shrink, hide something, and push something out? Easily!

well, or not very easy, but you need to match. The framework is well known. Therefore, what is really there, you have to endure!

And be like everyone else. Even stamped. And it is advisable not to stick out and not even stand out much. And, of course, where is there to be special? !!

Thanks to my vast experience, I know many examples when plastic surgeons persuade patients to refuse plastic surgery. Yes, the nose may be a little too big, or the eyes are a little more slanted, or the buttocks are not what their owner dreams of. But there is a rare natural beauty in this imperfection! there is a zest, there is uniqueness.

And this applies not only to the face or figure. This is also about our inner component!

It really takes some courage. The courage to be yourself.

Accept yourself in all your manifestations and value your uniqueness.

And then it will be possible to accept others without arrogance or vice versa, servility and false admiration.

And, perhaps, life will become a little easier?

It's definitely easier! And energy will appear. And you may want to create! After all, you no longer need to waste yourself on suppression, adjustment and conformity.

But, most importantly, there is an opportunity to see "their" people and to be most seen by them. After all, when we hide ourselves, play roles, it is impossible to see us, the true ones.

So maybe we should suspend this costume masquerade? Take off your mask and carnival costume for a while?

Have the courage to be yourself? Or at least try? Maybe it will work out, or maybe you will like it?