PERSONS OF "TALKING" BEHAVIOR

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The desire to tease, to be teased, is seen as a key part of erotic desire. This desire cannot be completely separated from the excitement associated with the desire to step over the barrier separating the permitted from the forbidden, which is experienced as sinful and immoral. The "escape" of the object itself is "teasing" that combines promise and avoidance, seduction and frustration. A naked body can serve as a sexual stimulus, but a partially covered body is much more exciting. This explains why the final part of the striptease show - full nudity - quickly ends with a departure from the stage.

Sexual “teasing” is usually, though not necessarily, associated with exhibitionism and demonstrates a close connection between exhibitionism and sadism: the desire to excite and frustrate the significant other.

Voyeurism is the simplest response to exhibitionistic “teasing”; it manifests itself in a sadistic penetration into an object that does not give itself. Like other perversions, exhibitionism is a typical sexual deviation in men; however, exhibitionistic behavior is much more often intertwined with the behavior of women. The psychoanalytic interpretation of female exhibitionism as a defense by shaping a response to penis envy needs to be amended; to incorporate the newly understood step that the little girl is taking in shifting her choice of object from mother to father. Exhibitionism can be a way of sexual affirmation at a distance.

Flirtatiousness is a sexual impulse. The most accurate answer to the question: "What is coquetry?" M. Kundera replies: "Perhaps one could say that this is such behavior, the purpose of which is to make it clear to the other that sexual intimacy with him is possible, but this possibility should never be considered indisputable. In other words, coquetry is an unwarranted promise of intercourse." …

The manifestation of female sexuality - both exhibitionistic and rejecting, that is, teasing - is a powerful stimulus, causing erotic desire in men. "Teasing" a man provokes aggression in him, a motive for an aggressive invasion of a woman's body; it is the source of the aspect of voyeurism in sexual relations, which includes the desire to dominate, expose, fight, overcome the barriers of true and false shame in the woman he loves.

Teasing is also viewed as a specific form of humor that serves many interpersonal functions. Like other types of humor, teasing paradoxically combines both prosocial and aggressive functions, and also cannot avoid sexual, although often quite hidden, connotations.

With the help of teasing, you can criticize and at the same time give a compliment, attack and at the same time get close to people, humiliate and at the same time express tender feelings.

Teasing has three components: aggression, humor and, of course, ambiguity, which is what excites.

Social psychologist Decher Keltner and colleagues have proposed a reputational threat analysis of teasing. The importance of reputational salvation in social interactions, especially in interactions involving confrontation or the transfer of information that can embarrass the speaker or listener. They defined teasing as "a deliberate provocation accompanied by playful natural markers that comment on something meaningful to the teased subject." In this definition, "provocation" refers to the fact that teasing is a verbal or non-verbal action that is intended to produce a certain effect and cause some kind of reaction from the teased object. Natural markers are verbal and non-verbal cues (such as smiles, exaggeration, or a certain tone of voice) that accompany teasing and indicate that it should be perceived as a joke, making it humorous, as well as an ambiguous message transmitted indirectly rather than directly. The humorous and ambiguous nature of the tease allows the source to say something that could threaten the reputation and be potentially inappropriate if communicated in a serious manner, as the source can always say that he was “just kidding” if the message is not well received by the teasing target …

Teasing can be used for many purposes, from prosocial and friendly to hostile and malicious. The aggressiveness of teasing depends on the level of personal confrontation, as well as the degree of ambiguity and expression of humor.

With playful, friendly teasing, close friends may speak words to each other that, if taken literally, can seem quite demeaning or critical. However, the playful manner of teasing suggests that the message should not be taken literally, and in fact the opposite meaning is meant: the source actually intends to compliment the teased object in an ironic way. This playful aggression is like a fun struggle between children and young animals. This behavior is not aggressive; instead, the underlying subtext in this friendly tease confirms the strength of the relationship between the two people, pointing to the fact that they are close enough to say something negative and not be offended. Laughter from the source and target of the tease indicates that the teasing is not being taken seriously, and this can help further enhance the sense of intimacy.

During my military service, I became very close friends with one Albanian soldier. As is well known, Albanians are very sensitive to sexual insults towards their closest relatives (mother, sister); in fact, my Albanian friend recognized me as his own when we left aside all these social games of courtesy and respect, and instead of greeting, we exchanged mutual insults. Therefore, when we met in the morning, I used to say hello to him like this: "I'll fuck your mother!", To which he usually replied: "Come on, go ahead - as soon as I finish with your sister!" The most interesting thing was how quickly this “exchange of pleasantries” lost its obscene or ironic connotation, and became just a formality: after a couple of weeks, we were too lazy to even utter the phrase in full; When I saw him in the morning, I limited myself to a nod of my head, saying: “Mother!”, to which he simply answered: “Sister!”. /S. Zizek /

Friendly teasing is also seen in teasing, where friends and colleagues take turns in a humorous manner to disparagingly about the guest of honor, as well as in humorous greeting cards that indirectly convey feelings of love and sentimentality in the form of a clearly offensive message. Since teasing is considered inappropriate between people who don't know each other well enough, people can also use this type of friendly teasing to signal a desire to take the acquaintance to a more personal level of friendship. While these forms of teasing are inherently non-aggressive, they can always backfire if the recipient misunderstands the humorous intent or, for some reason, takes the message seriously. In addition, even the most friendly teasing usually produces less positive feelings in the teased subject than in the source.