Why Men And Women Get Divorced

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In most cases, people get divorced when they are unable to live together. The reasons can be called different, these are questions of a material nature, and some features of the behavior of a husband or wife, perhaps a rejection of the views on life in general from one of the spouses. And in each case it happens that one is trying to make the other guilty of the other, and, moreover, one of the main reasons for this is the preservation of his "correct position" and self-esteem. An important role will be played by the fact how the news of the divorce and its reasons will be perceived by others. But this is only the front part, in fact, the reason for the divorce is inside the person himself. What and how people think determines how they think and what they do.

Each of us is quite often in a state of internal conflict, when one part of us argues with another about the correctness of this or that decision or attitude to some action. And if a compromise is found, and we have convinced ourselves of something, then calmness comes.

Roles in the family are often chosen along the same lines. Moreover, in the future, each spouse very toughly defends his choice of role and considers, at the initial stage of the relationship, only his own prerogative. But this, mind you, is the beginning of a relationship.

Example. If a woman convinced herself that, in her opinion, she should be responsible in everything and she likes it, plus this behavior coincides with the familiar parental scenario of relationships, then everything, for her, with such a distribution of roles, is normal. But, after a while, she, tired of her own choice, begins to demand responsibility from the man. Although initially he did not give the impression of a responsible person and was not so, but then it suited the woman. Indeed, in most cases, at the beginning of a relationship, people are looking for additions to their qualities, and not dubbing. Life is a process of joining seemingly opposite extremes.

Over time, conflicts begin to occur in the family, at the core of which are the intrapersonal contradictions of a person. The position that for a man, no matter a man or a woman, is and is perceived by him as the most correct, unexpectedly does not coincide with the requirements of a spouse. It is the impossibility and unwillingness to change something within oneself that leads to an intensification of the conflict. This is true not only of the party that puts forward the requirements, but also to the one to which they are presented.

Both husband and wife are responsible for the destruction of the family. And no matter how women try, in most cases, to blame all the blame on men is not true. In a relationship, any actions and words have their opposition with exactly the same force. And when the wife blames the husband for everything, or vice versa, the husband blames the wife, one must understand that such actions are just a response to the behavior of another.

Divorce occurs when either one or both spouses could not cope with their internal problems, refuse or change their internal attitudes. For a healthy family, you need your own scenarios of behavior, and not borrowed from others, or in the parental family. After all, a large number of people tend to believe that their vision is correct, and all other points of view are incorrect and unworthy of their attention. This positioning of one's righteousness and unwillingness to take into account the opinion of another inevitably leads to a break in relations. In real life it can be expressed as a male version - "Woman, your place is in the kitchen" and female - "He is lazy and does not want to do anything." Such theses very well reflect those beliefs that need correction.

Understanding how and what inner beliefs should undergo change can greatly affect the situation. The most difficult and terrible thing for a person to admit to himself that such a model of behavior in the family is fatal for a relationship. In the work on this problem, a specialist psychologist can provide significant assistance. A person's beliefs affect not only his family life, but also his overall mental and physical condition. Better to be more careful with them.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.