Why Do Women Get Divorced After Women's Trainings? Part 2

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Are you an intelligent, educated, young, purposeful beauty who has achieved a lot in this life? But personal life is somehow not happy? Do men either sit on your head, or scatter as soon as you start talking?

Have you already attended many trainings and master classes to change something in your personal life? As a result, you have a "porridge" in your head and not at all easier in your heart? Are men also somewhere over the horizon, or are they secretly peering at you from behind the bushes?

You are a clever girl with a higher education or even three, but you do not understand anything. Why don't men perceive you as a Woman? Why are you a friend, comrade, brother to them, but not a fragile defenseless woman?

"What's wrong with me?" - you ask yourself at the moments when you still “turn on the woman”. Why am I lonely? I have already listened to all Torsunov and Rakov, I already go only in skirts, have already attended so many trainings about femininity, and books about the "goddess in herself" all over the house? What's wrong? Why am I alone, why does my man not love and respect me, am I so smart?

This, or similar, set of questions pops up in the minds of many successful women. Someone more often, someone less. And it's not even about the answers to these questions. The fact is that after women's trainings, women “see clearly” that for 20, 30, 40, 50 years they did not live like this and “already know how to do it”, expecting instant changes in life. Immediately married, immediately to the prince, immediately lost weight, immediately healthy and happy, immediately harmony in the relationship.

I repeat once again what I noted in the first part of the article, the men did not go with you, did not listen, did not read and did not experience insights. Experience is a personal category, experience cannot be shared. The thesis "exchange of experience" is illogical. You can exchange practices. How, for example, can you share your cooking experience? Each woman will cook her borscht according to the same recipe, according to her experience, her feelings, her own "chips".

Of course, you can tell your man about everything that you heard at the training, about what you felt and understood after the training, but the result will be insignificant. You, therefore, only relay information that men are used to perceive through the prism of logic. But you felt the emotional fulfillment, the insight! But he doesn't understand! At best, if you have a harmonious relationship and you have chosen the right time to share your impressions, he will take some of the information to himself. In the worst case, especially if you have “martial law” in your home, the conflict will go from latent to active.

So, it is clear that it is impossible to “retell” the training. Your man needs to go to it himself.

If you are now in search of the man of your dreams, you do not need to tell him when you meet what trainings you go to until you understand that your goals in a relationship are the same.

A woman is a relationship, it is “to talk and settle”, and a man is an action, it is “to achieve and conquer”. In order for your man to want to attend the training, he must have his own male motivation.

What is the motivation for women? There is a wide field here! I want to marry a prince, I want my husband to become a prince, I want to eat everything and become slim, I want to do nothing and be liked by men, I want, I want, I want … If a woman wants at least one of the above, she is alive.

It's more difficult with men. If they helped him all his life (put him on a tree (mother), pushed his bicycle (grandmother), did his male work in everyday life (sister), girls insured him on dates (“what if he doesn't have enough money, I'll take money with me”), female employees took on his tasks (“he's still studying, it's so difficult for him, poor thing”), his wife earned more by working three jobs (“he’s having a difficult period, now I’ll work, and then how will he undertake …”), he will not go to the training, he has no motivation. He will not even open the book "How to Become the Best in What You Do", which you have "imperceptibly" left on his nightstand for a month. satisfied, and if something happens, his beloved women-saviors will help him, put him on, replace him, “hedge” him.

This tendency has long been seen in our society, our mothers-saviors, either consciously or subconsciously, guided by the genetic memory of war and losses, protect "their boys" from life to their (boys) old age. Accordingly, all Ukrainian women are actively involved in this rescue activity, picking up the baton after mothers.

And then these same women sit “at a broken trough” and ask the question: “What is wrong with me, why do normal men“shy away”from me, why does he have a mistress, why am I alone?”.

Men who are lucky and whom their mothers, grandmothers and sisters did not "fall in love" to the stage of the victim will seek training themselves, and at the same time, women who, attending self-love trainings, still save on their underwear and cosmetics in favor of a dinner for a man.

What percentage of these men? This can be determined independently in our transport. A man “not loved by women-saviors”, if he is healthy, of course, will not sit in a transport if a woman is standing next to him. So much for the percentage. You can count. You're smart.

Whose fault, dear women, is that you are not given a place, that you are not helped in everyday life, that additional work is being put on you, that your husband does not develop and does not respect you, such a clever girl?

And the main thing. Training is just a form of intensive training aimed at developing knowledge, abilities, skills and attitudes. The aim of the training is to develop the competence of interpersonal and professional behavior in communication, to create conditions for an independent search for ways to solve their own psychological problems. This is where the "dog is buried". If you are now calm and balanced and are able to independently solve your own emotional problems, then the training is for you. He will help you see the "salt of the problem" and find a way out of the current situation.

But, if you are trying to cope with some emotions that tear you from the inside, thoughts that haunt you day or night, if the situation is "on the brink", do not flatter yourself, trainings will not do. In this situation, you can go to all kinds of trainings, meditations, etc. for an infinitely long time, it won't get any easier. You will become even more confused and lose your last vitality. In this case, personal consultation with a psychologist or therapy is vital.

I will end with the same words as in the first part of the article. Do not try to change someone else (partner, children, parents, friends, relatives, employees, shop assistant, minibus driver, metro neighbor …), let professionals, the Universe and your positive changes do it. Take an interest in the psychology of both men and women, change yourself, be patient and then you will see how others will gradually "catch up" to you. And if not "catch up"? This is a topic for another article.

I wish you love.