Why Are Women's Trainings Dangerous If The Leading Man?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Marriage is not a status.

This is a medal called "For Courage"

First: Where did the phenomenon of the craze for women come from?

The current generation of "obedient girls" of losers and mama's sons, raised by grandmothers and fatherlessness, crushed and unsettled in their personal plan, has given rise to a demand and a theme for women "how to get married" and pickup trainings for men.

This movement - training in manipulation and technology how to use the other in a relationship for their own selfish purposes, was able to grow like a fungal flora after taking antibiotics, on the grounds that the institution of marriage is "bursting at the seams."

Post-war generations and post-Soviet reality have created such examples of families that motivate many to unconsciously avoid falling into the status of a family person, even if they declare it as their goal.

Others deliberately do not want to marry, licking the wounds received in the family, they devote their lives to their careers and do not go to such trainings.

However, "eternal family values" that have been the pillars of social stability for centuries, continue to live inside us. We are all a product of a family, official or not official, but for the most part, we are not test-tube children. Family values played a significant role in our birth, so it will not be possible to dismiss them, calling them outdated or outdated.

Many psychologists and amateurs, innovators of both sexes, seized on the burning question, as a gold mine, and began to develop techniques. How to make sure that "the wolves are well fed" (men are not ready to start a family, which in childhood has mutilated them with upbringing, preserve freedom and the right to be irresponsible) and "the sheep are safe" (women could realize themselves in childbirth in a complete family, counting on protection and cooperation of the husband in family matters).

In this article, there will be no answers to how to "correctly" resolve the conflicting sexual request and give unsettled women a super-husband, and rejected men to ensure recognition and sex, while maintaining independence - no, there will be no universal recipes, this is not about that.

What is the purpose of the author of the article?

The purpose of this article is to expose the speculation of would-be psychologists on the topic "Sexual Relations". Answer: why the passage of such trainings and webinars leads a woman further away from happiness in her personal life, and a man to the degradation of the spirit altogether, but for men in another article.

What are the risks of women if such training is conducted by a woman?

If the leading psychologist is a Vedic woman, or a master of bitches, then she has her own concept of how to be a woman “correctly”.

Pay attention, no matter what different postulates these different trainers or geisha are waving like a bullfighter with a red rag, the very idea that there is a single list of "correct rules" is fundamentally wrong, and if the first message is false, then the whole further road will be erroneous. It is impossible to teach a woman to be the right woman; it is like teaching a cat to be the right cat. I believe that the cat would have fallen into neurosis or gone into deep disgrace.

But obedient girls, on, and then obedient, that they have rules and points like a balm for the soul. Before that, they already believed that they did something wrong - this is their obedient, the main frustration: "I am doing something wrong, not everything is all right with me, I cannot know how: how to give birth, breathe, walk, to say how to have sex, you need to consult! Someone else, authoritative knows better what and how to do … ".

Fear of error - does not allow such a woman to act for herself and accept any result without self-accusation, draw conclusions and follow in life. No, an obedient girl needs to "work on mistakes and" sticks "of self-flagellation, this is her natural background in life.

So obedient girls with an excellent pupil complex (which is essentially the same thing) change one teacher for another. First, the mother, then the teacher, then the coach, and the role of the novice and the desire to be an excellent student and to be consistent, does not disappear anywhere. As was the strategy of listening to someone other than yourself, it has remained. Authorities change, maturation does not occur. Authenticity and sincerity are not added to the manifestations. Internal personal truth, as well as responsibility for oneself and one's personal decisions, does not develop. They will be different, be yourself, unique and inimitable, without assessing the degree of masculinity or femininity of their sincere impulses, it is scary: Shame and Guilt for not being like everyone else's, the chief inquisitor of obedient girls. They are imprisoned to rape their sincere motives and natural qualities, and here the trainer, with her list of rules and technologies, promises to give the bewildered woman "the right vector of flight." So in women's trainings, trainers often act as accomplices in violence against the natural nature of a single woman.

Betraying her sincerity: sincere anger, sincerely wanting and not wanting, a woman, motivated by the host's charisma, begins to adjust and play up, which means lying. By indirect ways and tricks, he persuades and rapes a partner, the grimaces suggested by the coach. Forces the man to play the role of the hero of her dreams invented for him, and the real ones do not meet in pairs. Instead, people in a pair play a game of "who will warm up whom more", promoting "their" vision, about what should be the "right" my half. Such people find themselves farther and farther from love …

The overload of information, full of points of rules and techniques, contributes to even greater indecision, which is replaced by bouts of tyranny: "I alone know how real men and women should be, I studied, but he does not correspond." Rejection and antagonism grows to any non-standard and not expected manifestations of a person nearby.

So, unreasonably offended girls, armed with Vedic or some other bitter knowledge, now become justifiably offended: "men behave incorrectly, I did everything as written, but" things are still there … ".

Why are male trainers dangerous?

Motives.

How and for what purpose will a man lead this topic?

To make women happy?

Or to get a good job at their expense?

It is as if the wolf was leading the training for the sheep.

If we assume that the idea: a woman’s happiness lies in “being cute next to him” or “trousers in the house”, or in serving her husband with high quality, as mother / grandmother did for her son / grandson … Only now the boy has grown up and he needs a service with an extended function: sex, if we consider that this is all that a woman needs for happiness, then the "master" male trainer is here and ready to "help" her in this.

Indeed, the coach may have the thought: that if you tell how to serve and play well with a man, a woman, like his mother, who has dedicated her life to him, will be happy to do this for him always.

So a male coach, at best, expects to make his student happy so that she will not, at least, be alone. He seems to instill in her the skill of "secretarial work" and it will be easy for her to find a job in the unemployment market in some company. But where is love here? If someone appears more functional, it will be replaced. And she obedient lives, even if in pairs, as on a powder keg. Jealous and suffering, feeling that something important in their relationship is missing. Protection and trust in relationships formed on the basis of uncomplaining female obedience, as well as on manipulation by a partner, does not shine for her.

Neither strategy: obedience and manipulation does not bring a woman closer to contact with her inner truth, but teaches to be comfortable, and this is how obedient girls are brought up. Not hearing herself, having lost touch with her personal truth, she cannot hear the person next to her.

But such a specific message from the trainer: "do this … and you will get a guaranteed result", for the girls, wasted, again, like a balm for the trauma already prepared by childhood. Men's relationship training is often translated as "how to match men's whims, cutie, so that a man can use you comfortably and sweetly."

Indeed, it is necessary to warn the participants of such psychological platforms that obedient ones really really want to be used at first, but there is nothing to love about them. So, by training and educating a woman, a man himself deprives himself of the opportunity to fall in love. This leads to burnout in personal relationships, a loss of meaning and zest for life. After all, what a man wants from a woman, from the philistine point of view, if you remove all the romance, he wants guarantees of sex and domestic services from a beautiful woman. At the trainings "how to get married" they do not teach how to live romance, they teach how to imitate it, so that the mutual use would not be so unattractive from the outside.

Good: it's clear here, they use convenient ones, and which ones do they like?

What kind of women do you really love?

If you look at world classics or historical examples they love - authentic, distinctive, unbridled, often uncomfortable. But to say: be uncomfortable and chaotic and this guarantees love? No, you can't do that. It won't work. Naturalness cannot be played. This can only be or not be.

One could simply say to the woman - BE! But this is a completely different training, it is not about relationships with others, it is about relationships with oneself - from which one's own life begins.

Other people (men, friends, parents) only mirror a person's own attitude towards himself. The female degree of violence against herself is her degree of love, acceptance and criticism of her value, which comes from her inner truth, about how she lives inside with herself. If a woman feels bad with herself, her partner will only get worse.

Attitude towards oneself depends on whether a woman is able to hear not only thoughts in her head. Thoughts are concepts of how things should be that are confused with criticism and with the voices of authority. And their more honest reactive signals that arise below the neck are signals of emotions and sensations. The ability of a person (women in particular) to rely on their own truth depends on the ability to hear these signals, the language of the inner world, their feelings, desires and sensations.

After all, once upon a time, in the womb of a mother, without ideas about correctness, without criticism and personal advice, the baby was formed by the force that gave birth to a full-fledged human baby. This power continues, "knows" better where it is good for him. Only once, adapting to his parents, the child exchanged her voice for the voices of parents and educators. On the approval, which depended on his well-being. This is how a person chooses obedience in exchange for following his inner peace signals.

The family often, for its educational purposes, chooses to suppress the signaling system of the child's inner world and develop obedience and logical thinking. Thanks to this, the social institution of psychotherapy was developed, the main task of which is to restore the lost function of self-confidence.

Educational systems often complete the "amputation" of half of the brain, and this is paid for by the community. And everyone is engaged in the restoration of the signal system displaced from everyday life at his own expense. This is the irony of the civilized world.

Trainings "About getting married" do not aim so deeply, restore the lost, do not do it.

They offer the already skewed psychological constitution of an unhappy woman, in the same educational mode of obedience that distorted her intuitive nature in childhood - through logic and rules of behavior, to lead to standards of happiness.

Even if marriage happens to her, it is more like an anecdote about fake Christmas tree toys:

"- Residents of the city, be careful! A batch of fake Christmas tree decorations has arrived in our city: they are also round, they also shine, but they lack the main parameter - there is no joy."

So in matters of well-being, success and happiness in life, a woman needs to start not with looking for relationships that will close the holes, but with herself, which will be capable of happiness outside of relationships.

A person is in harmony with himself, very valuable for the world and tasty for the opposite sex.

Be the cat your way.