2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I am sometimes asked the question: "Why work with trauma, if it was a long time ago - thirty or forty years ago, somewhere there, in childhood? After all, life has already taken shape, everything is more or less normal? Why stir up the old?"
Good question. The answer can be given in a detailed way - about the fact that a well-developed trauma allows a person to live more freely, expand their behavioral repertoire, get out of isolation, create new relationships and another whole page of very accurate and correct words. But they are not easy to understand out of context.
And I want show how the quality of life and the range of emotions, feelings and actions change after the trauma has been worked through.
To illustrate, here are the messages of clients that they often send - to share their joy, success, and achievements. Or surprise from his new, still unusual life.
I want to emphasize that permission to publish has been obtained in each case.
So - what's going on? Let's see some examples?
After the closure of trauma, violence, including sexual violence.
Woman, 52 years old:
01.03.2019
I bought a red blouse today. I haven't worn red for five years …
03.03.2019
I bought a new jacket, also red, and started the change two weeks ago, having painted two marigolds with red varnish two weeks ago …
04.03.2019
I urgently need to share … at work without problems and someone else's opinion does not interest me at all. This is the coolest state in my entire life.
05.03.2019
I'm flying away on a business trip (I wanted to go there)! Life brings pleasant surprises.
A side effect of the trauma in this case was the feeling of being "unworthy," the inability to look at oneself in the mirror ("I am disgusting!) And the position of the victim (" I am a horse - I plow ") at work.
One more example:
Woman, 31 years old, long-term physical and emotional abuse.
06.03.2019
I'm going on vacation for a week. During my absence from work, nothing will happen. And the boss will have to accept - he has no other master.
A year ago - work for 12-14 hours, off-schedule, often seven days a week - and nothing but work.
And - finally, the last pleasant surprise - and also today.
Client with severe somatic illnesses
Today I bought myself flowers … I dreamed of mimosa for a long time … Is this normal?
And - a beautiful photograph of a mimosa in a vase - on the table.
This is the most important and most valuable thing in dealing with trauma. Seeing the awakening of a person - as if he woke up from some long and terrible dream. Returned from oblivion to Life
It is possible and necessary to work with injuries. And it's almost never too late. Of course, there is an option - not to change anything and live on as we used to live … never remembering how mimosa smells in early spring.
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