FOUR REASONS TO REFUSE GOALS

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

1. Pursuit of a goal begins to weigh you down. A goal that is no longer interesting makes you feel differently than you want it to. Instead of joy and enthusiasm, you feel out of place

Tired does not mean betraying yourself or your goal. In any journey, there comes a moment when fatigue appears and you have to either rest and heal the rubbed calluses, or deal with your doubts. Nevertheless, you do not give up the intention to achieve the goal and take pride in not leaving the game. You are happy to think about how to keep getting your way.

But if you have to imitate enthusiasm, then your original intent begins to evaporate, and there comes a point when you have to make a decision, not whether it is time to unplug the plug.

2. You realize that it was not really your dream. Sometimes we inherit other people's ambitions, like eye color or voice tone. Inherited dreams may well be one of the best ways to open our Soul. At the whim of the Almighty, we are born in such families or cultures where there is the most suitable business for us or the most ideal way of life for us. We feel that this life suits us best.

But it also happens that our dreams absolutely do not correspond to what our family, culture or society prescribes for us. And then we feel like a black sheep, whose idea of happiness has nothing to do with reality. And if the black sheep also diligently inspires himself that she wants to be like everyone else, the script becomes tragic.

There is a very simple way to find out the truth behind your ambitions: remember your goal and constantly ask yourself: "Why do I want what I want?" Ask yourself this question and answer it at least a hundred times - until you exclaim "Eureka!"

3. The target is not getting closer, and you have ignored the stop sign for too long. Sometimes you need to go through fire, water and copper pipes, hold on until your last breath. And sometimes it’s clear to everyone around you that it’s time for you to do something else

I'll tell you a story. Louise and Lance were best friends. Just friends - never even kissed. They got drunk together at concerts, slept in the same tent, gave each other presents for Christmas. Lance was building his personal life, but Louise was in love with Lance - it was as clear as day, and all her friends saw it.

The years passed. New lovers appeared and disappeared, and it was time for Louise to finally surrender, but she decided to deliver the final blow to Lance's goal.

In all romantic comedies there is a moment of truth when the protagonist decides to take a chance: four in the morning, a beautiful wedding in full swing …

Sweaty from dancing, drunk from cheap beer and a sense of togetherness that day, we occupied a table in the corner. The DJ was already starting to assemble the equipment, and only Louise and Lance remained on the dance floor, merging in a slow dance. Sitting in our corner, we kept our eyes on them, but tried not to attract attention to ourselves.

"Oh my god … well, yes … now she will tell him," says one of us. “Mom dear. It will not end well,”another says in a weaving tongue. We stretch our necks, trying to read the lips what they are talking about. And indeed, having plucked up the courage from drinking Cabernet and clenching her will into a fist, Louise throws a trial balloon: "Do you think we could do something?" Lance listens. He's the kind of good guy who knows how to listen. But in response, he gently says: "In my opinion, if something could have worked out, then … it would have already worked out." He threw a bomb of truth on her head. But … very carefully.

If something could work, it would already work.

Even a dream has an expiration date.

I am entirely for the ability to selflessly believe. But if trying to desire, hope, persevere, and create is taking too much of your time, it may be worth daydreaming about something else. If the plant is not producing a crop, the farmer will not endlessly waste water and fertilizer. He will dig it up, plow the soil and plant the seeds of other plants.

Let go of your desire. Close the project. Disband the department. Now take your thirst for love, creative fulfillment, or money - and go the other way.

Keep your innermost desire - the feeling that you want to experience when you come to a dream. But give up your old goal. Perhaps a new way of achieving it has been waiting for you for a long time.

This is exactly what happened to Louise. She moved on. And she fell in love with another man who immediately fell madly in love with her.

4. You are tired of fighting. Remember the parable of the man who beat himself in the head with a hammer? "Why are you hitting yourself all the time?" a shocked passer-by asked him. "Because," the man replied, "I will feel very good when I stop."

Check yourself. Are you fighting the same fight all the time? Do you have insomnia? Are you sick of the same problems (boom, boom, ah, ah)? Don't you have the strength to fight anymore? And that's great! If you no longer have enough energy to fight, you can stop fighting and fix everything, because (as clear as day) fighting does not improve the situation in the least.

When you stop fighting to make reality exactly what you want, you are making an energetic shift. Yielding to the existing state of affairs, you are forcing yourself to finally face the facts, which means that the degree of your presence in the present increases.

Let go of your goal, and then you have a chance to do something more attractive and positive.

For example, like this:

I will stop fighting because more than anything I want peace.

I will stop persisting because I want to do what is easy.

I'll change my mind because I found a much more interesting case.

I'll change my approach because I've found a much better way to get what I want.

I will stop fighting because I want to be free.

This is not giving up on a dream because you are fed up with it or you have been defeated (even if those feelings were the reason for the current situation in the first place). You refuse because you are going towards something new, those feelings that you want to experience more strongly. You choose the ideal. You are not running away from anything or rejecting anything - you make a decision that wonderful things await you, and you are going to do them immediately.

With God blessing!

The excerpt was provided by the publishing house "Mann, Ivanov and Ferber"