Five Minutes To Orgasm. Why Is Something Going Wrong?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Many sexologists consider this phase of sexual contact to be the most vulnerable. It is there that "traps" often await partners. How so, after all, everything was going so well, why did everything stop there?

This plateau is the phase of bodily and emotional contact as the body prepares for orgasm.

-- Body

Sometimes it turns out that even partners with a decent sexual experience are not entirely aware of what happens to each other's body during the "five minutes release" phase.

In the 60s, the researchers of sexual reactions Masters and Johnson in the laboratory found that in most women during this period the so-called muscle orgasmic ring appears, when the increased blood flow narrows the entrance to the vagina by an average of a third. Therefore, if a woman reaches a plateau phase during stimulation and caresses, then the size of her partner's penis does not matter to her. Rather, for individual women, the psychological component remains important: by thinking about a large penis of a partner, she kind of stimulates her own narcissism, as if this confirms her own significance and the size of her Ego.

In half of women and a quarter of men, during this period, reddish spots may appear on the body (especially on the face, in the neck and chest area). This is normal - the vascular system is working at almost full capacity.

Sometimes men in the plateau phase are lost, noticing that the partner's clitoris is decreasing and even seems to disappear. Was - and he is not. In fact, everything is going fine. This is just an indicator that the tissues around them are very swollen, the body is preparing to discharge.

In women who have not given birth, at these minutes, the color of the genitals most often becomes bright red, in those who have given birth - the color of cherry. A change in the color of the labia is the most accurate indicator of a sharp rise in excitement that the "plateau" phase has come. In men, during the plateau period, the testes can increase in size by 25-50%. At the same time, they are pulled up to the perineum, which indicates an imminent readiness for orgasm.

The whole body is in a state of neuromuscular tension. And where there is nervous tension, there will always be loopholes for our complexes and unresolved internal conflicts.

- Hello neurosis

The insidiousness of the plateau is that the "bad" sheaf "voltage-control" can start to work.

Control is also our ability to impose unnecessary psychological "clothes" on bodily reactions. For example, when a person not only feels, feels himself and a partner here and now, but also seems to quickly lose those feelings and states that were once with him alone or in interaction with a partner. And then instead of a enjoying woman, a woman in a state of neurosis suddenly turns out to be in bed - remembering something, afraid of something, controlling something, taking offense at something. The same thing happens with a man.

Or the following is possible: one of the partners falls into his feelings so much that he forgets about the other. And then the body of another can rebel against this through a decrease in sensitivity, a return to everyday life.

We can say that neurosis "kicks out" a man and a woman from the phase of natural natural excitement into the zone of uncontrollable thoughts, fears, experiences.

Overcontrol is always heightened anxiety. And it, as a rule, limits the natural sensual intimacy and pleasure from merging and joint "ascent" to the peak. Our "I" suddenly seems to break into the topic of corporeality and begins to slow down reactions, put everything on the shelves, launch thoughts about "right and wrong" or about "something is going wrong." And we are already talking about psychological problems, a neurotic state.

In any phase of contact, as if through a door that was suddenly opened, a previously launched internal psychological conflict can peep. And sometimes external. But the plateau is the most vulnerable period. Partners are so close to the joy of "victory" - and suddenly it is as if "loss".

The plateau is a vivid reminder of how important it is to negotiate, discuss dissatisfaction with each other, conflict situations, problems in relationships long before sexual interaction, otherwise the body will remind you of the supposedly forgotten and unimportant bodily disappointments.