SOMETHING IS WRONG BETWEEN US. COURSES OF MEETINGS

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

👫 SOMETHING IS WRONG BETWEEN US. MEETING SCORERS 👫

What are quarrels of meetings, you probably know and, most likely, experienced it yourself. You meet with your loved one after a business trip, work in a summer camp, vacation somewhere in Anapa, Antalya or Italy, a two-week trip to your grandmother, joyfully hug, kiss and … suddenly you feel: "something is not right between us!" Moreover, it is not so important who feels this "something is not right between us" - you yourself, your loved one or together at once. It is important that this "something is wrong between us" is already felt by someone, this "something is wrong between us" is already creating an invisible wall between you, separating you from each other and … almost guaranteed to lead to a serious quarrel …

◊Let's say right away: The main reason for this "something is wrong between us" is extremely banal: jealousy! ◊

While you are not together (especially if it is more than a week), jealousy, which is the most important element of the love program, necessarily leads the most jealous partner (or both at once) to the idea that during the absence the other half either had sexual relations with someone else, or new love acquaintances have arisen. Therefore, at least one of a pair of partners meeting after separation (or even two of them at once!) Has a melancholy expectation in their souls that they will say something to him (her) just now in an apologetic tone, like: “Darling, we need to talk to you seriously … The fact is that while you were not there, I met another person … I feel so good with him (her) as I have never been before … I really appreciate the time that we were together and I respect you very much, but … Probably, we will have to part with you. Please forgive me….

Knowing from the experience of his acquaintances that such unexpected turns of events in love relationships are not at all uncommon, being annoyed in advance by the presence of the very theoretical possibility of being a "cuckold (sitsa)", at the very moment of meeting, such a person usually no longer rushes towards a loved one with open arms … Consciously or unconsciously, he (a), as it were, looks closely at his partner, urgently analyzes his (her) appearance and behavior, correlates all this according to the "friend or foe" behavioral program inherent in each of us. And therefore the meeting itself turns out as if with coolness, the seed of future quarrels of mutual distrust and nagging is sown …

At the same time, the second partner:

• - firstly, experiences the same feelings;
• - secondly, he feels the deliberate haste (or slowness) of the partner, instantly evaluates it as fake and tenses internally;
• - thirdly, if we are now talking about a person who left somewhere, then he (a) additionally feels guilty for the fact that he (she) had to leave for a long time somewhere alone, temporarily leaving your partner. And if we are talking about who stayed at home all this time, then this person may also feel a certain awkwardness from the fact that he did not manage to leave with his partners: there was no money for tickets, parents did not let go, did not match vacation schedules, session in progress, etc.

What do we end up with? If both partners are truly true to each other, in the end we have two loving, but at this very moment in time, very alert and internally tense people, each of whom is ready to regard any novelty or some kind of "zest" in the behavior of the other person as confirmation of their most terrible assumptions and … instantly respond with pain to pain, blow to blow, dry and angry farewell to a possible formally regretful "sorry" partner.

The question is, what's next? Further, as a rule, there is something like:

- someone will say to someone: "You are somehow strange today!"

- someone will say: "You are now as if not dear …".

- someone will cheerfully raise their hands and demonstrate new outfits, boasting: “Look how much I bought there!”.

- someone will not stand the stress and will do a stupid thing, saying: “I am so tired after the flight that the only thing I want now is to lie down in the bathroom and then sleep…”. And to the partner's question, "when will we have sex?"

And so on and so forth. And there are many other equally erroneous and equally widespread options. And they all lead to the fact, according to personal surveys, in about seven cases out of ten, at the moment of meeting after a long separation, together with hot hugs and declarations of love, lovers either quarrel right away, or at first they communicate quite tensely and coolly for some time. but in the end, they still quarrel!

According to statistics, seven out of ten meetings

partners after a week or month separation …

end in serious quarrels!

However, it is enough to describe and analyze all this. It's time to give specific advice on how to avoid such unpleasant quarrels for lovers.

♦ Practical recommendations so that the feeling “something is wrong between us” does not lead to a quarrel: ♦

♥ First. Do not try to look too good when you return to your partner

Many lovers (especially ladies) returning from vacation or business trips and knowing that at the train station or at the airport they will be met by their beloved or husband, they try to "look their best" and make every effort to once again produce on their a man an indelible impression. I have to upset them: this is wrong!

Seeing how the returning partner looks great, the overwhelming majority of those who meet them will be internally unhappy and will think something like this: “Yeah, so without me we immediately flourished! I wonder who got this sexy splendor all this time ….

If the meeting side also looks great, the heart of the returning partner will also be pricked by a pin of jealousy: “And he told me on the phone that he was dying completely without me … So this is how we missed in reality … There is nothing like that even in sight! There is something wrong here ….

Hence the following advice:

Don't try to look good

at the moment of meeting after a forced separation

This applies to the one who returns and the one who meets. Do not over-manicure, super-polish or bright makeup. It is not necessary to lead a loved one to the thought: “I wonder how the one (the one) who had to sit next to you on the plane, (train, intercity bus, ship) reacted to all this beauty and didn’t leave did you happen to him (her), your phone? And hasn't something happened to your also seconded colleague in the hotel (another counselor in the summer camp, etc.)?"

To exclude the occurrence of such thoughts, at the time of the meeting you should:

• - in no case smell of alcohol or perfume;
• - look very tired (oops) and tortured (oops);
• - women have a minimum of makeup (you can have leaked mascara and eaten lipstick) and a minimum of jewelry (hide the jewelry in your purse);
• - men are advised to be unshaven, not combed, in wrinkled trousers and dusty boots.
• - start a conversation with complaints about the hardships of the flight or relocation, as well as the completely disgusting living and dining conditions in the hotel.

Perhaps to some, all this will seem somewhat ridiculous, but I draw the attention of skeptics to the following circumstance:

At the moment of meeting with a loved one, you do not follow him (her) at all

to conquer and enchant! It is fundamentally important for you to show

that you are "your (me)!" and are still loyal to their partner

All the rest - later

The logic of an ordinary lover (oh), overheated by jealousy is simple:

“If my partner looks too good, then he or she wanted to impress someone! And this “someone” is clearly not me! (Why should I conquer ?! I have been tame for a long time!). And it is quite likely that someone has already “fallen in love” with him (her) … But if he (a) looked (a) bad, it means that he (a) “did not think about anything like that”, to anyone he (a) in such a deplorable state was (a) not needed and therefore one can not even doubt his (her) loyalty! And I have no doubts! I really love him (her) just the way he (s) is now! Well, come to me, my sweet one! I miss you so much ….

And if you want to fit into this specific logic of meetings, to avoid the emergence of easy alienation in a difficult form, and as a result, and quarrels of meetings, do not do stupid things and follow the advice that the author gives you.

Honestly, you will not regret it!

♥ Second. Look as familiar as possible

Many returning from vacation or from a business trip buy new things: dresses, skirts, blouses, suits, shirts, ties, watches, bracelets, hats, caps, shoes, boots, boots, handbags, briefcases, sets of cosmetics and perfumes, etc. … etc. Of course, all this is welcome! Everything except the desire to immediately put it all on yourself at the moment of returning and meeting with your loved one!

As mentioned above, the main formal reason for quarrels between meetings is that the partner behaves "somehow wrong," something is wrong between us. " But this concept also includes the appearance of partners. Maybe even and especially the appearance … So, if you do not want a slight alertness, it is best not to rush to dress up in all new!

By transforming, meeting partners are at risk

seem very distant to each other, if not even strangers …

And here the point is not even that some people associate certain external changes (in clothes, image or style) with the appearance of a new person in the life of their partner (and after all, we all know that this is the main reason all our changes!). The point is in the almost bestial perception of everything and everything, almost at the level of smells, associations and the notorious "general impression". And since this is so, since all this really "has a place to be", then there is no need to joke with it! It will be worse first of all by ourselves …

In general, at the moment of returning and meeting with a loved one, try not to confuse his instinct! Look the same as you did when you part ways! Smell the same perfume! And you will show off your new clothes a little later! And at the same time, do not forget about gifts for your loved one (oh)!

Numerous purchases "for yourself" and cheap souvenirs

to the most dear person - another reason for quarrels between meetings!

Try not to step on this mop either …

♥ Third. Have sex as soon as possible

Fidelity is traditionally associated with the presence in a partner of that acute sexual desire, which was the result of more or less prolonged sexual abstinence. In this sense, it is quite appropriate to tell you the following remarkable fact:

According to polls, the word "missed (s)"

hidden sexual connotations are seen no less

85 (!) Percent of men and only 60 (!) Percent of women!

Now let's remember what we are talking on the phone at a time when our loved ones are somewhere far away from us? It's right that we really, really miss you! So do not be surprised later that for a huge number of lovers who meet after business trips and vacations, one of the main ways to make sure of the loyalty of your loved one is his (her) sexual activity and even some kind of sexual aggressiveness.

Since this is exactly the case, and not otherwise, it means that one of those tasks that arise (what a word itself!) Before a meeting and returning person is to confirm that their words and deeds do not diverge! And since they have been saying all this time that they are bored, it means that this must be proved and demonstrated in the most graphic way. As you may have guessed, the best way to do this is … sex!

If you meet after breaking up, you should definitely

meet the sexual expectations of your loved one!

If the airport, grandmother's village or summer camp is located somewhere outside the city, it is recommended to stop along the way. And even more than once! And not at all to admire the delightful countryside or suburban landscapes! Well, in general, you understand me …

Well, it’s not even worth talking about what should happen when you go to someone’s home together! Here let your imagination work. I will not advise. It is known: the taste and color, there are no comrades …

In general, if you manage to relieve mutual sexual tension in time, you will successfully neutralize one more internal reason for the appearance of “quarrels of meetings”. Both you and your loved one will be satisfied. And our human consciousness will once again prove its ability to be at least a little smarter than our unconscious …

And the last thing. Let the ladies not be surprised when men demand sex from them right at the airport, and let the men not be very angry when the girls who assured them that they are "madly bored" are in no hurry to have sex, even going home. As I have already said, the word “miss you” and “sex” is directly related by 85 (!) Percent of men and only 60 percent of women. And this means that some part of men will surely face the fact that their girlfriends will not understand what men want from them. And at the same time, these men will not understand why their girlfriends do not want anything …

In general, some should be a little more tolerant and others more sexy. And then everyone will be very good. In every sense of the word …

In addition to the “quarrels of meetings”, there are also “quarrels of parting”. "Quarrels of parting" - this is when one of the partners is going on a business trip, vacation or visiting relatives (on vacation) and, at the same time:

• - Too frankly happy that new impressions will be received soon (the remaining partner assumes that they are sexy too!);
• - says too much that there is a long-awaited rest ahead (the partner is perplexed: “Have you really got tired of me so much ?!);
• - teases the remaining (s) that from now on he (her) has a great opportunity to be unattended and "light up in the clubs" (the partner looks at him (her) with a cold, angry misunderstanding in his eyes);
• - as if by chance informs that in the place where he (a) leaves, he (she) is expected to meet with many pleasant people for him (her). (The partner immediately understands: he (a) is clearly no longer "the most expensive person on Earth");
• - either dresses in his best clothes and shoes (men), or takes his most revealing and sexy outfits with him (women). (The partner's mood immediately deteriorates from this and there is an acute and quite natural desire to say goodbye not for a week, but once and for all!).

If all these points are more or less clear to you and you have already "passed" how quickly your or your partner's mood can deteriorate at the moment of the seemingly most lyrical parting at the airport, auto or railway station, keep in mind:

If people really love each other and want to avoid unnecessary quarrels, it is strictly forbidden for them to rejoice in the "upcoming new impressions" and upset that "such a wonderful pastime has ended so quickly." If they do not understand this, there is every reason to assume that one day their love relationship will end (and tragically!)! And this will be much sadder than the ended vacation …

Remark

"Quarrels of meetings" and "quarrels of partings" are generated by love multiplied by jealousy and the number of days of separation. To reduce their strength and likelihood of occurrence, lovers should eliminate the jealousy factor as much as possible. That is why you should not rejoice when leaving, but when you return, be sad! And then everything will be fine with you. In any case, it is better than you quarreled