2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Growing up in a dysfunctional family affects the psychological characteristics of the individual. People develop character traits that prevent them from adapting in society and self-realization.
Adult children of alcoholics face many psychological difficulties, as they do not know how to:
- own your own emotions;
- to observe their own and others' psychological boundaries;
- to form interpersonal relationships;
- to establish constructive business contacts;
- to trust the environment; to perceive criticism objectively;
- resist emotional manipulation, etc.
The lack of clear reference points and positive examples in childhood contributes to the formation of distorted thinking based on fictitious norms.
ACAs may be submissive or dominant, be overly responsible for others' problems and ignore their own, constantly seek approval and react painfully to criticism, severely condemn themselves, and take a victim position.
ACAs grow up with the belief that their lives have no value. They suffer from low self-esteem, alienation, inability to identify and express feelings.
Fear, anxiety, guilt and shame - the main emotions in their life. But in the behavioral models of ACA, along with problematic aspects, there are a number of advantages.
Difficult living conditions contribute to the formation of ACA:
- empathy and attentiveness; striving to smooth out conflicts; skills to provide support;
- maximum concentration in spontaneous situations;
- a sense of responsibility; hard work and diligence;
- resistance to stress;
- the ability to protect the weak;
- ingenuity and creativity.
The list of positive qualities can be continued. And all of them are the potential that psychologists use when developing ways to overcome the psychological problems of ACA.
Living in an alcoholic family puts an unhealthy life scenario in the child's mind. Very often, children play the roles of victims, pursuers and rescuers.
Over time, these destructive roles become part of the personality and interfere with the adult in all areas of life.
Many ACAs who seek help from a psychologist note that they are characterized by:
- increased level of anxiety;
- low self-esteem and lack of confidence;
- isolation and secrecy;
- pessimism and instability of the emotional state.
Initially, people can turn to a psychologist with problems that are not directly related to alcoholism in the family.
Very often they are worried about:
- difficulties in forming business relationships;
- suspiciousness and obsessive fears;
- obsessive forecasting of negative events;
- Difficulties of adaptation in a student or corporate environment;
- psychoemotional disorders, etc.
But in the process of consultation interaction, it is revealed that the roots of the problem lie in a dysfunctional family.
With the help of a psychologist, many ACA problems are successfully overcome. With the support of a specialist, a positive change program can be implemented. It may include the following areas:
❗ acceptance of the past;
❗ separation from parents and the formation of their own autonomy;
❗development of skills to build relationships;
❗increase self-esteem;
❗ development of skills to openly express feelings; ❗ creation of constructive goals and others.
Psychologists help to get rid of irrational attitudes and find ways to qualitatively improve life.
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