2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Some people, having received negative experience of relationships in life, subsequently experience difficulties in this matter. It can be very difficult for them to start rebuilding real relationships and therefore prefer to play in relationships. This applies equally to men and women. At the same time, in most cases, such relationships do not satisfy them at all, but they continue to support them. And accordingly, they become more and more unhappy, which naturally affects both work and the physical condition of a person. Not wanting to admit to themselves that such a relationship brings negativity, people continue to persistently convince themselves that everything is in order. There are many reasons for this behavior of adults, men and women, but there are those that are most common.
The experiences gained in past relationships can be very traumatic. Therefore, people strive to fill the resulting void as quickly as possible. It is clear that from such a position, the main thing in finding a new partner or partner will be speed. Internal requirements for a person in such cases are very low. "Find at least someone" is the main query. This is due to the fact that a person in such moments is very difficult with self-esteem. Both women and men begin to create constraints on quality relationships. Often in this case, people refer to age, the presence of children and other, in their opinion, adequate reasons. But such decisions are most often based on fear, the fear that negative experiences may repeat themselves. And no one wants to go through the gap again. That is why people begin to persuade themselves and convince themselves that not even a high-quality relationship is better than their absence. A man can almost consciously begin to play the role of a savior and a deliverer, for a woman, only on the basis that she made a reservation that she is uncomfortable in some circumstances. And women, after casual sex, begin to believe that they already have a relationship with a man.
A distinctive feature of such a relationship game is uncertainty, since self-hypnosis does not always help. And uncertainty is experienced by a person very difficult in terms of energy loss. It is especially difficult when this game becomes a habit. Then a person does not have the strength to even look at the current situation differently, apathy arises, and not only in relationships, but also in life in general. The absence of real emotional intimacy and its substitution with beliefs “better this way than nothing” lead to the fact that a person ceases to enjoy life altogether. But at the same time he restrains himself and continues to play, using his own memories, his experiences of disappointment to stimulate.
Gradually, the feeling of dissatisfaction grows, and quarrels begin over insignificant things, although in fact the reason is a lack of trust and understanding. A man may begin to show aggression, and a woman may react hysterically to this. As a result, scandals, but strangely enough, they do not always lead to a breakup, since the fear of loneliness and invented reasons, as well as the habit, keep people together. Such games in relationships can go on for years, and there is no talk of happiness at all. The cement of such a relationship is only the beliefs that people use. The most common of them is "Suffer, fall in love."
Negative experiences from past relationships can be the factor that can make a person's life miserable. But this can be experienced without trying to devalue oneself, life is not so simple, and sometimes things happen in it that can greatly change a person's life, you need to learn to notice such moments.
Live with joy!
Anton Chernykh.
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