What Men Do Not Forgive And What Women Do Not Forgive

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

That men and women do not forgive, only when it is not beneficial for them - when it contradicts their needs and interests. And in other cases, when they need and are interested, they will forgive EVERYTHING.

Just don't have the illusion that men do not forgive what women do not forgive: all these are fairy tales of men and women, nothing more than to intimidate or scare each other.

As is usually done, you yourself know, they say: I will never forgive you for this! - every person has heard and said it, regardless of gender.

Here's a big "secret" for you: Men and women - do not forgive what they DO NOT want to forgive.

On this, in general, the topic could be closed, because this is the essence of forgiveness or not forgiveness, but somehow, even, it is not entirely clear yourself.

Therefore, let's figure it out, why, in fact, and what exactly men and no less vengeful women do not want to forgive?

Well, with the answer to the question: Why don't women and men forgive each other or anyone? - it's somehow easier here:

And what, in fact, are we ALWAYS guided by when we want or don’t want to do something, including to forgive or not to forgive? That's right: your needs or interests - your conscious needs.

Before these needs and interests of man, NOTHING is able to resist: neither pride, nor dignity, nor even hatred - the human "WANT!" yet not so capable of making, and not what to forgive or not to forgive!

No, well, of course, if we WANT to forgive or DO NOT want to forgive, based on our needs and interests, then we will invent and say a lot, beautifully, pretentiously and intricately, in order to justify ourselves in our own and others' eyes.

Let us remember about duty, and about humanity, and about mercy, and about the commandments of God, and about love, and a shared past, if we forgive.

And if we do not forgive, then we will focus on our honor, pride, our moral foundations and principles. Up to that we can agree that, as Pontius Pilate said: I want to forgive you with all my heart, but people will not understand this and do not want - well, like, as always: I have nothing to do with it.

Conclusion, if we honestly admit the true state of affairs: That men do not forgive, that women do not forgive, only when it is not beneficial for them - when it is contrary to their needs and interests. And in other cases, when they need and are interested, they will forgive EVERYTHING.

Someone will say, but what about morality? And how can you forgive if a person violated your moral principles: betrayed your values and overstepped your moral principles and beliefs?

And there is no contradiction here either: for to observe or not to observe one's morality - to be satisfied and calm or to suffer from remorse - this is also a matter of human interest.

I want to remain moral - I will not forgive immorality. I can get along with my own conscience and with outside judgments, then I will forgive even the most immoral act, such as betrayal and betrayal.

Men, women forgive or not forgive. What for?

That men do not forgive, that women do not forgive: it happens. As it happens, they forgive. To forgive or not to forgive is of course important, but more important, nevertheless, is the question: Why?

To which, pay attention, we, again, respond based on our interests. That's how everything is confused here, and everything around interests, which is typical. You can, because:

1. Forgive, draw conclusions, how to forget, and live on without breaking off relations with the offender

A good life option that most reasonable people use. When they want to forgive and can, of course.

2. Do not forgive, harbor resentment, but continue to live on - to keep the relationship

Well, this is, as you know, in general, excuse me, the daddy, and not life.

3. Forgive and “let go with God”: I forgive you, but I don’t want to live with you, have a relationship with you and will not

This is, as it were, forgiveness without forgiveness. In my opinion, this is the best and most universal life option, if it is really impossible to forgive.

4. Do not forgive and therefore part - break off the relationship or transfer them to another plane

Yes, excuse me, why should I have a headache later in life, remembering this is not forgiveness and scrolling this situation in my head over and over again?

What, personally, you choose in your specific situation is your business - your interests and your life.

That men do not forgive, that women do not forgive when they themselves are not to blame

That men and women are not particularly inclined to forgive in a situation when they BELIEVE that they are not guilty of wrongdoing.

Well, like: I never cheated on you, I was faithful, and you cheated on me! Or: You are a fool, well, what have I to do with it !? Or, even simpler: You yourself (yourself) are to blame for everything!

Wait, calm down, zealous accusers: you are in a relationship with this person, no one "under the gun" forced you to them - was everything voluntary?

This means that if something went wrong in these relations, then your fault in this, moreover, exactly half, without any conditions and reservations, is! You just do not want or cannot, because of your stupidity, see it.

And even more, you don't want to admit it. How? And like this: any relationship, in its essence, a priori, is a mutual action of two subjects of relations.

Sorry for the rude, but absolutely true comparison: human relations are two gears in the mechanism of life - the behavior of the other completely depends on how one turns and lives, and vice versa.

BUT, of course, this does not mean that you always and in everything need to forgive your relationship partner, quite the opposite: you can not forgive, and a lot.

BUT, if you don’t forgive, and besides, you don’t admit your guilt, then be prepared to continue spinning and living without this person, because he has every right not to forgive you for not forgiving him.

But the most important thing is that you, more than once, then, will have to find yourself in situations when, in your opinion, someone is to blame for the problems of your life and you will not forgive him again.

Until you understand your guilt in the fact that you are being cheated, you are humiliated, betrayed, and so on and so forth.

And here are the events when, what men do not forgive and what women do not forgive

Based on the above, we can only say one thing: That, there are situations, events in the relationship between men and women, when they face the question "Forgive or not forgive."

And that they will choose forgiveness or not forgiveness, based on their own personal interests in this relationship. Even if they themselves will think and explain to everyone that they have forgiven or not forgiven, guided by something else.

What kind of stressful situations are these when it is necessary to decide to forgive or not to forgive? And, after all, in fact, under forgiveness or not forgiveness is not only the preservation or breakdown of relations, but also a sharp turn in life.

1. What men do not forgive and what women do not forgive: Treason

Well, everyone understands how tense it is in a relationship - treason. Moreover, it does not matter, so what kind of betrayal: complete - with a bed or possible, virtual betrayal, for example, in social networks. the networks of her husband, his wife made very close friends.

And what, have you ever been surprised when a wife is cheating, and her husband forgives her everything? Or, when the wife, just for a hint of her husband's innocent flirting with another woman, kicked him out of the house?

And why? Yes, he forgives, because, for example, he loves her, or there is simply nowhere to go, or he is a pervert - he likes it. In any case, a cuckold husband who forgives his wife's betrayal or infidelity has his own interest in forgiving, which, perhaps, is known only to him.

Or maybe he does not forgive, but only pretends to take revenge in the future, on occasion - this also happens, by the way.

And the woman who violently depicted a scene of jealousy, offended honor, dignity and unforgiveness, you see, after a week runs and flutters: it turns out that she needed to get rid of this man, that's all. So I have not forgiven, therefore.

The conclusion, which I personally voiced repeatedly: To forgive or not to forgive treason, it is up to you to decide ONLY personally, and, of course, in your own interests. And there is no need to drag in someone here, children, for example.

2. What men do not forgive and what women do not forgive: Betrayal

This is a more serious matter than betrayal: you can change something without betraying your husband or wife, lover or mistress - so casual sex turned up - so as not to take advantage of it?

BUT, then, then, back to wives, husbands, lovers with mistresses: I did not betray you - I remain with you, forever faithful.

In short: betrayal is betrayal - this is the least forgiven event. That men do not forgive, that women do not forgive? Betrayal. Or, if they forgive, then very rarely and in exceptional cases.

In addition, the betrayal may not be detected immediately, or the traitor may come with a confession, after a while, ask for forgiveness. Well, in general: a delicate matter, a difficult matter - everyone's business, to forgive or not to forgive betrayal.

3. What men do not forgive and what women do not forgive: Humiliation

To endure humiliation is a disregard for our honor, dignity, human rights, we are accustomed and are accustomed to throughout our history of civilization and each personally, from childhood.

It is possible that in some, it is already fixed in the genes. BUT, you need to clearly understand that in principle there can be no normal human relations if one of the people humiliates the other.

We can somehow come to terms with this and tolerate it in formal relationships - at work, on the street, BUT enduring humiliation in close personal relationships is already masochism, without any exaggeration.

If this is a one-time act of humiliation with the restoration of further parity in relations, then this is, in general, "little things in life", but forgiving constant humiliation - admitting oneself in the role of some kind of inferior participant in a relationship is, excuse me, an amateur.

4. What men do not forgive and what women do not forgive: Stupidity

In general, it is believed that stupidity is not a vice and is forgivable: after all, by and large, it is not a person's fault that he is stupid - "God did not give the mind, you cannot add it like that."

BUT, that women are not inclined to forgive a man for constant stupidity, that men do not like and do not forgive silly fools. Although, that those that these are willingly taken advantage of by stupid people.

BUT, here's to forgive them for their presence near them with their stupidity … However, as always, everyone's business: some man can have a fool for a pleasure, and some woman can use a fool more conveniently.

And those, in turn, enjoy living in humiliation. Life is diverse: for every fool there is a smart one and, conversely, to the delight of both - it also happens.

5. What men do not forgive and what women do not forgive: Inconsistency with gender status

HERE, what is really rare when men forgive women, and women for men, is the inconsistency with their declared status.

In fact, if a man starts, establishes a relationship with a Woman, and she, subsequently, turns out to be not quite a Woman in terms of her internal and external, first of all, sexual properties, then a man, well, cannot forgive such a setup.

If a woman gets to know and starts a relationship with a Man, and later sees that he does not have these masculine properties, then forgive such a thing, excuse me, means that she does not value herself as a woman.

6. What men do not forgive and what women do not forgive: Threats to life and health

To live with a person, or even just be in a relationship with him, when he is really dangerous - threatens with words and actions of your life and your health, this must be a masochist.

A normal, mentally healthy woman and a mentally adequate man will not tolerate this and will interrupt such a relationship - this cannot be forgiven: let these "fighters" go to be treated, and then deal with people.

7. What Men Do Not Forgive and What Women Do Not Forgive: Deception

Usually, especially men, are rather indifferent to facts and attempts to deceive themselves on the part of the opposite sex. In particular, oddly enough, from close people: wives, husbands, friends, children, relatives.

BUT, deception, deception, strife! If you are deceived and you are "neither sweet nor bitter" from this, and it is even funny to observe and close your eyes to it, that is one thing.

But if you are being deceived "by and large," then this is completely different. For example, a husband or wife cheat, hiding their "second life" or having their own secret savings and plans.

Yes, you never know, what other deceptions can be, when you believe, trust a person, and he, behind your back, does his dirty deeds and deeds, contrary to your interests.

Should you forgive this if you exposed the deceiver, but he repented and asks for forgiveness?

It all depends, as usual, on your interests in this relationship with this person, on the degree of depth of deception, and on your ability to take risks - to believe that this will not happen again.

Summary: What men do not forgive, what women do not forgive?

OK, ladies and gentlemen, first of all, as you understood, to forgive or not to forgive is a purely individual matter and depends on our current and future interests with the object of forgiveness.

And, secondly, you need to clearly understand that living in a state of unforgiveness of someone for something is literally “dearer to me” - because it means having a constant “headache” and “hemorrhoids” in your life.

Can't forgive and live with it and have this relationship further? - So forgive and break off the relationship: "Let it go, for yourself, with God!"

And realize your guilt that someone did something wrong to you in your relationship with him. Otherwise, you will continue to poke around in life in a situation when someone needs to be forgiven or not forgiven.