HOW TO LIVE SO THAT I DO NOT HURT ANYONE?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Is this possible and why betrayal is inevitable

The most common requests for psychotherapy are related to the relationships, feelings, and choices we make every day. The most common exits from these queries are straightforward and straightforward. All it takes is to start living in accordance with who you are. But this is what is most difficult. After all, we were all well brought up.

Very often people come to psychotherapy with "energy leakage", in a state of apathy, burnout and with various forms of refusal from life. The rejection of life most often looks as if a person has long lost the opportunity to choose something, and every day betrays himself, but does not even see it. The way out of such a request is also direct and rather simple - to stop betraying yourself. But this is also the most difficult thing, because we live in a society where the concepts of "must" and "must" are well developed.

Betrayal is inevitable, I often say when it comes to choice.

But the choice too often looks like the absence of any choice, because there are traditional attitudes and sets of rules that a person consciously or subconsciously conforms to. And then the concepts of "energy vampire", "drain energy" and "toxic people" come into play.

Good news

There are no vampires and toxic people who steal energy! There are ways to deal with your life and situations in it in this way that you yourself are depriving yourself of energy.

These methods are betrayal of oneself for the sake of life so as not to offend anyone.

These methods are ignoring your feelings and reactions that arise in different situations and require you to take actions that may be perceived as offensive. For example, stop talking with a person who has nowhere to drain negative energy and complaints. For example, say no where you want to say no, but parenting requires you to agree. For example, to limit dialogues with opponents who appeal not by arguments, but by personal relationships.

It is often enough to choose yourself when you start to feel nauseous from the feelings that the situation or the interlocutor causes. But too often, you "extinguish" these feelings and poison them.

Bad news

If you do not pay attention to what you want for too long, how exactly you want to build contact and what needs you have, this will inevitably lead to being surrounded by "toxic" people and a loss of energy. And this will lead to "stealing" your life in the end. After all, knowing nothing about yourself, you do not take responsibility for your life. And energy in this case is spent on keeping oneself in its natural manifestations.

It is impossible to live so as not to offend anyone.

It is impossible not to betray anyone. The only question is the choice of whom you betray - yourself or someone else.

It is impossible to be highly moral and happy. If you have morality but no choice, it will not lead to anything good.

It is impossible to live so as not to be offended.

All our senses are normal. Desires and needs are excellent. Choice and responsibility for it are needed. The only question is what we do with them, and what quality of life we get.