Male Irresponsibility In Relations With A Woman

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Not wanting or not being able to take responsibility for the relationship in a couple has a very negative effect both on the relationship itself and on the condition of a man and a woman. Often men are accused of irresponsibility, although, in all honesty, it cannot be denied that this trait is also inherent in women. The opinion of what exactly a man should bear, all responsibility for relations with a woman is developed by society. It has become a kind of axiom. Which women began to use, not especially trying to figure out what can actually motivate a man to consciously accept responsibility.

In my opinion, the roots of male irresponsibility are found in childhood. The model of upbringing that exists in society does not at all imply the disclosure of a boy's natural masculinity. Rather, on the contrary, because often in the family, the mother becomes in a position of suppression and constant reproaches. “Why didn’t you wash the dishes”, “Why didn’t make the bed”, “Why don’t you want to help me”, seems to be correct expressions, children need to be taught order and taught to work. But the whole point is with what kind and mood it is always said. The child sees that the actions required of him do not give the adults themselves any pleasure, and do not cause them joy, but only displeasure and irritation. Most often he hears this from his mother. In the majority, in such statements, the boy will hear reproach and accusation, and the inner feeling of resentment and dissatisfaction will only accumulate.

The upbringing of girls, in turn, also does not contribute, in most cases, to the development of skills necessary in communication with men. Most often, girls learn that in order to get something from a man, you need to cook, clean, wash and at the same time look attractive. All this together is perceived by the girl, and later by the woman, as payment for the attitude of the man. And therefore, the conviction arises that if she does all this, then he should admire, carry in his arms and look with loving eyes. Here you can even stomp your foot, because he must, and for some reason he either leaves or begins to change it and teach how and what to do. Moreover, such a woman's position resembles that of a victim, and she needs a man as a deliverer. But in this model there was no, and there is not even a mention of the fact that men should be asked, needed and told about it, not humiliated, but showing its importance, not become addicted. After all, it is addiction that generates the desire to become a victim.

The behavior of men and their manifestation of irresponsibility, or an instructive position, is nothing more than a kind of revenge for their undeveloped masculinity. Men, sometimes unconsciously, put their chosen ones in the place of their mothers and begin to take revenge on them, as if acting out a scenario from their childhood. This most of all resembles a very evil game, in which women also join, and very quickly, not realizing that they may well change both the relationship itself and the position of the man in it. And this in most cases leads to quarrels, tears, scandals and rupture. Nobody needs such a result, but after all, people often confuse pride and pride. The result is sad.

Men understand a woman's mood better on an emotional level than her words. After all, the main goal of a man in a relationship, no matter what, is to be close to a happy woman who can push him to some kind of achievement. Not to poke, but to push. After all, a healthy relationship between a man and a woman is not about the ability to bargain and get something on favorable terms. And here it is extremely important how a woman assesses herself, feels and positions herself in relation to a man. You can love and trust, but at the same time not beg or wring your hands in hysterics. It is much more effective not to play offended children, but to sincerely give a man the confidence that he is needed and important, first of all, as a person. This is what forms the basis of a man's conscious responsibility for a relationship.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.