MALE IDENTITY THREAT: THE MALE TURNS TO A BITCH

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

This man was looking for a therapist among men for a long time, but none of them suited him, in the speech of one he heard the sounds of the village, another caused disgust with his wet palms, the third was obese, the fourth looked like a big-headed fetus with an underdeveloped body hiding behind a white robe. Interesting description. "If he does not leave me, I will be the most perfect man," I thought to myself. He stayed.

I want to know more about the village, the moisture of the palms, obesity and the tadpole hiding its underdeveloped flesh under a white robe. Here's what emerged. The village is about cows, udders, dung and lack of culture. The moisture in the palms is disgusting, sticky, untidy, excessive and uncontrollable. Obesity is stupidity, formlessness, cowardice, limitation. The tadpole is an under-born, mentally and physically poor hermaphrodite.

Obviously, the gender of the therapists for a man is highly questionable. The countryside is disgusting and despised, contempt helps to distance oneself from the bumpkin therapist, a damp palm and obesity are disgusting miasma that literally stick and haunt, and a homunculus in a white coat evokes intense rage. The man recalls that at school obese and skinny boys were beaten, he himself several times was a participant in the persecution of children, who were only guilty of having full or "dystrophic" bodies.

This means that the obese and "dystrophic" are beaten, punished for something. Why and what for?

An obese boy is not masculine, cowardly and effeminate, male adolescents striving to assert their masculinity expel them from the pack, as well as underdeveloped dystrophic boys, whose bodies are difficult to rank as both female and male. I am not inclined to explain the beating of obese and "dystrophic" teenagers only by the desire to establish themselves at the expense of the weak. It seems to me, and working with this man only confirmed my guesses that the source of aggression against these guys is due to the fact that they cannot be included in the male hierarchical union. The beating comes from fear of becoming a woman and not becoming a man, so the bearers of threats are placed in a marginal zone. At the age of 15-16 (it was this age that meant a man) for boys it is normative to strengthen masculinity and weaken femininity.

"This process of increasing masculinity is phenomenologically manifested in the phenomenon of adolescent male chauvinism, which is associated with the need to separate from Zhenky, from the All-Powerful Mother." (cited from Gender-role psychology: collective monograph / under the editorship of professor A. S. Kocharyan. Kh., 2015).

Truly masculine maturity begins with liberation from the shackles of the mother.

But why was the man so persistently looking for a therapist? "Disgusting at heart" - that's why. And all this vileness began suddenly. Quite unexpectedly, my client's 75-year-old father "passed". Heart, lung and leg problems worsened sharply. The man visited his father only in his parents' house or in hospitals, but he never stayed up for a particularly long time and did not know various small details. The man's parents tried to do without him. But one day, the man's mother who fell ill could not accompany his father to the hospital, where they were going together. Then the parents turned to their son for help. The man went with his father to the hospital. Leaving the hospital and walking through a small landing, the man's father said that he wanted to use the toilet, the son suggested that he come back, but the father said that he would not get there. Having escorted his father away from the well-worn path along which they were walking, the man stopped, and the father walked a little further behind the trees. His father's movements seemed strange to the man and he turned away. Consciousness did not want to admit reality, but from that moment vileness settled in his soul. Unpleasant dreams and outright nightmares have become almost constant. Their symbolism was simply staggering: a severed neck that appeared in the interior of a car, a tumbled-out bathroom faucet, a clown mockingly threatening to show his genitals, earthquakes and floods, a dog that turned into a bitch.

Vile, disgusting, disgustingly carnal, uncontrollable underneath - what made us look for a therapist and what was sharply manifested in relation to male therapists.

The old age of our loved ones throws us many challenges and threats. The old age of this man's father posed a threat to his male identity.

The way of male action when urinating, as Freud believed, aroused pride in the primitive man. I can argue that the pride associated with the ability to extinguish a fire with a stream of urine is inherent not only in primitive men, but also in very modern ones. This way of self-expression, for all its absurdity, women will never master. Males leave their rough urine autographs at every paw lift on every corner, bitches, like women, crouch to the ground.

Dreams of males turning into bitches hauntingly reminded the man of what had happened in the forest. Then he turned away so as not to see, but at that moment he lost concentration. Both father and son have lost concentration: one is no longer able to urinate while standing, without the risk of getting dirty, the other turns away, "closes his eyes", plunging into the world of fears. The horror of becoming a bitch with the onset of his own old age began to obsessively absorb the man.

During this period, the man's problems in business that began a long time ago are aggravated, bad relations with his wife end in divorce. When the fact of what happened in the forest was recognized, the suffering became self-evident. While undergoing therapy, the man tried to spend more time with his father, who continued to lose strength. After work, the man visited his father almost every day, having long private conversations with him. Problems in business demanded new and decisive actions, going beyond the usual and stereotypical ways of action, and the development of new territories. In one of the conversations with his father, in which the man shared his plans and doubts with him, he received an urgent recommendation to act and take risks. Soon the man began to realize his plans, therapy sessions were often skipped. But the man became completely different. A male who has turned into a bitch returns the status of a male: the father's recommendations to move, take risks, conquer new territories return the man's concentration and projection - ways of surviving male identity.