2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When I was fifteen or sixteen years old, I went to rest in a summer camp, which was located in a charming place among the mountains and forests. Among other activities, one meeting with a psychologist was also planned for our group.
At that time, the word "psychology" I associated only with tests that were not very clear for me, which from time to time we were asked to fill out at school, and then a beautiful, very confident woman came, who simply and unobtrusively offered to talk about feelings. And then she told us a fairy tale, a fairy tale that touched me then to the depths of my soul.
This memory came to me now somehow completely unexpectedly, when I was returning home after consulting a seventeen-year-old girl who, crying, told me about her unsuccessful first love.
“And you are a very happy person!” I said when our time was almost over.
She looked up at me in surprise.
“I'm not kidding,” I smiled. - You are happy already because you can experience such deep sincere feelings, and believe me, not everyone is given …”.
Then we agreed on the next consultation and she left. That's when I remembered the summer camp, that meeting with the psychologist and the fairy tale …
“And now I’ll tell you a story. During the story, I ask you to listen carefully to yourself and your feelings,”said the psychologist, which aroused our very keen interest.
“So, once upon a time there was a Prince and a Princess who loved each other very much. Their kingdoms were divided by the forest. Once the Prince offered the Princess his hand and heart, and she was extremely happy and immediately agreed to become his wife. But the old King, the Princess's father, did not want to hear about any marriage, much less with a Prince from a neighboring kingdom. Then the Prince came up with a plan. He told the Princess that when it gets dark, she must quietly leave her castle and come through the forest to him, then they will immediately get married and no one and nothing will cross their love. The princess obeyed him and did everything as he said. At night she left the castle and went into the forest. At first it was even fun for her, but then, when she went deeper, she became more and more afraid. She had never been in the forest at night and after a while she realized that she had lost her way and got lost. She became very scared and did not know what to do. Suddenly she saw a human figure not far from her. Her heart pounded with joy, she thought that it was the Prince who had come out to meet her. But it turned out to be just the Forester, who bypassed the forest estates. After explaining to him what had happened, the Princess asked for help. “I will help you,” said the Forester. "But I want a reward for that." “The Prince will give you any money,” said the Princess. “I don’t need money,” the Forester replied. “I want intimacy with you. So if you agree, I will take you to the Prince's castle, if not, stay here, you will become food for wild animals …”. The princess turned pale with horror. She was scared to death by the Forester's proposal, but the prospect of staying here at the mercy of the beasts turned out to be even more terrifying, and she agreed. At the same time, the worried Prince sent his trusted servant to meet the Princess. The servant arrived just as the Forester and the Princess were having sex. He immediately returned to the Prince and recounted everything he had seen. And when the Princess finally got to the castle, the Prince came out in her and said in an indifferent voice: “I know what you did. Now I don't need you anymore. " And, without giving her anything to explain, he closed the doors in front of her.
"What happened to the Princess next?" one of us asked.
“This is where the fairy tale ends,” answered the psychologist. - "Please share your feelings from what you heard."
There were many feelings, and we expressed and expressed them very expressively.
"What would each of you do in the place of the Princess and the Prince?" she asked.
“The princess is to blame for everything! The prince did everything right, why does he need such a wife? - I flashed with anger and indignation.
"Why so?" - asked the psychologist.
“Well, how ?! After all, if she really loved the Prince, she should not have agreed to the Forester's proposal! Better to be torn apart by beasts than to betray a loved one like that …"
“You know, Ira,” answered the psychologist. “I understand your feelings very well … When I was your age, I thought the same way. But in adulthood, everything turned out to be not so unambiguous and categorical”…
Remembering this tale now, everything is really perceived in a completely different way. And the feelings are different. There were many questions and answers …
It would be possible, of course, now to carry out a psychoanalytic interpretation of the symbols, images and characters of the tale. One could talk for a long time about the naivety of the Princess (who went into the terrible forest without protecting herself in any way), about the egocentricity of the Prince (who for some reason himself did not come to her palace, did not listen and, in fact, betrayed), about the cunning of the Forester (who took advantage of her defenselessness), about the maturity / immaturity of their love, and so on, and so on. But all this will be just a psychological theory.
And I wondered, how would I answer that psychologist's question now?..
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