2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I know everything, but I do nothing.
A frequent phrase from clients that I understand everything, have read many books, attended trainings for personal growth, and I seem to start, but I can’t take a long time, I give up. …
Why is this happening? At the level of rationalization, we have already accumulated knowledge, but there are still our PSYCHOLOGICAL PROTECTIONS that continue to live with us and protect our psyche from stress and changes.
Let's say you lived poorly, and suddenly a miracle happened and you started earning several times more, isn't it great? Will your psyche withstand such sharp leaps? After all, you have neither the skill nor the ability to dispose of such wealth. … Very often, after business trainings, people who have never been involved in business will simply "break the wood", on this energy wave, which they were charged with, invest money in the wrong place and go broke. …
For important changes to take place and stay for a long time, you need to prepare the ground for them. For some it will be to learn some work skills, do a lot of trial and error. For some, it will be saturated with a resource, feel the support, and already separate from their parents and start their own independent life. …
This all happens gradually, so that you yourself and your environment get used to seeing and knowing you in a new way.
Or maybe the environment will change completely, unable to withstand your changes? … Think, what do you already know? What can you do already? And how can you reward yourself? So that the goal is not so scary, divide it into small steps, stages.
Just right now, grab a pen and write:
- what do I want? your desires
- what do I need for this?
- what can I do right now?
- and what I cannot do, but I dream.
When the plan is on paper and the goals are outlined, this will already be the first step! And to do the next one, you need to look for what the resource gives you. And it is also better to paint.
And remember, for important and global changes, it is important to mature and do at least something every day to achieve your goals! If you find it difficult to decide, then ask the person to support you. This can be parents, best friend, psychologist, coach, other half, friends with the same interests. It's not so scary together)))
Do you have such feelings? How do you deal with them?
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