20 Things You Should Know About A Love Triangle Psychologist Andrey Zberovsky Will Tell

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20 Things You Should Know About a Love Triangle Psychologist Andrey Zberovsky will tell

Love triangle: quite often in the modern world, relationships with a third person are common, so why do love triangles … Psychologist's advice on how to determine if you are in a love triangle, and what to do next? To check your partner on love triangle, let's run our test. The fact that you are simply being deceived, and your loved one is trying to build a parallel relationship with someone, is quite easy to identify by several diagnostic signs. (Which, like those notorious "donkey ears", will probably take place even if you yourself were pulled "to the left" … Keep this in mind …). Let's call them.

Twenty signs of possible cheating on the part of a partner (love triangle):

• Your partner has begun to shy away from you picking up or waiting for him (her) from work or school. He (a) refers to the uncertainty of the time of completion of work or study, to the fact that he (a) himself (a) is able to get home. And in general, he (she) feels sorry for your time. (It is likely that he or she is planning to meet someone else.)
• He (a) began (a) unusually long to write responses to your such kind and gentle text messages. (It is uncomfortable for him (her) to write you answers with a new partner).
• From time to time (especially in the evenings) the partner's mobile phone turns off. Previously, this was not the case … (Your partner does not want to lie to you, and it is extremely difficult to answer you in the presence of another person …).
• The partner's mobile phone is on, but they either do not take it, or they take it, but they answer quickly and dryly, they promise to call back quickly, but they do not call back. Then they justify themselves by saying that "you were already asleep and did not want to bother you …". (He (she) again felt uncomfortable talking to you in front of a new partner).
• You pay attention to the fact that the number of SMS messages sent to your partner has clearly become more than usual. He (a) reads them and writes answers, diligently shutting himself off from you. In addition, your partner will make sure to erase all received messages. (Probably there is something to hide …).
• There are other "oddities" with phone calls. When someone calls their mobile, your loved one immediately runs away to another room or gets out of the car. If this happens at home, he (a) almost never calls back from a landline phone nearby. (Perhaps your partner wants someone else not to find out the home phone number and break the whole conspiracy without calling when you are near …).
• Your partner began to have small pleasant items, in the spirit of those that you previously gave to each other: perfume, fountain pens, key chains, wallets, watches, jewelry and flowers. You didn't buy them together. They do not really correspond to his (her) style … (The question is: who is so caring?).
• Your partner began to go to the cinema or club "with his company" more often than usual, or to say that today he (s) will be busy, because "you need to be with your parents." When you ask his friends or her girlfriends about the title of the movie or what time they left, there is an awkward pause. People exchange glances among themselves and mumble something indefinite. You feel that you are being frankly lied to. (They are actually lying to you!).
• You found out that your loved one left a corporate party (a gathering of classmates, classmates, someone's birthday) an hour earlier than everyone else, but came home an hour later than he should … So rack your brains over this fact! Either the person just decided to take a walk, or he dropped in to see someone "for the light" … (If it's cold outside - definitely, the second …).
• Your meetings began to break down more and more often under various plausible pretexts. On weekends, a loved one began to travel more and more "with his parents to the dacha" or "to visit a sick grandmother."There was no interest in all this before … (Granny is clearly not more than twenty-five years old!).
• You have become less likely to stroll around the city center, almost never go to places of a large crowd of people. (Your partner is probably afraid to accidentally meet someone with whom he (she) has a new romance).
• Sometimes your partner inexplicably falls in for an hour or two. Theoretically, he (a) should (at) be at home, but all types of communication do not work and it is not possible to verify the reliability of this fact. Then the partner refers to the fact that he (s) was very tired that evening, so he turned off the phone and just fell asleep. (Most likely, he (s) met with another person …).
• You have noticed that at home of your loved one your joint photographs, which had previously been in the most conspicuous place, have been removed somewhere. (Perhaps someone came to your partner who does not need to know about his (her) current relationship with you …). Option: the partner does not exhibit your photos at all …
• Your partner is increasingly looking at you with sad and attentive eyes, shows a strange tenderness … (Perhaps he (a) is trying to understand whether you guess what is happening or not. At times he (she) is very ashamed, but the "critical program" gradually pain relieves …).
• Your partner is in conflict with you literally over little things, digging into what was previously perceived as quite natural. If a quarrel does arise, your partner acts as its “arsonist”, diligently “adds fuel to the fire”. Instead of looking for a compromise as before, he (a) seeks to exacerbate the situation as much as possible. (All this is an old trick. In order to leave, "slamming the door", it is necessary to make you extreme (to her) and to blame all the responsibility for breaking the relationship on you. Then the inherently shameful exit will look very beautiful outwardly).
• You are surprised at the strange passivity of your partner in sexual relations. Previously, he (s) hinted at the possibility of sex every time you were alone. Now he (a) is silent … (However, this is not always the case. Fearing the premature detection of double play, your partner at this time may demonstrate violent sexual activity and in this way "cover up the tracks" … Therefore, consider this sign the most important, as they do some, I don't recommend).
• Your partner (especially, this applies to men) constantly has urgent business trips, after which he (a) returns home in a completely cheerful and elated state. (For officers of the militia, FSB, army and navy, sometimes this is explained by exercises, "reinforcements", alarms, ambushes and special operations such as "Whirlwind - anti-terror", etc.).
• "Well-wishers" reported that they saw your partner walking (walking) with someone "under the arm" or sitting (s) with someone in a cafe. (No, no, they are not hinting at anything! So, take note …).
• Your partner's clothes sometimes have lipstick marks, sequins from nail polish, and women's hair. You explain this by the fact that the whole team congratulated the birthday girl today, and it was he who had to give flowers and receive kisses in return. So there are such "gifts" left … (This, of course, happens in reality. But birthday people rarely go five to seven times a month … As for the traces of lipstick, we all know very well that most of the girls thus, on purpose, “leaves its traces.” This helps to provoke a conflict with the wife of a married friend and makes possible competitors know about his presence …).
• Comparing photos of your partner taken at different events without your participation, you noticed that the same person is sitting next to him (her) all the time. Moreover, obviously of the opposite sex … And in general, lately you have been shown so little photos from those places where you were not …. (See all his (her) photos immediately!)

Testing results

This averaged set of signs of an impending or already completed betrayal will help you better understand what is happening around you.

If most of these signs “do not work”, and you have not caught your partner “red-handed” with someone under the same blanket, you can breathe a sigh of relief! Your partner is faithful to you. It is worth fighting for him (her)!

If at least five or seven of these signs are present, you should be on your guard …

my video advice

Practical advice

First. Arrange a couple of provocations and calm down

If you feel you have a manic suspicion, try to make sure that your partner is loyal by contradiction.

To do this, arrange a few provocations. For example:

- Agree with your beautiful girlfriend that she will start "voting" right in front of your friend, leaving the car from the yard to the street. See if he will give her a lift and ask for a phone …

- Give an assignment to your expensively dressed friend to approach your friend on the street and try to get to know each other. Look at it from the outside.

- Let your acquaintances call your partner, say that they made a mistake with the number, but try to strike up a conversation and agree on the continuation of communication.

- Get yourself another SIM card or mobile phone. Start sending passionate text messages to your partner. If your partner does not immediately inform you about the "left" messages) offer to meet. That will be fun …

- Present your partner a phone registered to your last name. Sometimes take a printout of calls and find out the belonging of the most frequently repeated phones. Think about who they might belong to?

- When sending a friend or girlfriend to the beach with his (her) company, take binoculars and observe his (her) behavior from a distance.

- If your boyfriend or girlfriend lives separately from your parents, make two or three unexpected night visits. Find out if there are any guests …

- Look with whom your loved one leaves school or work: is it not the same person who repeats next to him (her) all the time …

- Check if someone else comes for him (her) besides you …

A warning: Note: you can check each other indefinitely. Observing your partner is a definite mental disorder. Therefore, even if you really like to run everywhere with binoculars and a camera, learn to control yourself. We checked it once and that's enough! Then just love and trust. Believe me, it will be much better this way …

Spying on your partner is often a way to cover up your own infidelities and get a reason to break up …

Second. Better not do any checks

Keep in mind: study the printout of your partner's phone conversations, read the text messages he (she) received while your partner is in the bathroom, check for condoms in your pockets or purse, collect other people's hair from his (her) clothes, calculate the time of his (her) movements around the city, peeping through other people's windows through a telescope from your car, guarding at the entrance, leafing through other people's notebooks and diaries, organizing provocations is an extremely vile business and does not paint you at all. It's best not to do any of this!

Those who cannot find confirmation of their suspicions will surely begin to think and conjecture …

Painful pride can easily turn a call from a person who made a wrong number - into a cipher about the place of the next date, a business meeting - into amorous adventures, a corporate party - into a drunken orgy, a trip to the bathhouse - into a show with prostitutes, a real business trip - into sexual pleasures for someone. then at home. Therefore, in order not to upset yourself (herself) and not to push your loved one away with distrust, it is best not to do any of this.

If you love - trust!If you don’t love, if you transferred someone you loved before to the category of “hopeless”, do not waste time and nerves looking for a plausible excuse to leave. Just break up

Do not humiliate the happiness of the past with mutual accusations of a "double game"! Gather courage and mutual respect in order to honestly say: “I once loved you, but now I do not … Forgive me for not keeping my love. But I still keep the memory of the good that happened between us, and I still respect you as a person. I do not want to invent special reasons and put you in an awkward position … Sorry, but I want to end our relationship … ".

However, do not rush to say such sad words. Give your partner a chance