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What books will help you gain all the necessary knowledge in the field of psychology and psychotherapy in order to look inside your consciousness and understand your inner “I”?
1. Category "Family and love"
Love is a disease , Frank Tellis
From a psychological point of view, love is a rather ambiguous state. If you want to get answers to the questions “What is love and how does it arise”, “Why do we fall in love and with whom?”, The book is definitely for you.
We. The Deeper Aspects of Romantic Love, Robert Johnson
Very easy to read, written in the form of a story or rather a myth. All explanations are given in the form of metaphorical explanations and images, which is why you can understand this deep topic well.
The Family and How to Survive It by Robin Skinner and John Cleese
A very atypical book, full of English humor, about the amazing paradoxes that accompany us when choosing a partner, family problems and stereotypes in the patterns of behavior that we inherit from generation to generation. Why do we meet those we fall in love with? Why do we fall in love with those we fall in love with? How do I stop repeating the parent script?
“Dreams of Eden. In Search of a Good Wizard , James Hollis
The book is written in a more complex language, so a reader who is not familiar with psychological terminology will literally "wade" through the text. It should definitely be read by those who are trying to understand themselves and in a relationship with a partner.
Dancing with the Family, Karl Whitaker
The book is written in the form of a fairy tale on the example of a case of one family therapy, it is easy and dynamic to read.
Midnight Reflections of a Family Therapist, Karl Whitaker
Based mainly on the therapist's deep reflections on family issues, there are specific working techniques and highlights from practice, ideas to help better understand family history, and some debunking of our long-held beliefs.
“Relationship of love. Norm and Pathology , OF Kernberg
Written in a rather complicated language, the terminology of psychoanalysis is abundant. If you read Dreams of Eden, this book will be an order of magnitude easier to read. It may be difficult for the first few chapters, you will have to look through the meanings of some words in Wikipedia, but you get used to the language of the book pretty quickly, and from the middle it will be quite comfortable to read.
2. Category "Male psychology"
"He. Deeper Aspects of Male Psychology ", Robert Johnson
The book is written in the form of a myth, so it is very easy to perceive. What does it mean to be a man? What place do women occupy in the life of a modern man? How do men differ emotionally and where to look for the roots of a bad mood?
“Under the shadow of Saturn. Male Mental Trauma and Their Healing, James Hollis
A truly deep book, written in a fairly structured way. According to J. Hollis, many of the problems of men are associated with the impact of the negative mother complex and, only getting rid of it, they will be able to feel truly mature and capable of trusting relationships with others.
3. Category "Female psychology"
"She. Deeper Aspects of Women's Psychology ", Robert Johnson
The book is written in the form of a myth. What is female maturity? What place does a man occupy in a woman's life? What are the similarities and psychological differences between the life stories of all women? How to find Psyche and Aphrodite in yourself?
Mother. Madonna. The harlot. Idealization and Devaluation of Motherhood”, Estela V.
Welldon
According to the author, at different stages of life, a woman's body affects her psychology. In fact, it is a very deep book, suitable for anyone interested in the psychology of motherhood, women and, in general, parent-child relationships.
4. Category “About personal. Security breach"
Baseline Defect: Therapeutic Aspects of Regression, Mikael Balint
Forms a common understanding of the central problems of psychoanalytic theory - the nature of the self, the consequences of developmental disorders, the value of empathy.
Schizoid Phenomena, Object Relations and the Self by Harry Guntrip
Describes the clinical picture of a schizoid personality and its problems. What is the nature and primary failures of ego development? Why is it difficult to treat patients with schizoid personality disorder?
5. Category “About personal. Attachment Injuries"
Liberation from Codependency by Berry Winehold and Janey Winehold
Codependency is one of the most common problems that prevents people from living fully. Codependent individuals constantly feel the need for the approval of others, nourish and maintain relationships that humiliate their dignity, but at the same time feel powerless to change anything, do not understand their personal desires, and in general are not able to experience a feeling of true closeness and love for their partner … The book describes techniques for getting rid of codependent relationships.
Escape from intimacy. Ridding Your Relationship of Counterdependency, the Other Side of Codependency, "Berry Winehold & Janey Winehold
According to the authors, counterdependence is the main obstacle to creating harmonious and intimate relationships. People with counterdependent habits show strength, confidence and success on the outside, but inside they feel fear and weakness, and resist forming close bonds. How to understand that there is a counterdependent person next to you and help him?
Both books are recommended for reading by both counterdependent individuals and codependents.
6. Category “About personal. About attachment"
Affection by John Bowlby
An English psychologist gives succinct and clear answers to the questions:
- What is the nature of human affection?
- Where are its origins?
- How is the attachment of a small child to an adult born and formed?
In the author's opinion, the normal mental development of a child is based solely on the child's love for the mother and the mother for the child, otherwise pathological forms of behavior appear.
Making and Breaking Emotional Ties by John Bowlby
Why is separation from the mother in the earliest childhood experienced by the child as acute grief, affecting his mental health throughout his subsequent life? As part of writing the book, the author conducted research on children - how they react to their mother when she leaves for a long time, then returns. As a consequence, the type of attachment in adulthood is directly related to the mother-child relationship in early childhood.
Awakening the Tiger - Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levin, Anne Frederick
The book describes exactly how trauma is formed, why trauma becomes trauma, how it is displayed on the body. The approach to understanding the nature of trauma and the mechanism of working with it is quite original and unconventional.
7. Category "Narcissistic issues"
The Drama of the Gifted Child and the Search for Your Own Self, Alice Miller Even if you don't have a narcissistic trauma, this book is definitely worth reading!
It helps to completely rethink your childhood and past, to look from a different point of view at the character that you have formed. Written as a story about narcissistic parents raising a child. After reading, you will definitely wonder if you have a narcissistic trauma.
“Analysis of the Self. A systematic approach to the treatment of narcissistic disorders
personality , Heinz Kohut
Classics of the genre. If you want to fully understand the problems of personality psychology, the book is definitely for you.
“Hell's web. How to survive in the world of narcissism? , Sandy Hotchkis
The book is written in a simple and accessible language, is structured, contains a lot of examples from life and analytical practice, practical recommendations for self-defense in the society of a narcissistic personality. What are the signs of narcissistic disorder and how can you tell them apart? How to break out of the narcissistic web? What are the most effective defense mechanisms? How do you deal with people with certain narcissistic traits?
“While you were trying to become a god … The torturous path of the narcissist”, Mlodik I. Yu.
The book is written in the form of a novel and a psychological article, read in one breath. The author offers to look at the life of narcissists from two completely different sides - from the point of view of the people who live next to them, and from the point of view of a psychotherapist. A vivid example of how we ourselves allow the people around us to dictate the conditions of our life.
8. Category "On masochism"
"Masochism. The Jungian View "by Lin Cowen
How to understand people with a penchant for masochism and understand masochistic aspirations embodied in a variety of forms?
“50 shades of pain. The nature of female submission , Karen Horney, Sigmund Freud, Richard von Kraft-Ebing
Is female masochism a problem to be solved or a trait to be accepted? According to Z. Freud, to be a woman means to be prone to masochism, but is it really so?
9. Category "On crises"
“Pass in the middle of the way. How to overcome a midlife crisis and find a new one
the meaning of life , James Hollis
A really gorgeous book that will give clear and understandable explanations about crises in life. Each person goes through some turning point in life, from adolescence to the inevitable encounter with old age and death. How can you learn to rethink your life, feel your importance again and make your life path much more interesting?
“Crisis and Trauma in Clinical Gestalt Therapy”, A. Mokhovikov, A. Poverennova A. Mokhovikov specialized in crises and injuries. The book includes his lectures on the problems of psychological trauma, it is easy to read and understand.
10. Category "About the body"
Betrayal of the Body, Depression and the Body, Love and Orgasms, Pleasure. Creative approach to life , A. Lowen
Alexander Lowen created a revolutionary method of psychotherapy aimed at restoring the body to natural spontaneity through a system of special exercises, he investigated the effect of the body on the psyche and vice versa, finding that the relationship is directly proportional. In his practice, the author works precisely through the body.
11. Category "About success"
Rules for Success by Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer
The book is structured, contains a huge number of recommendations, perfect for those who want to achieve their goals by changing their inner "I". I recommend that you carefully work through the first part of the book (there are 24 chapters in total) - sit with a pen and a notebook and write down all the recommendations, and then constantly follow at least a few of them. According to the author, following two rules on average, you can increase your income and reduce the time you spend on work within two years.
12. Category "About sexual life"
"Basic Instinct", Dmitry Kapustin
Written quite difficult, by a professor who has worked for over 40 years in the field of sexopathology. In the book you can find absolutely everything on the topic - myths and delusions, issues of child sexuality, the norm and deviations of manifestations of human sexuality, and even an explanatory dictionary of sexological terms.
Sexuality, Love and Gestalt by Bridget Martel
An excellent book with practical exercises written in simple language. It covers the basics of the most exciting sex issues - how to achieve orgasm, shame and guilt in sexual relationships, sexual orientation and problems with desire.
Sex Therapy by Helen Singer Kaplan
An illustrated guide for couples who have difficulty in their sex life. Helen Kaplan believes that the best place to treat sexual dysfunction is in bed, not a doctor's office.
“We Are Our Brain: From Uterus to Alzheimer's,” Dick Swaab
The book is about how some diseases are associated with developmental disabilities. The author traces human life from conception to death - starting with the womb, then examining the stage of birth and birth trauma, infancy, adolescence, and so on. Analyzes the issues of schizophrenia, autism, addiction, chemical nature and sexual preferences - how all this was formed, on the basis of what, what disorders in human development were at different stages of life. Written in simple language.
13. Category "About diagnostics"
"The Practice of Gestalt Therapy", Frederic Perls Written complex, but all descriptions of the exercises can be omitted, read and do the exercise itself. The author's technique is perfect for those who are anxious, living in the past or the future. For a more effective result, you need to do several exercises, but do not expect that you will understand the technique after 1-2. The book will help you better feel the outside world and yourself, prepare for meditations.
“Psychoanalytic diagnostics. Understanding the structure of personality in the clinical
process , Nancy McWilliams
A reader-book that can be read and re-read - there is information about schizoids, narcissists, psychopaths, masochists, depressed, anxious and borderline personalities.
It will be useful for those who want to learn how to separate people.
"Treatment of the Borderline Personality", E. Greenberg
A small book that, nevertheless, clearly and clearly gives the definition of the borderline personality, the characteristics of its state of mind and the method of treatment of borderline disorders.
“Severe personality disorders. Psychotherapy strategies , O. F. Kernberg
How to deal with deadlocks and difficult situations in therapy? What type of psychotherapy is generally indicated for the patient?
Character Psychotherapy by Stephen M. Johnson
The ABC book for a novice psychotherapist and those who want to understand the essence of human nature. Why do people behave in one way or another? Why is there so much madness in each of us and what to do about it?
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