2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Doubt, as Wikipedia says, this is a mental state or a state of mind in which abstinence from a definitively definite judgment arises, or / and a bifurcation (triple, etc.) of its formation, due to the inability of consciousness to draw a discrete unambiguous conclusion.
And yet, doubt is considered a fundamental difference between thinking and non-thinking nature …
What do you think doubt is our friend or foe? Is it good that we can doubt?
Tell me, how often do you doubt? And can you tell in what and in what more often?
Doubts, in my opinion (and also, guided by the model of identity of positive psychotherapy) can be divided into several categories:
1. in oneself;
2. in a partner, close person, relative, etc.;
3. in the surrounding people, groups of people (or society as a whole);
4. in your future, in faith, in the Universe and / or in the whole World (if taken globally).
Now I want to dwell in more detail on the doubts that we have with ourselves. Doubts about yourself, your strengths, actions.
We have to make choices every day, but every choice (even the decision about what to wear) can involve doubts, right? By the way, about clothes is often a difficult choice for women. Is this dress better today or something else? I go to an unfamiliar place and do not understand how warm it is, for example. It is also important for me to look good and in which one will I be more attractive? Here, no doubt about it! And what to choose, what to do, what to wear? But, no matter what doubts in this situation torment, the choice, in any case, needs to be made, because I will not go completely without a dress (although this option is also not excluded))) or I will not stay at home due to the fact that I know what to wear. Yes, maybe I will make the wrong choice, but I will not suffer much from this. Then I will have the experience and the next time I visit the same place, dress accordingly. And I understand that these doubts, in the choice of clothes, will not stop me from visiting the place where I plan to go … and such doubts are an absolute norm for a person, which does not interfere with his life at all.
Here's another example. Suppose I want to learn to dance, but I doubt it. Is it worth starting at that age, but will I succeed, and can I afford it, and will I find the time for this? So I doubt it from year to year … and already 10 years have passed, but I never went to dance and did not even begin to study. And I still don't know if I can succeed or not, can I or cannot? I did not take any action, there seems to be no disappointment, but doubts still remained and all these 10 years influenced me (I would even say tortured) and continue to influence, if the desire to try has not disappeared … in such a situation, self-doubts are simply destructive for a person.
Let's consider another situation. For example, I am a surgeon and I have to carry out a very difficult operation. I have never done this before, and the theoretical knowledge base is letting me down in this vein. There are doubts, and even what! Of course, I can theoretically prepare, read a lot of literature before the operation and consolidate my knowledge, even by visiting the morgue … But! Excessive self-confidence and the decision to carry out the operation on their own (without safety net and support from more experienced colleagues) can cost another person his life, in this situation! And here doubts can only be for good, not harm …
And there can be a lot of different situations, of course. It is imperative to take into account all the circumstances and take into account doubts.
Let's summarize
Doubts are necessary and important, but! Everything is good in moderation and everything needs balance. Doubt is simply necessary, sometimes it can even save you from a rash, spontaneous decision or action. But you cannot question everything on a global scale and bring the situation to the point of absurdity. For example: due to doubts and the inability to decide what to wear, I could not leave the house today!
As for doubts about a partner, the surrounding society and / or the future, the situation is similar. I advise you to adhere to the same common sense and a balanced approach.
If doubts become excessive or, conversely, are absent altogether; when fears of making a decision are added to doubts (pathological indecision appears), a strong fear of responsibility or actions occur without hesitation and lead to unpleasant consequences, etc. - here you should think deeply, and perhaps seek help from a specialist.
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