Virtual Romance Or Where Do Dreams Go?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I would like to touch on this topic, dear friends … Now, in the age of the heyday of computer technology, cases of not real, but virtual romantic relationships, the so-called "virtual novels", are extremely common. Let's touch on this phenomenon more closely with an attempt to get to the source of the phenomenon?

What do you think is hidden behind such a form communication at a distance? Well, think … The answer is on the surface - fear of rapprochement, otherwise - INTIMOPHOBIA.

The presence of distance neutralizes this unconscious fear. There is no physical closeness, psychological closeness is virtual (not real, far-fetched): partners are not in the existing representation, but in illusions and dreams.

Let's take a look at what are the benefits of having a computer space format for virtual lovers?

1. Interaction at a distance preserves the participants' sense of internal security: the other is at a distance, far away, which means it will not hit, push, or offend. And also - will not appropriate, will not "swallow", will not "turn into emptiness." He is at a distance - not dangerous.

2. The virtual space hides the other, revealing to the partner from the most attractive side. The “polished, painted on as it should” hero fits perfectly into the ideal picture, the illusory image.

Intimophobia Is a fairly common phenomenon, flourishing even before the advent of the Internet. But earlier it was manifested differently. Intimophobes communicated with their chosen ones in a real, relational field, but only at the stage of falling in love, until the moment of true rapprochement, at the stage of inspired flair; as soon as the fog dissipated, and the contours of the beloved appeared, the intimophobe disappeared. This person does not need a real partner or deep intimacy. He is afraid of reality and runs away into his fantasies. He amuses himself with illusions and longs for only one thing - winged soaring in the clouds. Not being able to penetrate the depths of real feeling, he lives on the waves of romantic soaring, after the exhaustion of which he is looking for another object - the next illusion.

With the advent of the Internet, intimophobia has received a new embodiment and other perspectives. The virtual space is able not only to create illusions, but also to preserve them, prolonging them for an infinitely long period: after all, such communication often a priori does not allow a real, and therefore genuine meeting - distances, barriers, circumstances and other, countless reasons.

In the format of unwanted comprehension real, holistic other, you can dream about with rapture and come up with the image you need and an easy, magical relationship. Which, as it were, and as if not - as you turn, as you want …

And everything would be fine if this form of communication did not radically distort reality. Sometimes in a blasphemous way. The one you think of on the other side of the monitor is not what it seems. A person does not know with whom he is actually communicating, with whom he is in love, what "games" he will be drawn into … And games can turn out to be very, very serious.

Case from practice

A young woman with a difficult fate, exhausted by numerous problems, was distracted in the evenings by participating in various forums of social dating sites. Where she met a man who later (in spite of the distance) was seriously carried away. He is from the near abroad, very courteous and courteous. Their companionship grew into a hot virtual romance. The passions were serious: longing for love, the need for constant communication, an internal fixation on a partner and plans for cardinal life changes. Until it suddenly turned out that Romeo from the near abroad is a member of a gangster group, whose path is viciously burdened and rather darkly outlined. And what letters he wrote, what dreams he fooled - go crazy, "swing" … And the saddest thing is that the woman seriously started to untie herself from the present and go to her beloved forever. If it hadn't opened …

Needless to say, how deceiving this experience turned out to be a disappointment for a woman? But the following is much more important: what was behind this choice of not a real, but an invented partner? All the same fear of a living rapprochement, a real, deep meeting. Behind which, in turn, are problems from childhood and an unworked load of real life relationships.

Let us summarize, dear friends. We draw conclusions on the stated publication

1. It is important to understand in advance: the virtual zone is not a real platform for interaction, and therefore is deceptive, illusory (and often simply dangerous) …

2. You don't see the computer partner, you don't know its reality. Perceived by you - only a tiny part of the "powdered", "combed" truth. The virtual hero is not what it seems. And with falling in love with him it is worth postponing …

3. Behind the penchant for virtual romance lies the fear of real, genuine intimacy associated with deep childhood traumas or the unworked experience of adult unhappy love.

Past psychological wounds need healing. Don't be fooled! Look for authentic ways! And first, help yourself understand: why do you need virtual roads, where do they lead, and most importantly - where do they lead from?

Now let's get back to the title of the article. Where do dreams of virtual reality go? I will answer… Into illusory worlds, non-existent reality … And what it really is, when and if it appears, is unknown … Be careful!