2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
And what to do with it? A question that often sounds in my office. Perhaps this somehow characterizes me as a psychologist, perhaps. What to do about it? I, now and then in the past, do not know the answer to this question. For me, this is a slightly drunk question that requires the psychologist to be a little drunk too, I mean that by telling someone what to do with his life question, I, as if intoxicated by the client's vision of his life as a cartoon in an accelerated display, bring him facts and arguments in favor of following my life guidelines, and then, after a while, when the client completes all the points in the plan he received from me, he will definitely show this list to me and find out that it does not work. And then, having accepted the drunk question, I will understand that I was drunk.
If I am looking for a way from point A to point B, I inevitably deny the existence of a path and the phenomenon of "being on the way", for me there are only intermediate points, anchor points, beacons and landmarks, but not "now", "here", " to be "and I. It seems that having smeared myself along the spatio-temporal axis, I will get out of the painful routine and get rid of the hated, painful image of I. But, coming to the next point on the map, I note that although the landscape has changed, but I have not … My existence in myself has not changed, I have not changed anything in order for at least something to change. I try to change the frame all the time, but not the canvas stretched in it. The question "what to do about it?" Personally, I am reminded of a position close to phenomenology - "do nothing". If we consider me as the subject of actions, and the circumstances surrounding me, the objects of my actions, then moving from point A to point B, I do not see the main thing, namely, the interaction between me and the objects. I don't need to move to be in the center of the movement. It is the phenomenon of observing my own interactions and feelings that fill this interaction, in my opinion, that gives the key to understanding the essence of the "problem" that the client is solving.
I don’t know what to do with it simply because I don’t know in principle what I’m dealing with and whether it’s necessary to do anything about it at all. The question of the interaction between me and the object is a question about my need, and about my trauma, and about my ability to see the world. And if it suddenly turns out as a result of observing the phenomenon of interaction between me and the world that there is no interaction, then what can I think about the question "and what to do about it?" I think that if you immerse yourself in this observation, you will be able to see a lot that was previously not visible, due to the concentration of attention on points A and B, namely, you can see yourself, and then it turns out that the object with which I was going to do something, this is myself. You can't get away from yourself. But I really want to go to point B, beyond the horizon and hide there in the next grandiose idea of moving towards the next goal, point C.
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