KNOWLEDGE: 30 RULES OF SUCCESSFUL MEETING

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The unpleasant paradox of love dating

In order to later be known as "right (oh)", you first have to be "wrong (oh)" for several minutes. In order to subsequently prove your loyalty and constancy in love, you first need to be “windy” and “available”, “affectionate womanizer” and “windy girl” for some time. Otherwise, you will forever remain a "monk" or "nun" and it is unlikely that you will enjoy it

Those who will subsequently try to personify for each other the very chastity, modesty and steadfastness in relation to various everyday temptations, at first they should turn out to be a little obtrusive and affectionate, somewhat impudent and slightly arrogant. One person must show his ability to seduce (flax), the other - to give the opportunity to "fool".

And all this would have been fun and good if it had not subsequently spoiled the relationship of many lovers. In practice, this occurs almost daily.

The negative impact of this "unpleasant paradox of love acquaintance" on the fate of your relationship is that many jealous lovers, in the event of any serious conflicts in the relationship, immediately begin to reproach their partners in "inclination to light street flirting", "excessive availability ", But in fact" in constant readiness for more and more new acquaintances and subsequent betrayals."

Overly suspicious jealous people with overestimated self-esteem, low self-esteem, hypertrophied self-esteem, unsuccessful experience of past love relationships - all lovers of these categories, some time after the start of a relationship, almost always begin to reproach their partners that their behavior at the time of their own acquaintance allows us to assume in advance their "unreliability".

During quarrels, such people usually say: “The very fact that I managed to find out your name and phone number the first time, and you almost instantly agreed to a date means that absolutely any person (more or less a decent guy or a smiling girl with a good figure) will be able to "lead you astray" and instantly "hook you up"! The question is, can I trust such a "windy" and completely unreliable person? Of course not! And since absolutely everyone thinks in this way, you should (en) be infinitely grateful to me (en) for the fact that, despite these sad circumstances of our acquaintance, I trust you and give all my attention to the one in whose fidelity (oh) it is quite possible to doubt! Like this!".

The overwhelming majority of those who are friends sooner or later face the “unpleasant paradox of love acquaintance” and become hostages of the very circumstances of acquaintance that once caused laughter and smiles.

With those who reprimand you such things, humiliate you, "poke your nose" and hurt your vanity, in fact, you should part as quickly as possible: manic suspicion always tends to progressive development. However, it is better to prevent the onset of the disease than to try to cure the obviously incurable. Remember this and the danger of the "fatal and unpleasant paradox of love acquaintance" during the preparation and implementation of your love acquaintances!

It is taking into account the need to eliminate most of the grounds for subsequent doubts about your "availability for other men" and "inclination to get carried away with the first skirt" that the recommendations are built, to which we now turn to talk.

Thirty Universal Rules for Successful Dating

1. First, become completely confident in yourself

Love acquaintance is nothing more than such exposing yourself to those around you, which cannot leave them indifferent and forces them to take certain efforts to get closer to you. Therefore, in order to get to know each other successfully, first do a good job on your appearance and become completely confident in yourself: get rid of excess weight, correct your figure, go to the solarium, get a good haircut, manicure and pedicure, get a good watch and shoes. If you have poor eyesight, choose a frame that suits you. If you are a girl, paint your nails beautifully, buy sexy underwear, wear modern jewelry - earrings, a bracelet, a pendant or an interesting and eye-catching belt. If you are a man, either be well-shaven or make sure your three-day macho stubble doesn't seem like a binge for days.

And one more thing: confidence is not shocking, not pretentiousness and not "loudness"! Anything that looks like it will later become a reason to reproach you with a constant readiness to "shoot" or "hunt for fresh asses." Remember this.

2. Wherever you go, always be well dressed

This rule must be strictly followed even if you “just for a minute” went to the store for bread, ran after your brother or sister (son or daughter) to kindergarten (school) or went to take out the trash. Men should have well-ironed trousers and polished shoes, girls should be mindful of their hairstyle, minimum makeup and general appearance. Remember: An unexpected but pleasant acquaintance can be expected literally at every step!

3. Wherever you are, try to be different from others

Be visible! Do not be afraid to wear flashy clothes in saturated colors and smell good perfume not only during your evening out, but throughout your work or school day! Remember flowers - they attract butterflies and bees precisely by the brightness of their flower and their sweet scent.

When dressing in bright clothes, it is undesirable for girls to wear something very short or very tight: you may be misunderstood. If you are not rich - wear classic cut ("office" style) - it will always be in fashion. Besides, who said that a person wearing clothes with a combination of black and white tones cannot be bright ?! Of course it can!

4. At any given time, have with you the minimum necessary "equipment for acquaintance"!

This "minimum" includes: your business card, a fountain pen, a mobile phone, a certain amount of cosmetics for girls and women. Do not deprive yourself of the opportunity to continue interesting communication just because you both have a bad memory and, having failed to write down each other's names and phone numbers in time, after an hour or two you simply forgot them …

If you have any chronic diseases, catch a cold, suffer from intestinal disorders or headaches - be sure to have the medications you need with you and take them on time. Do not spoil the first impression of yourself with your desire to run away somewhere far away and swallow a pill urgently!

5. Smile, smile and smile again!

As you know, friendship almost always begins with a smile. Smiling people always attract the attention of others and make you want to smile back or speak. That is why, wherever you are and wherever you go, you should smile a little. And if you catch the eye of a perfectly respectable stranger or a pretty stranger, smile wider. It is quite possible that after this “targeted”, “targeted” smile, you will not have to do anything at all: a person, charmed and somewhat “zombified” by your smile, will make the most active efforts to get closer to you, speak up and get to know you.

Smiling, do not rush to "board" yourself. Smile and then look the other way. Give the other person the opportunity to take the first step towards you. The position of the "defender (eisya)" is always more advantageous than the position of the "attacker". And the reputation suffers much less …

6. Do not meet in "specially designated places"!

Keep in mind: Expensive nightclubs, restaurants, cafes and bars are usually not places where you can find a boyfriend or girlfriend "for a serious relationship." These are just places where a certain group of more or less successful men (wealthy entrepreneurs, high-ranking officials, bandits and swindlers of all stripes, just self-asserting revelers) at the age of 30 to 50 years either select "fresh" mistresses for themselves, or gather for this to show off to each other their "coolness" and new achievements, as well as to "develop" new "necessary" connections.

The professional "kept women" parasitizing on this group and the "golden" boys and girls from wealthy families adjoining it make this picture quite complete and deeply logical. Decent young men and women who periodically find themselves there (who have fallen under the impression of videos and stories of more "advanced" acquaintances) either quickly realize their "foreignness" for this atmosphere and no longer strive there, or accept the "rules of the game" imposed on them, adapt and become "like all".

If you do not believe this statement, you can experiment as long as you have the patience. As the saying goes, "to your health." However, it is better to take into account other people's experience, do not waste your time and look for your loved one somewhere else!

7. Inform all your relatives, friends and acquaintances that you have started looking for a friend or girlfriend

Practice shows: in about every fifth case of successful love friendship, people are represented to each other by mutual acquaintances. In this version of "hunting for a loved one (yu)" you are absolutely free from any "rough work" and preliminary approvals. Agree, this is very cool! Especially if you don't have a lot of dating experience yet.

As part of the methodology, you must first clearly explain to all those with whom you communicate what characteristics your potential chosen one (s) should have, and then be sure to respond to all suggestions to look at the next "working option" … It is quite possible that one day your heart will beat and you will realize that you are very lucky …

The advantage of this technique is that you get to know a person already "with a pedigree"! Someone can guarantee the "correctness" of his (her) behavior. The one (the one) with whom you meet in this way, most likely, thinks the same way …

8. Go where you are invited

For example: birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, celebrations on the occasion of moving to a new apartment or office, birth of a child, obtaining a new title or position, New Year, Christmas, Valentine's Day, collective going to the cinema, cafe, club, disco, theater, a picnic outside the city, a trip to the dacha to visit good friends, fishing, etc.

The fact that such events are usually attended by more or less familiar people will allow you to quickly find out the biography of the person you are interested in and is a kind of "guarantee" for you that the one (she) with whom you try to communicate will be polite (a), it is quite correct (on) and at least will not cause much damage to your pride.

9. Go to all corporate parties where you are invited

For example: your own corporate parties at work, corporate parties of your relatives and friends, classmate parties, alumni reunions. Perhaps, it is during the next corporate party that you will look at someone whom you have known before for "a whole thousand years" with completely different eyes. Or someone will turn their attention to you for the first time and you will be incredibly happy about it …

One word of warning: Try not to get drunk or behave violently or overly provocatively. Otherwise, the next invitation may be your last and the doors of this company will be closed for you forever.

10. Attend all public events in your city.

For example: pop concerts, all exhibitions, from art exhibitions to cat and dog exhibitions, sports competitions in all sports, dance competitions, round tables, museum biennials, commercial and charity fairs, air shows, car races, carnivals, festive processions, jubilee and gala evenings, Days of the city or your area, anniversaries of large companies, citywide sports and recreation races, races at the hippodrome, conventions, congresses of historians, philosophers and psychologists, philatelists' meetings, exhibitions of new animals in your zoo, etc. etc. I tell you for sure: you will not regret it!

11. Take the most active part in any social and political activity in your city or area.

For example: in creative evenings, humors, cleaning the territory, parents' meetings, “subbotniks” and “voskniks”, preparation of creative reports and creative evenings themselves, “skits”, KVN performances, “cultural outings” anywhere, reporting and election congresses of various parties and social movements, national holidays, on duty at elections, population census, bypassing the territory entrusted to you together with vigilantes and volunteer police assistants, etc.

Watch carefully for news of such events in newspapers, radio or television. Take the best places in advance and one day luck itself will go into your hands and sit somewhere nearby in the image of exactly the one you dreamed of all this time.

12. Travel more often in your region, country and world!

Never refuse those business trips that the management will offer you or that you will need to improve your professional level! Agree to all kinds of internships, retraining and advanced training courses, applicants, residency, postgraduate and doctoral studies in other cities. Perhaps your personal Happiness has been waiting for you for a long time in another city or region (or even in another country!), And at this time, for the hundredth time to no avail, you comb the central street of your habitat and think with annoyance: “Well, where did you all hide something, eh?"

13. Spend your planned or forced vacation only in crowded places

For example: at sea, at ski, sports and health resorts, holiday homes, sanatoriums and dispensaries. Rafting down the rivers and participating in horse and hiking tours.

Learn to use even your chronic illness, injury or surgery correctly: in today's multi-storey hospitals and sanatoriums, there are so many men and women who are incredibly hungry for companionship and compassion!

At the same time, in no case rush to establish intimate relationships! Otherwise, your relationship will turn into a banal "resort romance" that does not have any serious prospects and ends immediately after you return home. And then, answering your unexpected call, a person with great effort will try to remember your name …

14. Be the first to talk to someone who, by the will of fate, was in close proximity to you and has already begun to look with interest in your direction. But do not rush to get acquainted

For example, this person was seated next to you at the same desk at a school, university or retraining center, you ended up at the same table in a library, at a meeting or in a cafeteria, he (a) stands with you at the bus stop, near the cinema ticket office, looks through the photos received in a photographic store, sits with you in the same row at a concert, in a theater or cinema, became your companion (s) on a train, plane, bus, trolleybus or subway, a pleasant neighbor (s)) while waiting in line at a supermarket, bank, car wash, at the reception of some official or doctor. Etc. etc. Communicate on absolutely any and sometimes ridiculous topics. Trust me: it doesn't matter what you say! The important thing is that you spoke and you were answered. The awakened love will do the rest for you!

At the same time, behave as if by this conversation you are not at all hinting at the advisability of some kind of acquaintance there: you just while away the time in small talk "about nothing." Do not rush to ask someone else's name: pretend that it does not interest you at all. When you leave, your new acquaintance will introduce himself to you. And you are only in response …

15. Use any excuse to help someone, or at least offer the very opportunity to help

Somehow: tell me the right way, help get on the desired bus route, give a lift to the “voter (s)” on the road, help open the front door, explain where the check-in of passengers or conference participants is, where is the desired route, platform or boarding gate, offer to bring heavy bags, hold someone else's hat while the person you are interested in undresses in the wardrobe of a club or cinema, politely tell the time, give someone in need your pen or mobile phone, give advice on a movie, dish in a cafe or an attraction in park. Gratitude from a pleasant stranger (s) is almost always a good basis for continuing the conversation and actually getting to know each other. Try this method and you can never go wrong!

16. Ask for help (even the most stupid!) To the person you like, even if you do not really need any help.

In addition to the banal request "give me a smoke", there are many more ways to talk to the one to whom you turned your attention. You can politely ask the time how often the buses run, ask for a fountain pen, a piece of paper, a comb, an analginum or citramone tablet, a handkerchief, a napkin, an extra admission ticket to a club, circus or theater. Etc. etc.

Run up to an interesting passer-by (s), give him (her) your camera and ask to take a picture of you against the background of a particular attraction. And then say that you really liked him (s).

Ask someone who walks out of the auditorium and managed to please you for an opinion on the film. Ask a cute customer (flax) in a music store about music updates. Find out where the nearest pharmacy is from a passerby (s), even when you are not really in pain. Check the weather forecast from someone near you. Sit down with someone at the bistro table and ask for salt. Ask a nice fellow traveler to accompany you from the bus stop in the evening. Say that you are afraid of a dog even when you were feeding it as a puppy. Ask for shelter under someone else's umbrella in the rain or hail.

Ask permission to lie down next to someone on the beach in the summer (as if apologizing, let them know that otherwise you will be completely bored), and then ask for help in solving a difficult (and actually very simple) crossword puzzle, eating the most delicious watermelon in the world or killing a couple of kilos of gorgeous peaches. Few will refuse this …

I'm not even talking about the fact that you can always talk to the seller you like (s), the waiter (s), advertising or sales agent, the manager of the company where you really need something, a sales floor consultant, a doctor, a lawyer, a lawyer, a teacher at some courses, a policeman or any other person you like who is engaged in his professional activities. In any office, you can turn to the person who intrigued you with a request to view the floppy disk specially reserved for this case or to print a page from your disk.

Smile shyly, and no one dares to refuse you! See for yourself!

17. When deciding to approach a person (or giving him a chance to speak to you), try to overcome your usual shyness, some stiffness and the eternal habit of looking back at others

Learn to suppress the obsessive thought, characteristic of all educated people, that at the moment of your acquaintance within a radius of three hundred meters, everyone is looking at you and sarcastically betting on whether you will be able to "hook up" this person (or he (she) to "glue" you). I declare to you with authority: this does not correspond to reality at all!

First, in fact, no one really cares about you! (Do not be offended, this only makes it easier for you!).

Secondly, everyone around them themselves once got to know someone or will get to know someone else. Therefore, if they have any interest, it is most likely “professional”: they look at you and learn “how to do it”. So show them what you are capable of! Hit their imagination!

Well, thirdly, why should you think about what will be the reaction of the entire world community to the fact that you will have a new acquaintance?! That's right, nothing! So don't be complex!

17. Use any excuse to help someone, or at least offer the very opportunity to help

Somehow: tell me the right way, help get on the desired bus route, give a lift to the “voter (s)” on the road, help open the front door, explain where the check-in of passengers or conference participants is, where is the desired route, platform or boarding gate, offer to bring heavy bags, hold someone else's hat while the person you are interested in undresses in the wardrobe of a club or cinema, politely tell the time, give someone in need your pen or mobile phone, give advice on a movie, dish in a cafe or an attraction in park. Gratitude from a pleasant stranger (s) is almost always a good basis for continuing the conversation and actually getting to know each other. Try this method and you can never go wrong!

18. Always support someone else's initiative and be friendly towards those who paid attention to you

Realizing how exciting (or even frankly scary!) It is to approach and talk to a completely new person for yourself, always treat with understanding, sympathy and support those quite decent people who decided on such a feat in relation to your person. Smile and encourage this hero (this heroine) with kind words! Otherwise, he (s) may faint, embarrass, or simply run away from you!

If this person is clearly not suitable for you, with your kind attitude you will at least acquire another pleasant acquaintance (s) who may well be useful to you someday.

In addition, one should not forget that it is this person who may be the one (the one) who will lead you to the very new social circle, where you will finally meet your chosen one or chosen one.

19. Try not to get acquainted in a state of intoxication or being “upset”!

One of the saddest situations with acquaintances is dating in a state of intoxication or “upset” after a hard week, a difficult conversation with parents, a failed exam, dismissal from work, conflict with a current (or parting with the past) loved one. It is in this state that people become victims of professional "hunters" for those who are not able to fully control their behavior, who experience bouts of unlimited trust in whoever is the first to cheer and calm down, and who is ready to leave with the first comer "even to the end of the world.", just to distract from the pressing problems of today.

Of course, not all of those who try to console you will turn out to be rapists, maniacs, perverts, criminals or fraudsters. However, this should not be ruled out at all! Therefore, having drunk or suddenly feeling sad, do not rush into the forests or fields, mountains or all sorts of natural "secluded places"! It is there that all the above-mentioned unpleasant and dangerous categories of citizens are looking for their prey! Keep in mind: even relatives who tirelessly “saw” you and “understand nothing” are still noticeably better than the dampness of the very land on which you may unexpectedly find yourself …

20. Exclude from the sphere of your interest clearly “problematic options” and avoid any communication with them!

Problematic options include: drunk (unsteady gait, disheveled appearance, difficulty speaking, smell of fumes), drug addicts (a bottle of cheap soda or cheap sweets in the hand, injection marks on the hands, dilated pupils of the eyes, strange reactivity or inhibition of behavior, frequent and obvious inappropriate laughter, sports style of clothing with a completely unsportsmanlike thin figure, lack of watches and belts), obvious insolence (this is immediately evident from the rude and commanding tone and the appeal to you "on you"), ill-mannered and uneducated people (they are betrayed by rudeness and scarcity speeches), professional "renters" (they are easy to recognize by a well-set and rehearsed-memorized manner of getting to know each other), various representatives of criminals (their style of dress and behavior cannot be confused with anything), regional whores (they are almost always casually, but very brightly painted, always with a cigarette in his mouth and a bottle of beer or a cheap cocktail in his hands), professional kept women of wealthy men (they are always in Outrageously fashionable and well-dressed, trimmed and painted, always with the latest mobile phones, often with tanning from a solarium), people who are very much older or younger than you (all this is written on their faces), who are down (this is immediately clear from wrinkled and dirty clothes, always without buttons, stubble and dirty hair, people with signs of mental disability or mental disorder (they have a characteristic smile on their faces, and their mouths are almost always open).

Girls are also not advised to meet married men. So study your ring fingers carefully! This is a whole book!

21. Do not get acquainted with the goal of "flipping" before the appearance of a "normal" friend or "real" girlfriend!

Hoping to meet a "normal friend" or "real girlfriend", never waste time talking with "intermediate options", that is, those people who, in principle, are not so bad, but still do not have a more or less complete set of things necessary for qualities of you! The love program you have works for all people in the same way and will easily make you fall in love with someone who obviously cannot become your reliable life companion. One day you will feel sorry to part with this person and later this will become the first stone in the foundation of your subsequent family tragedy.

In addition, people with obvious psychological, behavioral or physical disabilities are usually well aware of this and know how to "tie" to themselves in all conceivable and inconceivable ways. It is more than difficult to "get rid" of such friends and girlfriends, and sometimes even dangerous for your life and health. Realizing how difficult it will be for them to find someone else for themselves, they may not hesitate to blackmail and open threats, cause you moral and physical pain. So, when thinking about getting yourself someone "just so that you can get a little distracted and then continue looking for the person of your dreams", weigh the "pros and cons" again and again. Ancient wisdom says: "Do not take unnecessary risks and you will not lose!"

22. Do not try to pass yourself off as someone you really are not. Be only yourself

Do not try to deliberately appear "tough", "bandit", "sex bomb", "oligarch", "major boy", "five minutes to a supermodel", or, on the contrary, "sniffed bookworm", "dull nerd" or "An exemplary good-girl." Playing someone else's role, you are simply prolonging the agony of your obviously hopeless relationship, postponing the disappointment of your new acquaintance from you "for later." And the pain of losing a person after two or three weeks or months of acquaintance (until they bite you and "lead you out into the open") will be ten times stronger if you simply refrained from meeting the person who is clearly "not from your circle ".

Be totally natural! Play only your own role and then you will be in demand by the very person who just wants to meet just such a guy or just such a girl!

23. Meet quickly! Otherwise, your chance will be missed …

Try to avoid a very common mistake of those who don't have a lot of dating experience yet! Don't delay trying to talk to someone you like! If you sadly trail behind this person for two or three blocks and frantically wonder, "what to do ?!" or a taxi, enter your office or university, walk home, or become a "victim" of some more determined "hunter" for beautiful girls or nice young people. In general, all this is best avoided!

If you are standing with this person at a bus stop or are in a disco, do not bore him (her) with an inviting gaze for more than a minute or two! If after drawing attention to yourself, after that you do not smile and do not approach the person, but continue to stare at him (her) intensely, your chances of success will noticeably decrease: the person will think that you are drunk, somewhat “not yourself”, you have poor eyesight and you just "generally" look in his (her) direction, and so on. etc.

So, do not be cowardly and do not waste your time! Remember: in the most extreme case, it is never too late to stop communicating with the one who did not suit you according to one or another "parameters" will never succeed … Alas!

24. Never give up or leave right away

If after your attempt at the "first approach" they answered you in such a way that it immediately became clear to you that all your attempts were pointless, still do not rush to final conclusions and do not leave the "field of love battle"!

If you are next to this person for an objective reason (standing next to a bus or at a bus stop, you have a seat nearby on a train, at a concert or in a cinema, etc.) - be sure to apologize and ask for forgiveness for being too intrusive and for some tactlessness. Perhaps your courtesy will play a decisive role. After some time, the object of your attention will "soften up" a little, experience a feeling of awkwardness for its unjustified harshness, try to soften the situation and speak first. As practice shows, this is most often the case! Do not forget that some people “warm up” for a long time and realize that right now is “the very case” that they themselves dreamed of …

If you tried to get acquainted in a city park or on the street, also intelligently apologize, smile perplexedly, step back a few steps, and then continue to observe the person you like and, intercepting his (her) glance, smile shyly and in no case turn to his (her) back. Many girls and men in this way simply test you for "lice": if for you this is just a "duty hunt" and you immediately rush to get to know someone else, it means that he (a) did the right thing (s) that you "Got rid of (a)". But if you walk for a good half hour "like a tied one", look with timid hope and occasionally smile affably (if you had a tail, you would wave it hard!), Believe me, even the icy heart will melt. And then this person will become yours …

25. Be mentally prepared for episodic setbacks

Keep in mind: in order to choose “something more decent” for yourself, you will definitely have to be disappointed several times and “get a turn from the gate”. However, this shouldn't scare you! Remember: Fate favors only the brave. And courage is nothing more than well-hidden cowardice and timidity, which are simply blocked at the right time and do not interfere with the implementation of the plan.

Do not think that the ability to conquer other people's hearts is an innate property! This is an acquired property! And experience, as you know, is "the son of difficult mistakes"! So, do not be afraid of these very mistakes and quite natural first failures. All this is nothing more than "working moments", the very payment for future successes, without which it is simply impossible! And in general, the success of a brilliantly conducted love operation, codenamed "successful acquaintance", will always be able to more than compensate you for your temporary moral inconvenience.

And further. Even if you did not manage to find out the name and phone number of the person you liked "on the first try", do not despair! Remember well the one who turned out to be a “tough nut” for you that day (you can even secretly trace him (her) to the very house). Having met him (her) later, you will have almost guaranteed success: any normal person will surely melt from your constancy, secret attachment to you and the very thought that he (a) managed to make such an indelible impression on you. All this is verified!

In general, be mentally prepared for any turn of events, in no case lose your love optimism and always give the one you "fall for" a chance to change his mind and "surrender to the mercy of the winner" (that is, you!). After some time, it may turn out that this was the very "chance for two" and this somewhat "delayed" lottery in the end turns out to be a winning one …

26. When getting acquainted, change the "location" in case of failure.

If after two or three attempts you still have not succeeded in charming the one who has already charmed you and you were flatly denied a new acquaintance, temporarily leave this territory. In military terms, change your disposition and deployment. This will allow you to overcome some feeling of awkwardness when trying to make a new acquaintance (it will not seem to you that there is someone nearby who has already seen a previous unsuccessful attempt), will give you the opportunity to understand that there are still many representatives of the opposite that are quite suitable for you. gender, and the process of moving will allow you to overcome that little internal stress (and feelings of genuine resentment) that always comes from failing to meet. In addition, during the time that you are looking for a new "observation point", you will simply calm down and restore rapid breathing and heartbeat. And then back into battle! Until you get the coveted phone number!

27. Never communicate for a long time when you first meet!

Getting acquainted, it is best to play the role of such a person who can quite live without this acquaintance. Let the gardens bloom in your soul and let the fear of joyfully cry out in your soul: "Gotcha (eh) !!!" to be busy (someone is waiting for you!) and, having correctly written down the received phone number, leave with the most independent look.

By doing so, you will be able to avoid reproaches for the readiness to “go wherever the first person (s) will call” in the future. Based on this, do not meet again on the day of acquaintance! You just need to exchange phone numbers and get off with a vaguely vague phrase like: "Let's call you tomorrow …". Make you suffer not only your new acquaintance (s), but yourself (yourself)! Love was created by Mother Nature in order to overcome difficulties. So help her wake up from sleep!

In addition, if, after two or three minutes of conversation, you begin to show with all your appearance that you have absolutely nothing to do today, that you have not communicated with anyone for a whole year and are ready to do almost anything so that this acquaintance “does not break down” - you you run the risk of making yourself dependent on who you just met at the very start of your relationship. This person will immediately understand that it is he (a) who is the master of the situation and can simply use you. And it could end badly …

28. If you liked the person you met, do not delay reminding yourself

Practice shows that the desire and moral readiness to develop the achieved success and continue acquaintance in a day is halved, and after a week it almost completely disappears (the exception is those who are literally hungry for friendly or loving communication).

After this time, people suddenly ask themselves: "Why do I need all this?" of his own pride, such as: "What if he (she) has a dozen people like me?", and in general … ".

As a result, everything solemnly “merges into nowhere”. Two people sit in their apartments, sincerely regret "the missed chance", but they do not dare to take the first step after a week of acquaintance: "What if he (a) does not remember me anymore and I feel very embarrassed, as if I am asking for it …".

Don't be like these failed heroes! Of course, you can torment your new acquaintance (s) for a day or two, but it is advisable not to go beyond the "fateful week" - otherwise you may not really be remembered anymore …

29. Do not stop at the first successful acquaintance! Meet again and again

Hone your skills as a completely random dating specialist over and over again! Once you get to know each other, keep getting to know more, more and more! Over time, you will learn to quickly sort out random acquaintances and you will start to come across more and more "optimal options". Create a choice for yourself and be sure to get acquainted with several "options" at once. Stop only when you clearly realize that the person with whom you have already started dating is more or less suitable for you. But having already "determined", hold on to this person "with both hands"! As the saying goes, "work out this option one hundred percent" …

30. Do not rush to engage in sexual intercourse

Keep in mind: Quick and "hassle-free" sexual intercourse with a new acquaintance (s) leads to the fact that in the future you will not be able to give your new acquaintance (s) anything interesting - everything what you could give, you have already given (perhaps, except for your money) …

Accordingly, there will be much less interest in communicating further.

Remark

There is nothing more difficult and at the same time easier than street dating! There is nothing more exciting than the thought that this cute stranger or beautiful stranger in just a month or two will resent you for not giving him (her) due attention, and send you the most delightful in the world. love SMS!

However, it has long been known that the best joke and the most subtle pun are always "homemade preparations" invented in advance. Therefore, preparing your absolutely random, "spontaneous" and supposedly completely "unintentional" acquaintance with the one (the one) whom you so want to love with all your heart, think over your behavior to the smallest detail! Eliminate the sprouts of possible future quarrels and betrayals still "in the bud", even when you do not even know the name of the person with whom from now on you will have to communicate for many, many years! Only then will these years be really happy, and your "pseudo-random" or really pleasantly unexpected acquaintance will fully justify the expectations placed on it.

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