2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you don't have a dad … there is a chance to find him at any age
How often you have to work with clients who did not know their father.
Today we will talk about those whose father was ousted from life, greatly offended by his mother, because he was
- "Scoundrel"
- "Scoundrel"
- "traitor"
- "tempter"
- "traitor"
Usually these "NOT daddy's daughters", adults and smart women
- have great difficulty in determining the purpose
- often confuse their true and false desires
- and they also choose emotionally unavailable men
These emotionally unavailable men can be in relation to a woman, in turn:
- married
- just indifferent to her
- mothers and sons
- narcissists or psychopaths
- just "bad" guys, risk averse, violent, emotionally or physically abusive
A woman who has once entered into such a scenario continues to act out it in every way, like variations on a melody well known from her youth.
Moreover, she
- lives as if in a dream
- it seems to be controlled by someone from the outside,
- has no control over her actions,
- understands a lot, but sees no way out even from a simple situation
- wants to change his life, but, but there is no energy for this
What to do about it?
The easiest step is to just accept that you have a dad!
Even if he has not been in this world for a long time!
After all, by denying one part of ourselves, we inflict irreparable harm on ourselves, which is from relatives of auto-aggression, punishing ourselves with toxic relationships for this.
Women seem to hate that part of their blood, which from childhood they are accustomed to considering poisoned and are constantly looking everywhere for someone who will be of the same blood with them in order to merge in toxic relationships that lead to nowhere.
While the "good", "good" guys seem to them to be something insipid, like hospital food, healthy, but devoid of peppercorns and other spices that abound in "bad" guys
Exercise "Accept and Forgive the Forbidden Pope"
If you have a picture of your father, consider it carefully:
- Find similarities with your father.
- Try to imagine "what kind of a guy he was" and be surprised at how much he has in common with those to whom you are drawn
- Realize this, be alone with these thoughts for a few days.
- Tell him, “I am grateful for your life. I accept you as a part of myself. You are my father, I am your daughter"
- Write him a letter and ask those questions that have always worried you
If you don't even have a photograph
- Ask his mother or those who might have known him about him.
- Compare the information and make the correct conclusions that there are no absolutely “bad” people, as well as absolutely “good” people.
- Search as much as possible about him.
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