2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The Novgorod word "forgive" meant "to make it simple", that is, empty, empty, not busy with anything. (From here "to be simple" means to get rid of, to free yourself). Yes, yes - once the word "simple" was something like a synonym for the word "free"! True, the attitude towards this "freedom" was not the same as it is today. From those times, the proverb “simplicity is worse than theft” came to us, because obedience to the law, based on the absence of intelligence, cannot be a virtue, let alone a valor. In modern courts there is even such a term as "sanity" - the ability to take responsibility for their own actions
It is not by chance that we remembered the original meaning of one of the most important concepts in Christianity. Many of the mental illnesses that a hypnotherapist must deal with are a delayed decision to forgive - to make the person "simple." It turns out that the forgiving procedure matters more to the one who forgives!
Man is a mysterious creature. Dostoevsky alone managed to penetrate into his ethical nature. In order to somehow indicate what he saw, he had to write a book. The result is a work in which there is no plot, no events (except for the scene in the apartment of the old woman-pawnbroker) - a continuous symptomatology described by a person shocked by his discovery. For a hundred years now, anyone who has read Crime and Punishment has been unable to articulate why they like the book. There are no words, or the whole novel must be retelled. Therefore, we will confine ourselves to sending all those interested in the eschatological meaning of forgiveness to the "novel of novels", simultaneously drawing attention to the fact that men under 28 years old (women, respectively, under 22 years old) are not recommended to read this work, as its text is intended for mature people - both intellectually and psychologically.
Having closed the topic of forgiveness as our amazing need for humanity, let us turn our attention to the psychophysical effect, which is clearly visible to the specialist when the patient refrains from the forgiveness procedure.
The whole point is that a person who has not forgiven is like a tree rotting from the inside. Outwardly, everything seems to be fine, but a breeze blew - it broke. A person who has not forgiven can be recognized by the feverish lights flickering in his eyes and dry skin tight around his cheekbones, because the emotion that has not been thrown out continues to live, burning everything from the inside. Refusing to forgive, we are slowly dying. And at the same time, there is not and there was not a single hater who would wish himself death.
Many people remember the film "Shot" based on the story of the same name by Alexander Pushkin. There, a retired hussar takes care of himself for six years, including neglecting the concept of honor, only in order to enjoy revenge at one fine moment. "Our Everything" showed us how the personality is destroyed under the cover of the idea of personal superiority, and the image created by the actor M. Kazakov, it seems, physically allows you to feel the stench emanating from a person seized with this feeling. After all, he has already died, although he carefully monitors his health, and this conclusion sends us straight to the question of the meaning of life.
A ghoul among living people is not the result of deferred revenge, but, to call a spade a spade, is deferred forgiveness. In order to return to life, such a person needs to "be simpler" - to be resolved, to get rid of a terrible burden. From the point of view of psychosomatics, there are two options. The first is revenge. This is also a form of forgiveness, but only from the side of the person to whom the revenge is directed. "The stone from the heart" will be removed by the victim, but at the same time the ghoul will triumph in the rapist, completing his rebirth. The second option involves the ability to forgive yourself. Not everyone is capable of this step. The sight of yesterday's enemies sobbing on each other's chests is also rare because most people simply do not have the necessary adaptations for psycho-emotional discharge.
The ability to express one's emotion is already a cultural element that does not arise by itself and not suddenly. Just as a gardener grows a fruitful tree, human emotional culture is the result of sustained, purposeful effort. It is no coincidence that at the beginning of the 19th century, sentimentality in Russia was considered a sign of aristocratic origin. Thus, the problem of forgiveness in most cases is of a "technical" nature, since the acquisition of the required ability is associated with a long stay in a refined cultural environment.
In all honesty, let's answer: how many people in the former USSR could boast of such living conditions? After all, we are all from workers 'and peasants' families! Underdeveloped, coarse souls force us to carry the pain of humiliation in ourselves for years until spiritual maturation occurs (and even then not for everyone). This is a dangerous period, because not everyone has the patience to live with this pain until enlightenment. Not everyone will have the strength to restrain themselves from the "number one" option.
So is it worth surrendering to the power of the Tempter when there is an opportunity to organize artificial "childbirth"? After all, what is the mechanism of forgiveness? You should try to recognize your own, and not someone else's, guilt. View the event as an important life lesson. And most importantly, accept this point of view not with your mind, but with your heart. Reason in these matters is not an advisor. A person who has accepted his mistake only with his mind, in fact, remains an "undead", since he refused to take responsibility for his life and thereby renounced life itself. The task of the hypnotherapist is to help his patient overcome mental rudeness and thereby overcome his confused state.
In each of us lives a child who has not yet been beaten by life, who is capable of those feelings that are no longer available to us today. A hypnotherapist is able to arrange for this child to have a mental meeting with your sworn abuser. Everything will repeat, but this time you will be taller and cleaner, you will be capable of an action that you are not ready for in real life. You will sincerely forgive your foe. By freeing him from responsibility for your humiliation, you will thereby regain your lost piece of life, and the canvas of your consciousness will be restored. The moment of release from the devil's burden will be marked for you with wet eyes, and these will be the tears of returning to life. To your life.
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