2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The best way is to go to a specialist. Sometimes it is enough for a person to talk to a therapist once, and love disappears. One colleague, a clinical psychologist, talked about his client, who almost died of unrequited love for a year and a half. After one reception, it disappeared like a hand.
What is so magical about a psychotherapist? It is quite possible that you can do it yourself. After all, the mere admission that this is not love, but addiction is enough for recovery to begin.
The next important step is to increase your self-esteem. Not just strengthening their tactical and technical characteristics like appearance, career growth and education. You need to start doing this in parallel. Cultivating addictions is a great way to distract yourself. But besides that. You need to realize your value. Redirect the energy of love from another person to yourself.
Such exercises will help get rid of addiction.
EXERCISES
"I love myself"
Have days of self-love. It sounds, of course, strange. But it is useful. Put on your favorite things, go to your favorite park, restaurant, etc. Do what you love, order your favorite dishes. In general, you pamper yourself in every possible way. And constantly say words of love to yourself. In order not to forget, it is better to write them. And at the same time list why you love yourself.
"Goodbye midget"
The purpose of this lesson is to diminish the significance of the object. Describe the shortcomings of the "beloved", his weaknesses, you can think of it. And constantly ask yourself the question, how are you, such a wonderful individual can depend on such an imperfect creature. It is important to become internally such a Gulliver compared to the one you depend on. There is nothing left but to say goodbye to him.
"Laughter for no reason"
Scientists have long struggled with such an interesting question: what arises first - the desire to smile in the body and then smile. Or smile first. And then a good mood. Yes, that's what "nonsense" they are doing there in their laboratories. And then he found out that everything starts with facial expressions. That is, you force yourself to laugh, smile and rejoice outwardly, you start to really rejoice. Because hormones of joy are released into the blood. And you can't argue with biology. Joy has a healing effect on the psyche and on the body too. So, wake up and let's laugh as best we can.
"Movement is life"
Psychologist Norbekov writes in his books that somehow, in search of enlightenment and wisdom of the ages, he came to a distant Buddhist monastery. And there he was forced to walk for 40 days and smile. And soon he became enlightened and purified. The fact is that on a chemical level, walking has an extremely positive effect on the body. Positive neurotransmitters of good mood are released into the blood, which, as it were, clean out the hormones of sadness, pain and all kinds of dirty tricks. In general, the main thing is not to get depressed, but to move.
"Survive the loss"
If it’s too bad and your legs don’t go, and life is not sugar, you need to arrange a farewell evening for yourself. Light candles. Turn on sad songs, pour wine and cry heartily over your love. But internally you have to tell yourself that everything, goodbye, love. To leave, as the actress Olga Drozdova says about this situation, to the bottom of sadness and lie there, curled up in a ball. But here it is important to give yourself the instruction to emerge completely in the morning and get out of the well of this "love". Convince yourself that something magical is sure to come. And if this story did not take place, then fate has prepared some more amazing and pleasant gift for you.
BY THE WAY
Regular group work, codependency therapy helps a lot in the fight against love addiction. And of course, personal therapy in any approach. The psychologist contains your experiences, and it already becomes easier. Together you figure out where the source of this feeling actually comes from. Breathe out pain, breathe life. And gradually the psyche matures for a healthy relationship, where love is always mutual.
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