5 Signs Your Partner Is A Psychopath

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

A psychopath is a person with antisocial personality disorder, without empathy, remorse, or guilt. Such people are able to imitate normal human emotions, but do not actually experience them.

What do all psychopaths have in common? Disruption of connections between the frontal and orbital parts of the brain. Both of these parts are responsible for creating emotional connections, empathy (conscious empathy with the current emotional state of another person), mirror neurons, and social behavior. Accordingly, if a violation occurs, such a person is called a psychopath. In practice, it is difficult to check this condition, but there are five main signs in human behavior, by which you can understand who is next to you.

If a loved one, whom you have known for many years, suddenly began to show psychopathic traits, and his behavior changed dramatically, this first of all indicates a violation of the organic matter of the brain, which may be caused by trauma, the consequences of a stroke or even a tumor.

According to the latest research by scientists, psychopathy is peculiar only to men, because of great importance in the manifestation of this condition is the male sex hormone testosterone. However, women also have some psychopathic traits.

So, the main signs of psychopaths:

1. Lack of empathy, sympathy, empathy, regret in their actions. In general, without these feelings, it is very difficult to build any kind of relationship with a partner. The manifestation of the trait is typical for people who do not have mirror neurons. How can you test in practice if your partner has empathy? It is enough to pay attention to his reaction when, for example, you bumped, cut your finger, tripped or fell. However, remember that at the very beginning of the relationship, the psychopath will play the role of a sensual person, will regret and sympathize (until he earns the desired trust - after that he can do whatever he wants).

2. Emotional swing.

What does this mean and what does it look like in a relationship? First, you are exalted to the very heavens, you will be an ideal person (“You are so good at doing this!”, “You are a virtuoso drive!”, Etc.). During communication on the part of the psychopath, sometimes a slight opposition to himself can slip through - "Not that I am!" … Over time, the psychopathic partner will show his duplicity and hypocrisy, aggressive outbursts will arise in the conversation (“Well, of course, you’re a fat woman, what can you take from you?”, “You don’t know how to do everything on time!”), In communication with him there will be a strange feeling of duality. When such feelings arise, it is worth listening to yourself - a person cannot first deify you, and then sharply lower you to the ground, while denying all his actions and

possible suspicions ("It seemed to you that everything is in order!"), while the tone plays an important role. This is how the psychopath breaks through aggression (impudent infant rage towards the whole world, which no one consoled in time) - the whole world owes him something, everyone around him is bad, so he must take as much as possible of everything "that is due to him."

Quite often, a man-psychopath beats a woman, and then crawls to her in tears and on his knees to apologize, gives bouquets, gifts, looks after her beautifully - “Just come back to me! I will correct myself and control myself! " Alas, the situation repeats itself later. With such behavior, psychopaths put pressure on the pity of a normal empathic person who cannot pass by the pain and not react, besides, the latter turns on a narcissistic complex (“You need me, so I'll stay! You can't live without me, especially now! ").

From the outside, a couple may seem completely normal, but for relatives and closest entourage, this is an ideal partnership. In order to understand the intricacies of such relationships, you first need to separate the partners and listen to each one separately. A classic psychopath will always complain that he cannot live without a partner, but he will never admit that he is unbalanced and arranges constant tantrums and scandals over trifles.

3. The psychopath always provokes a partner into very strong emotions. If this is love, then it is insane. If hatred, then crazy. If tenderness, then all-consuming and boundless. All these pleasant feelings of falling in love, joy and emotional undermining are always cool to experience, but it is worth remembering that only psychopaths know how to provoke the emergence of such a huge amount of strong emotions, and this causes a certain dependence in the partner (“Well, I’m leaving now, who will give me so much joy and happiness? ).

To dispel the "magic haze" of relationships, you need to remember that joy and happiness will last literally the first six months, and then give way to insults, humiliation, insults and beatings. The partner will provoke a response to the manifestation of aggression, the formation of feelings of fear, guilt and shame, in order to then declare: “Why are you so angry? Why scared? Why do you panic? " Why is this happening? The psychopath has uncontrollable infantile rage, accordingly, his container for experiences is small, and he needs a partner as a "function of the psyche" - not being able to experience and experience the feelings that have washed over him, he uses the psyche of his partner as his own. As a result, the partner will become a container of anger, fear, fear, guilt and shame. And the worst thing is that when a psychopath is caught in a lie, citing certain facts, he blames in response, laughs at the "speculation", dodges or changes the subject, saying: "Yes, you thought everything" It's all not true! " As a result, the partner is left alone with his feelings and feels guilty, worrying about her for two. It is the feeling of guilt that often keeps women in such a relationship.

Thus, the psychopath makes the most of the mechanism of projective identification - all his anger for him is experienced by the partner, and the psychopath also criticizes him, treating him dismissively (“What are you talking about?”, “How could you?”, “You yourself are aggressive”And so on) and shifting the entire spectrum and severity of the emotions experienced to him.

4. Quite often, psychopaths involve their partner in a love triangle (both explicitly and not actually) (“Look, all women admire me!”). As a result of such a statement, the partner suddenly begins to be very jealous (even if jealousy is not peculiar to him), and given that the psychopath is not able to experience this feeling, the sensations intensify. The response of the person with psychopathic personality traits will be very predictable - he will convince you that the problem is not with him, but with your strong reaction.

Psychopaths are selfish, require too much attention to themselves - everything should revolve only around them. For example, if a man comes home from work, you should leave everything and be around - cook, clean, put a plate of food exactly where he wants it, cut everything in the way and in the order he wants.

5. Next to a psychopathic person, your self-esteem falls "below the baseboard" - you no longer recognize yourself, you feel a joyless existence and a complete lack of energy (you go to work like a robot, return home or just live day after day for the sake of life).

Where is the inner drive and energy, strength and joy, pleasure, love and deification? Forgotten a long time ago. From the beginning of a relationship, the whole spectrum of emotions is experienced for a period of three to six months, and then humiliation begins, psychopathy manifests itself, and the partner fully uses you to act out his feelings.

Often in such a relationship, a person comes to his senses only after a year ("Something is wrong with me!"). This is the first sign that the relationship is toxic for you (even if your partner is not a psychopath, you lose your personality next to him, it may be worthwhile to carefully analyze the situation and eventually put an end to the relationship).

The opposite situation may also be - you, in principle, feel bad in any relationship. That is why it is worth consulting with a psychologist before making a cardinal decision.

Who can get into a relationship with a psychopath? Absolutely each of us, but one will leave the relationship, and the other will begin to prove his innocence and innocence. Often, the "victims" of a psychopath are people with low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence, that is, individuals with a weak identity (there is no support within their consciousness - goals, a hierarchy of values, understanding of life in general (here I am to blame, and you are responsible for this)). The psychopath is always traumatized and guides the partner like a puppet, using his mental shock.

How to check if your partner is psychopathic? At the initial stages of a relationship, you need to pretend that you completely trust this person, are madly in love and do not notice anything, but at the same time you should carefully look at the person's behavior and soberly evaluate all his actions (having relaxed, the psychopath will always show his true face).