2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sometimes it doesn't matter what you do. You can never fully meet the expectations of the people around you. The only expectations that need to be met are your own. Some people, no matter what you do, you can never satisfy. Some will make you believe that you are a failure, even if you are not. These personality types have a specific purpose: to control people according to their strict values.
Believe it or not, these kinds of relationships are everywhere. Sometimes it doesn't matter what we say or do to a family member, acquaintance, or colleague. For some of these people, we will always be failures. Instead of worrying about how others will react, you need to distance yourself from relationships that only create suffering. Below we will explain how to do this.
Three steps to freedom
Today you will not meet a sufficient number of emotionally open people who are active in the perception of information, those who profess the principles of reciprocity. People are very complex and not everyone has the same understanding of the word "respect". Below are a few things to consider.
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Fears: This position with limitations helps us to control others when there is a fear of losing them. Fear causes people to humiliate each other in order to maintain control. Calming ourselves down and hiding our fears makes us realize how low our self-esteem really is.
- Parenting: This is a key aspect. Growing up in a family where there is no healthy relationship, there is no security, where there is no one to teach respect, leads to a lack of personal and emotional qualities.
- Personal interests: own selfishness and desire. Despite upbringing, some people feel the need to control everything around them and dominate everything.
It is very easy to demonstrate this. People are really very adept at putting protective armor around them. Nobody knows what is inside. The stronger the armor, the more complex the personality inside.
Qc to protect yourself from this type of people?
Others' priorities are not my own
Everyone experiences a similar situation at some point. Sooner or later, you begin to realize that your own values do not coincide with the values of others. If your choice is vegetarianism, for example, your family may not accept or support your decision. Many have heard the phrase that you deserve someone / something better. How do they know what is good for you? They judge from their belfry, they judge based on their interests and priorities. Instead of being upset or making excuses, you should understand that everyone has their own opinion.
However, some people try to impose their views, instead of respecting others and giving them the right to act on their own, believing that their views are more important than others. It is not right. Every time you find yourself in such a situation, remember that life does not revolve around others.
We are free and have the right to walk our own path with dignity. Nobody has the right to tell us what to do to be happy.
What makes me happy is good for me
If what you do or say makes you happy, nothing else matters. Your choice is a testament to who you are and every step you take is only your path to the future and nobody else's.
Remember, if others criticize or reject your choices, that's their problem. Not yours. We must deal only with our own needs.
If we live our lives trying to satisfy others or meet their expectations, our own life will not represent anything. Creating your own happiness takes courage, self-awareness, and fighting for what you deserve.
Life is too short to meet the expectations of others
Everyone makes mistakes. And those who really care about us will help. Those who always criticize and humiliate will not help at all - they actually create trouble in return.
If you know someone like that, realize that such people do not change. It's hard when you don't get the respect and sympathy back.
Nothing helps like the thought that life is too short to be miserable. You are a priority for yourself. If what you are doing is not enough for others, accept it and let them go.
Know that something you do is beautiful only because you do it your way, for yourself and your values. Don't let anyone destroy this balance or your self-esteem.
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