2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Feelings that were not lived in due time are such an unclosed TOTE (unfinished business, in other words). They hurt, ache, demand attention, draw energy, and hope that someday their rightful owner will return for them and live
Until the end, preferably. As it is. Hard or easy - how it goes.
I don’t want to. Well, why do I need an adult, pray tell, to live the feelings of a small child, which I seem to have once been? I forgot - well, okay. Let's go.
And now a man with all this unlived baggage wants something. Relationships, money, success, a destination to find (the latter in itself is alarming, but now is not about that). He wants to seemingly correctly, consciously, sets goals, plans. And then once - and got out a part of about five years old, who wants a mother (and is trying to get mother's attention through broken knees). And then another one - about four years old. Etc.
And now the goals are set, correct and conscious. A person does everything right, but for some reason there is no energy. Energy disappears somewhere, as if into a black hole.
And the man is an adult, smart, I suppose he read smart books, went to trainings. What does he care about some children's parts there. “What the hell,” he says. “I'm going to do business here, and you tell me about baby knees and mom. Some fools:)"
Metaphorically speaking, such a person is like a ship whose helmsman is constantly changing. Changes without schedule and sequence. As he wants and when he wants. And each helmsman floats to where he needs (and what they split off - what they want, they turn it back). A person resists (goals!), And the ship carries it all the time, often in the wrong place. It turns out such a struggle with oneself: a lot of energy goes away, and movement is either not there, or there, but too slowly and with obstacles.
It's hard and difficult to accept. That unlived feelings from the past want to be lived and try to manifest themselves through relationships, work, money, and even through an internal dialogue. And they draw attention to themselves (that is, energy).
Left a favor in the past - pay off (if you didn’t experience feelings - be kind, come back and live). It can be unpleasant to pay "debts" that you forgot or did not even know about (due to an early age). It even happens that to an adult, his own childish feelings seem more terrible than the most terrible horror. Anything can happen.
What can you do. You can work with this. Now there are so many directions for working on yourself that almost everything is possible. There would be a desire.
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