2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Pregnancy and childbirth. A long-awaited and joyful event. There are many expectations and perceptions around this. To say that having given birth to a child, a woman is faced with anxiety and fear, is to say nothing. Anxiety, fear … How easy it is to say, but how difficult it is to endure!
Even during pregnancy, a young woman may face the fact that relationships with loved ones have begun to change. And not always for the better. The expectant mother is tormented by doubts, assumptions, she listens to her body, her feelings … And others may not be interested, it is not clear … Why? Relatives do not seem to believe how hard it is to be pregnant: they say, everyone gives birth, and more than once.
Very often, a young mother is faced with the following questions:
-What is happening to me? Why don't I feel as intensely affectionate and affectionate as I expected?
- Why am I afraid of my child?
- Why am I so lonely? I feel an aching melancholy!
- Why is this happening to me? Am I a bad mother? Maybe I don't have maternal feelings?
-How I want to go to my mother now …
- I hate my husband, I can't see him !!!
- Why did I give birth? Maybe you shouldn't? What if I can't do it?
- God, how he (a) cries, it hurts me, I don't know what to do …
- I want to do everything for the child, I want to be the best. I will not make the mistakes that others make.
"Why does everyone around me think that I am a bad mother? Why are there so many claims to me?"
-Why does my husband / mom / dad not understand how hard it is for me now? How can I "reach out" to him (her)?
- My husband has become completely different … Probably our marriage will fall apart …
"Maybe you shouldn't have given birth? What to do now?"
-I will never give birth again!
- Here I will face the second / third and I will definitely not repeat these mistakes!
- For some reason, in the evenings I want to cry, or when I am left alone with the child.
-I have to love him, and I am so tired. I do not feel such love. I am tired to the point of irritation.
- You can't be angry with a child.
-I don't want intimacy …
- I don't want to be around people.
-I am afraid that God will punish me if I get angry because of the child, and then something terrible will happen …
- It's hard for me. It seems that being a mother is not for me.
-A good mother always wants to be with her child.
-I'm sick of the apartment, household chores, life is "frozen."
- I don't recognize my body. I hate it.
-If I follow all the recommendations, my child will be happy and healthy.
-In the first place is the child, then the husband, and then I.
-I must give all my strength to the child.
And many more painful thoughts, feelings, experiences … How hard it is at times to cope with this! Relatives and acquaintances, wanting to help, often only make things worse: “you have a child, a husband, why are you not happy? into such a swamp, from which only the strong hand of a specialist will help, or a Real Loved One, who can just be there, just listen and sympathize, will offer help (real! and not advice).
Dear mothers, seek advice from specialists! Your condition directly affects the condition of the child. He does not need the right mother, but just a happy one:)) Your life is now doubly valuable, because you gave life to another Person! And this Man will do everything possible to please you! Please him too - give him a happy mother and a happy childhood:))
I will be glad to help in matters of Motherhood!:))
Strength and joy, young Mom!:))
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